Would you consider cheating on a long term relationship?

Hummingbird Hummingbird
I've been married over 25 years now and 8 years younger than my spouse. He's not as "forthcoming" in sex any more but I am more so. Would cheating on my spouse be justifiable so I wouldn't crank at him. It isn't his fault he's no longer as horny as I but I need satisfaction to be pleasured and fully appreciated. I need to know I turn someone on.. What would you do?
01/12/2013
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edeneve edeneve
use couples toys, especially those for men & use toys that you enjoy while he watches.
01/12/2013
MsDrProfKitty MsDrProfKitty
Talk to him!
If you're not having your needs met it is super important to try and fix it WITH him. Talk to him about doing what Edeneve suggests above. Some guys are also into Open relationships.
Cheating on him to get what you want will only hurt him and damage the relationship. Though if you feel cheating is an option then maybe you should do some soul searching about whether you really want this relationship to go on or not.
01/12/2013
js250 js250
Cheating is a lot of work!! The feelings you get for yourself after the rush from the emotional boost are guilt, shame and disgust. Then when you get caught--and you will!!--you will hurt more people then you realize and will lose many friends you thought were the 'thick and thin' friendships. It also makes more sense to fix your relationship since it is not as difficult and hopeless as it seems sometimes.

For an ego boost, try dressing up and see how many looks, etc. you get. Just do not cross the line and cheat or so anything you would not want your hubby to do.

I wrote an article about my relationship and on being the other woman. Read the article and then honestly answer those questions....
link
01/12/2013
deltalima deltalima
Quote:
Originally posted by Hummingbird
I've been married over 25 years now and 8 years younger than my spouse. He's not as "forthcoming" in sex any more but I am more so. Would cheating on my spouse be justifiable so I wouldn't crank at him. It isn't his fault ... More
No. But I haven't been in a long term relationship so I can't be sure. I might be tempted.
01/13/2013
married with children married with children
I would never cheat on my partner, no mater what the problem is. I would work at fixing the problem and making your relationship right.
01/13/2013
Hummingbird Hummingbird
Quote:
Originally posted by js250
Cheating is a lot of work!! The feelings you get for yourself after the rush from the emotional boost are guilt, shame and disgust. Then when you get caught--and you will!!--you will hurt more people then you realize and will lose many friends you ... More
Read your story, it made me stop and think about what I was asking. You see, I have no excuse, not than an excuse is a reason to cheat, but I have none. My hubby is kind, considerate, thoughtful, helpful everything every woman ever dreamed of wanted. He is a good, kind, honest & sincere man, always there for me.

I guess over the past year with all the changes and self-improvements I been doing for my self, I've just wanted more. Believe me, my ego doesn't need anymore boosting, I'm feeling better than I ever have which in itself causes a small problem. Men look and react to me much differently, less conflicting and more agreeable. Even lately one reaches out and touches my shoulder or arm and I feel a small spark.

Fortunately though the opportunity would never happen (for reasons I don't wish to mention here), and after reading your article I couldn't betray him that way, he doesn't deserve it. I am already racked with too much guilt over my life for doing the right thing all the time. Doing something wrong will only make me loose the self-esteemed I've finally gained.

Thank you
01/13/2013
nova2014 nova2014
Quote:
Originally posted by Hummingbird
I've been married over 25 years now and 8 years younger than my spouse. He's not as "forthcoming" in sex any more but I am more so. Would cheating on my spouse be justifiable so I wouldn't crank at him. It isn't his fault ... More
I would never cheat no matter how long the relationship has been. Just talk to him about bringing some more action into the bedroom.
01/17/2013
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