Who has been in a interracial relationship/has considered it?

Contributor: KnK KnK
I dated a black guy for a few months and it was a negative experience, not because he was black, just because this guy was a bumbling brute. I seriously dated that guy just because he was attractive. He wasn't so bright...
11/26/2010
Contributor: loveshocks loveshocks
My boyfriend's Caucasian while I'm of Chinese ethnicity. It's not much of an issue when we go out because that particular kind of pairing is pretty common around here (it gets more looks if it were say a Chinese guy with a Caucasian girl - I'm not sure why that is, but some people just think that's odd?).

I actually hide my relationship from my parents because my dad's racist and prejudice against all other races. He's actually spelled out a whole list of people I'm *not* allowed to date/marry/have children with. It's just a lot easier on me to not have to live with the negativity of constant insults towards someone I love, since I do still live at home with my parents.

I've never really looked at my boyfriend and thought "Ohhh, white guy!", I was and am never the type of person to judge someone by their looks, but I do judge others by their actions/personalities. I mean, he's super adorable, sweet and loving and he loves me for me. Whenever he expresses concerns over what my dad might think of him one day, I always remind him that he's dating *me* and not my father and that I love him. Helps calm him a bit every time.
12/02/2010
Contributor: southernhawtie southernhawtie
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Originally posted by Illusional
I was just wondering how people felt about interracial relationships across the board. I know you guys are open-minded people, but you never know.
interracial relationships are fine. I had one that went very well. Stay strong...dont let assholes persuade you to not date out of your own race.
12/02/2010
Contributor: Airekah Airekah
My Parents were the only reason my interracial relationship did not succeed.
12/03/2010
Contributor: Eliza Eliza
I've never been in an interracial relationship, but I wouldn't rule it out by any means. I've just never been in that situation.
12/06/2010
Contributor: Illusional Illusional
I'm currently watching my white male partner sleep. LOL

Fuck the haters, I love this man.

Long distance sucks, but I love the moments we're together.
12/08/2010
Contributor: Danielle1220 Danielle1220
I dated 2 puerto rican men before my husband. It was tough because my parents were totally against it. But I still dated who I wanted because I didn't see their race as being an issue. I like who I like, and if you have a problem with it, just don't look at us.
12/08/2010
Contributor: Liz2 Liz2
I dated a black man while in college. The disapproval I got was from black girls at the time. One girl finally told be the issue was that I was taking "one of theirs"
12/08/2010
Contributor: Illusional Illusional
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Originally posted by Liz2
I dated a black man while in college. The disapproval I got was from black girls at the time. One girl finally told be the issue was that I was taking "one of theirs"
I have that issue too.

Most black men ask him Why is he taking one of "their women?"

And I'm like... wtf
I am not pre-stamped to a black man
12/08/2010
Contributor: El-Jaro El-Jaro
Quote:
Originally posted by loveshocks
My boyfriend's Caucasian while I'm of Chinese ethnicity. It's not much of an issue when we go out because that particular kind of pairing is pretty common around here (it gets more looks if it were say a Chinese guy with a Caucasian girl ... more
I love how you're handling this! It gives me warm-fuzzies!
12/08/2010
Contributor: moonch1ld moonch1ld
Never really think about it. I'm actually most attracted to girls that are mixed races.
12/16/2010
Contributor: The Giveaway Diva The Giveaway Diva
Some of these stories are so sad! It's so sad that people can't be accepting and supportive!
01/05/2011
Contributor: clp clp
Brief relationship but everything was fine. Made no difference.
01/05/2011
Contributor: ana123 ana123
He is Filipino and I'm black (well really I'm mixed). He is adopted by a German couple so obviously race wouldn't have been an issue for his parents. My mom is half black and half Indian (from India) and my dad is half white half black. So interracial couples are not uncommon in my family. But no one in the family is Asian so he'll be the first. Me mum thinks he is beautiful and we'll have beautiful children. Honestly, race never mattered to me and as long as I don't date a Jamaican my parents don't care. But I will say that I am not usually attracted to black men, mostly whites and especially Asians.
01/06/2011
Contributor: RemusHalifax RemusHalifax
People are people. If I'm into someone, I'll date them. The color of their skin doesn't play much of a factor. I mean, I don't like most tan people, but that's a different story. xD
01/15/2011
Contributor: tits only tits only
All I ever dated was Black men.I will love to date another race.
01/23/2011
Contributor: Morganna Morganna
I'm not been in an interracial relationship but I wouldn't have ruled it out whenever I was single. I'm in a serious relationship now with the love of my life .
01/24/2011
Contributor: 34 34
i have been in a interracial relationship for 15 years my wife is vietnamese and i am Caucasian.
We married in vietnam ( i speak fluent viet).
Our families are never had a problem with a interracial relationship and it would not have mattered to me if they had.
What i have encounted while walking in the street in heavily vietnamese populated areas is young men saying shit like "Why are you giving yourself to a Caucasian man" in vietnamese and not as nice as i put it.
Usually i let it go as they don't know i understand what they are saying.
(My wife just laughs)
On occasion's though when it's not just a passing comment,say we are eating or in grocery store i will confront them in their language and they get very embarrassed and apologize.
Not yet have we had a person not in a group of 2 or more males make a comment like that.
Very rarely have i heard females say things like that.
I think most people who say things like that are jealous,racist and are just making comments for attention from peers not to mention total lack of respect.

