ME DEFINATELY!! My hubby is 52 and libido is getting lower. Really sucks for me.
I'm 11 years older than my wife. I've always had a higher sex drive - but lately it has been curtailed due to low T and ED (I'm 58+). Getting on HRT (testosterone) helped, but I still take cialis frequently.
We're now at a point where my sex drive and hers are more in line.
For you it may be a question of performance anxiety - make sure the health issues are resolved, then maybe things will get better.
The toys help as well. I sue them to make sure my wife has a couple of orgasms before I try. If I can it's great, if not at least she's not frustrated.
We're usually pretty similar but there are always ups & downs where we don't necessarily match up. If one of us is way up and the other is way down, we try oral or helping the other masturbate - and often that gets us both going.
Currently, my husband has. I'm 5 months pregnant and it's really killed my sex drive. It used to be the other way around.
OMG when I was pregnant, around 5-7 months along, I WOULD not leave my husband alone!! I was so horny. I think he actually avoided me sometimes, and he definitely groaned like "oh no, not again" more than once. We laugh about it now but it wasn't funny to me then! Hormones are powerful things!
In the past I had a much higher sex drive than my wife. Unfortunately with my age and ED, the playing field has evened out somewhat. Maybe I should rephrase that to "Fortunately for my wife, the playing field has evened out somewhat".