Who is more open to try new things in the bedroom? you or your partner?

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Who is more open to try new things in the bedroom? you or your partner?

Deidrenicole Deidrenicole
I am constantly trying to find new and exciting things to do and try in the bedroom to make our relationship more exciting. My boyfriend on the other hand is weirded out by it and doesn't understand why I wanna do these things. I just want to know if men or women are more likely to try to spice things up than the other and also if anyone else has the same issue.
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Me
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47  (61%)
Partner
scottg1986
1  (1%)
Both equally interested
wdanas , js250 , padmeamidala , lilly555 , Tagmstr , LovesAPoet , freda , indiglo , eggiweg , K101 , ellejay , potstickers , Xarien , Lacey- , The Majikat , Modern^Spank^Anthem , lovebites , Rraine , nikki0668 , AliMc , Missmarc , butts , EdenG , novanilla , Bignuf , SecretKinksters , shorejen9 , Cosmonaut , twelve13
29  (38%)
neither of us is interested
Total votes: 77
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Do-Re-Mi Do-Re-Mi
My boyfriend is really embarrassed by sex. Whenever I mentions anything he turns beet red and trys to shift the conversation even if he is interested in it. I usually try to explain why I want to try new things and start him off slowly with whatever I want to try. For example when I wanted to try light bondage play the first time I just had him keep has hands on the headboard rather than ties. Now I'm slowly introducing him to more advanced things. It can be really difficult for me cause I move into things FAST but he's like a sloth.

Just make sure to keep comunication open. Ask him if there's anything he wants to try or if he shoots down and idea of yours ask him why.
01/30/2012
unfulfilled unfulfilled
My husband doesn't get why I want to try things at all. If I buy lingerie he doesn't understand why I get so excited about it because to him it's "just clothes" I feel sexy when I wear it and that's all that matters to me.

For experimenting; he DID NOT like the idea of me trying sex toys at all and is still not comfortable with toys that can be inserted. So I buy toys that are either strictly clit vibe's or aren't shaped like a real penis. That leaves me with a lot that I can't try. He's even made the comment before about a rabbit I tried that real men can't rotate and spin like that.