As for the culture/religion difference i went to church (church of england) every sunday until i left home at 17 and partner is catholic, her parents wanted me to become a catholic so we could be married in a church, so i went to "school" lol and ended up giving the Father a english lesson, (because he was trying to brainwash me i say) his command of the english language was very poor and it was becoming tedious.
The father gave me two books to read and said after i read them two i could be Baptized, i never made it past the second page.
We had a civil marriage.
The culture difference was probably harder for her living in another country.

sorry for any bad grammar or headaches!
01/25/2011
Contributor: 34 34
Quote:
Originally posted by Illusional
My mom thinks I need a Good Strong Christian Black Man who is Stern to straighten me out.

She thinks mixing of the "Breeds" is wrong as well.
Good for the gene pool i say!
we have two kids 5Yr old girl and the boy turns 3 in march
01/25/2011
Contributor: firekitten firekitten
I'm white (actually IrishXCherokee but we'll stick with white for this) and my ex is black. I'm pretty sure if I met any of the women in his family they would have spit in my face or worse. They have called me blue eyed white devil (to which I told him my eyes are actually Green thank you), white trifilin whore, among other things. In fact, one of his aunts in particular hates me, apparently because I'm a single mother.

Honestly, their opinion means nothing to me. My Mother didn't approve either and said it was "disrespectful" to my family. I still didn't care. The problems with people approving was never an issue in our relationship. We broke up because he just can't grow up.
01/26/2011
Contributor: Illusional Illusional
Well, here's hoping 2011 is much more tolerant!
01/28/2011
Contributor: Miss Jenn Miss Jenn
Quote:
Originally posted by Illusional
I was just wondering how people felt about interracial relationships across the board. I know you guys are open-minded people, but you never know.
I am white. My husband is black. Theres not a problem with our families. We are all good here....
Im very open minded - and I get defensive about interracial relationships... I hate the stares we get sometimes - but i stare right back... AZ here is a mostly white/hispanic state. And the whites here mostly dont mix.. I dont see him as black. I see him as Chris. MY husband, and the best father to my hispanic child! LOL (from prev relationship).
02/12/2011
Contributor: A Closet Slut (aka nipplepeople) A Closet Slut (aka nipplepeople)
I have considered it - meaning that I have thought about it and I'm okay with it. I haven't actually had any chance to have one, because I live in a "mono-racial" territory (sorry if my wording is awkward - I don't really know how to put it).
02/15/2011
Contributor: Illusional Illusional
Quote:
Originally posted by Miss Jenn
I am white. My husband is black. Theres not a problem with our families. We are all good here....
Im very open minded - and I get defensive about interracial relationships... I hate the stares we get sometimes - but i stare right back... AZ here ... more
Awww! Kickass!
02/18/2011
Contributor: Loveless Loveless
First, I'll say that "small town, Texas" sucks. It's horrible here. I'm (very) white. My fiancee is black. His family sort of disowned him when they found out that we were together. My mom (my mom is mixed. White/Latin) was totally fine with it but was afraid of what my dad's reaction would be. My dad didn't speak to me for almost a year.

That was years ago. We'll be married in a few months and unless we're talking about race issues or if we're making fun of each other for it, or if I'm just admiring his skin, I hardly even notice that this is an interracial relationship.

It's always OTHER people causing problems in these sort of relationships. It shouldn't shake you at all if you're happy.
05/08/2011
Contributor: liilii080 liilii080
I was pursuing an interracial relationship until I got an e-mail from my employer (we worked for the same institution) announcing that congratulations were in order because he was going to be a Dad. And that was the first I'd heard of it. I was upset he didn't tell me sooner and lost that ability to trust. I never really thought much about the race thing though...we were just 2 people feeling each other out.
05/09/2011
Contributor: amandaco2011 amandaco2011
To me it doesn't really matter. One of my previous boyfriends was African American/Asian.
05/09/2011
Contributor: SexyStuff SexyStuff
I'm all about it! Forget the haters
05/09/2011
Contributor: K101 K101
Quote:
Originally posted by Illusional
I currently am in an interracial relationship and it's pretty dandy.
However, people treat us like crap. We've been together three years and it just seems to disgust people. Its kind of scary.

We had black males throw food at his ... more
Aw! That makes me sad to read that. I don't understand why people are SO extreme on that. I hate when people do that. It just shows that they can't find better things to do with their lives. They could be worrying about fixing something thats wrong in their heart instead of trying to worry about others who ARE happy. I am sorry yall have to deal with people like that.
05/09/2011
Contributor: K101 K101
I don't judge people on who they choose to be with & I try not to judge period. I don't think nothing of it when I see interracial couples. I don't understand how people could be disgusted over who others choose to be with. To me, I'm just happy to see a couple who loves each other no matter what their color is.

I've never dated out of my race and where I live there aren't many people of a different race (very small town) but my twin sister dated a boy who was both african american and white. She dated him for years. They met and got together in high school and he was a wonderful person. Nobody ever had rude or hurtful things to say about them being together.

I voted no I wouldn't date out of my race. That is because I'm in a relationship and have been for 5 years this month. I wouldn't consider dating anyone no matter what their race. If I were single though, I wouldn't just not date someone over their color. If he was a fit for me and he respected me and shared the same interests/similar beliefs, I would not write him off only because of his race. As long as I thought the person had those qualities that I like, I would give it a try.
05/09/2011