When to keep going or call it quiets?

Have you tried emailing, IM'ing, sending old fashioned letters? Or communicating through any social networking sites? (dare I say facebook, yuck)

I would write long emails every morning to my guy, and he'd send a short response. That's just how he is. But those emails meant very much to him.

oh and there is always texting. and webcam


many people hate the phone

i would try email's also. I hate talking on the phone. i would rather answer a email then make a phone call.

Well i have some experience in this. My wife lives very very far away in the land of Oz lol and im here in the middle of nowhere US. We have been in a relationship for over 2 yrs married for 7 months of it now. Phone is awful and just wont work you need to be comfortable when talking like your together. Headset mic and a program like Skype, Vent, MSN etc. Here is the problem with LDR there isn't ALWAYS stuff to talk about. See when there's silence, instead of getting paranoid maybe that's it that's all there was to say and you need to part one another. Paranoia is hell in this thing do not let it eat at you. Then you need to ask yourself a lot do you love this person for real this takes time you need to make sure. Best way we have found is ask a question and first thought that hits u know is your answer whether u want to hear it or not. See each other web cam is important you need to see this person sometimes at least once every other week. Can email and text daily its the easiest way to keep in touch and one of the most comfortable. Then my last piece of advise have a goal to be together if that's not there and or he is uncomfortable about the topic you need to slowly push it. If there is no goal what's the point? I know what your feeling girl trust me i know it well you two probably used to talk for ages and ran out of stuff to say were on daily together well quite frankly u really do just run out of crap to say to one another and it's best to say bye until next time and stop being paranoid it will eat you alive. I will say this again though goal to be together discuss frequently. If you know and feel he loves you back and wants to be with you ill say this again cause i know you need it stop being PARANOID!! Ahh one more thing play something together online games can burn time and be a very good distraction for you both unless you not in to that then i dunno what else to say.

I agree with those who suggested another means of communication, maybe he just isn't a phone guy? Try e-mail, texts, FB, whatever.

Not to freak you out, but if he is living in another state and just plain doesn't want to talk, he may have found someone else or be losing interest. If he doesn't get chattier over one of the other options, I would flat-out ask him if things are okay, and tell him that the lack of talk is bothering you. If he cares about keeping the relationship strong, he should be willing to at least try to meet a need you express. If not, cut your losses now.

We broke up 3 days before out year and 4 months ani.... :[