With light bondage items, he's asked me why would I want to try this or that.
01/30/2012
Beck Beck
I want to be tied up, gagged, smacked around, made to do things (even though I'd be willing), banged so hard, and then some. However my partner is not interested in most of this. He just tells me it is not his nature. He told me to find a girlfriend who wants it.
01/30/2012
js250 js250
My husband was the one who introduced me to trying new things, toys and watching porn--and unfortunately for both of us, it took more time than it should have, but I am ON IT now!! And now we both keep coming up with new ideas, toys, and experiences. I had no idea our sex life could be so amazing, fun and naughty!! I am just as or a little bit more into it as he is, depends on what aspect we are into at the moment!!
01/30/2012
padmeamidala padmeamidala
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Originally posted by Deidrenicole
I am constantly trying to find new and exciting things to do and try in the bedroom to make our relationship more exciting. My boyfriend on the other hand is weirded out by it and doesn't understand why I wanna do these things. I just want to ...
Both
01/30/2012
Graniteal Graniteal
I want to try most everything, my partner though is not quite as enthusiastic about it as I am
01/30/2012
dbm6907 dbm6907
I am more into introducing new toys and whatnot into the bedroom to my fiance, who is more "old fashioned"
01/30/2012
Hallmar82 Hallmar82
I love to do new things in bed but my wife takes a little more coaxing on some things.
01/30/2012
Swish Swish
I love bringing in new toys or styles or things, but my partner although interested doesn't really push for it, he is good with anything, he would never pull out the toys, and wouldn't incorporate them unless I did.
01/31/2012
freda freda
both
01/31/2012
indiglo indiglo
We both are. I am really thankful for that!
01/31/2012
Liz2 Liz2
Very rarely does my partner suggest something new but he is usually a willing participant to my "crazy" ideas.
01/31/2012
KyotoAngel KyotoAngel
Quote:
Originally posted by Deidrenicole
I am constantly trying to find new and exciting things to do and try in the bedroom to make our relationship more exciting. My boyfriend on the other hand is weirded out by it and doesn't understand why I wanna do these things. I just want to ...
He's a bit on the shy side so if anything new is going to be tried there's an 80% chance I'll have to be the one introducing it.
Now and then he gets some pretty wild ideas though. =^.^=
02/01/2012
Deidrenicole Deidrenicole
Quote:
Originally posted by Do-Re-Mi
My boyfriend is really embarrassed by sex. Whenever I mentions anything he turns beet red and trys to shift the conversation even if he is interested in it. I usually try to explain why I want to try new things and start him off slowly with whatever ...
see I have the same problem i told him i wanted to get a light bondage kit for me! and maybe a paddle and that he wouldnt have to hit me hard but he gets all weird and even seems like hes grossed out
02/01/2012
Deidrenicole Deidrenicole
Quote:
Originally posted by unfulfilled
My husband doesn't get why I want to try things at all. If I buy lingerie he doesn't understand why I get so excited about it because to him it's "just clothes" I feel sexy when I wear it and that's all that matters to me. ...
sooo frustrating right? mine doesnt get mad he just doesnt act happy when i do it alone without him but he wont try things when i do get him involved!
02/01/2012
Deidrenicole Deidrenicole
Quote:
Originally posted by Beck
I want to be tied up, gagged, smacked around, made to do things (even though I'd be willing), banged so hard, and then some. However my partner is not interested in most of this. He just tells me it is not his nature. He told me to find a ...
see i wanted to get a paddle but he said it isnt his nature to hit girls and im like not hard just a light smack on the ass come on! ha ha
02/01/2012
Do-Re-Mi Do-Re-Mi
Quote:
Originally posted by Deidrenicole
see I have the same problem i told him i wanted to get a light bondage kit for me! and maybe a paddle and that he wouldnt have to hit me hard but he gets all weird and even seems like hes grossed out
I know exactly what you mean. Try something small like I did. Maybe when your in the moment just start having him put his hands on your butt. Just make sure to keep communication open. It can take awhile to get them to try something new but once they do it's worth it
02/01/2012
Deidrenicole Deidrenicole
Quote:
Originally posted by Do-Re-Mi
I know exactly what you mean. Try something small like I did. Maybe when your in the moment just start having him put his hands on your butt. Just make sure to keep communication open. It can take awhile to get them to try something new but once they ...
he will spank me with his hand, not as hard as i would like but still... i just dont understand why a paddle is so scary to him but ill keep trying
02/01/2012
scottg1986 scottg1986
she enjoys trying new things
02/03/2012
Undead Undead
Quote:
Originally posted by Deidrenicole
I am constantly trying to find new and exciting things to do and try in the bedroom to make our relationship more exciting. My boyfriend on the other hand is weirded out by it and doesn't understand why I wanna do these things. I just want to ...
I am, I got her to consider using toys, now she owns a good bit!
02/06/2012
bsgs bsgs
she is willing to try new things, but she is really shy about talking about sex in general. i am almost always the person to bring stuff up, or ill just do things and go off her reaction as to whether or not she likes it
02/06/2012
EnterTheFist EnterTheFist
I'm usually the one to suggest new ideas/toys/lingerie, etc. but my girlfriend is usually down for whatever and she comes up with some pretty awesome stuff, too.
02/06/2012
SexyRayne SexyRayne
Its all me, i think the only way i could even get him to notiv=ce i want to try new things is dress as slave Leia and then talk to him. Maybe if i did that and told him he had to listen or no sex with slave leia hed listen......sad but true.
02/06/2012
AHubbyof2SexualMinds AHubbyof2SexualMinds
I'm the one who's usually pushing the envelope forward. The wife is pretty open-minded, but isn't the one thinking of new things.
02/06/2012
oneeyedoctopus oneeyedoctopus
My boyfriend isn't really interested in trying anything new, but he's open to trying new things if I am interested.
02/06/2012
LAndJ LAndJ
My boyfriend is willing to try new things, but he doesn't really care. He thinks things are fine how they are. I see it as things are always the same.
02/06/2012
Cassienova Cassienova
My boyfriend of 4 years has never had much of a sex drive yet alone the desire to try new things. It's something that's really pulling us a part. He seems so closed off to anything other than missionary or receiving oral. If I do introduce something new, it seems like he'd rather be doing something else. He says he's just never been into sex. Reading some of these other comments gives me hope though!
02/06/2012
ellejay ellejay
We both love trying new things. Sometimes one of us is more creative than the other though.
02/06/2012
Harpina is gone Harpina is gone
Definitely me. My man does enjoy using toys on me and other things that I want to try (that involve doing things to me), but he won't let me use things on him or try things that involve doing things to him (that he's not used to).
11/05/2012
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