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Well see, my girlfriend is really tight, and it hurts her when I fuck her. Do you know of anything that could help... loosen her?
05/01/2008
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Quote:
Originally posted by Me&Me
Well see, my girlfriend is really tight, and it hurts her when I fuck her. Do you know of anything that could help... loosen her?
When a woman "gets ready", the vagina produces lubrication and opens up a little. A lot of gents, like yourself, experience difficult intercourse because, while the woman may feel mentally ready, the body hasn't been given enough time to prepare.
I would advise you spend awhile on foreplay the next time you two are together, and see if anything changes.
It might also help to get a good water-based lubricant and maybe a clitoral stimulator so she can relax into the sex act without subconsciously tightening herself up.
05/01/2008
Essin' Em Essin' Em
If this is a concern for her, she might try masturbating with various sized vibrators/dildos to help her get accustomed to a larger size.

Also, different positions can help. Try her on her back with her knees to her chest; sometimes that can help lengthen and slightly balloon the vaginal canal.
05/05/2008
Nashville Nashville
Foreplay and lots of it. Even if she's "wet" she may still be mentally unprepared. There are times with my husband where my body is rearing to go but I'm not, while my loins may respond, if I'm not in the mood than I'm not in the mood.

Foreplay can help open her body up and prepare her for sex. Watching porn together with included touching is a great way to relax before the big game. Taking things slowly and using lots of lubrication can work too. Make sure she's always comfortable. Try different positions, spooning is a favorite of mine because it allows my husband and I to remain close but it's also really relaxing.

Just take your time and enjoy yourselves in the process.
05/13/2008
Oggins Oggins
Heck! It's uncomfortable for me if I haven't been "warmed" properly! I totally agree with the previous posts! I also highly recommend a clitoral stimulator and lube. You should go slowly at first too just to get the juices flowing better. It's something that shouldn't be rushed.
06/07/2008
TexasBrat TexasBrat
LUBE LUBE LUBE! There is NOTHING wrong with using lubes to help with these sorts of situations. It doesn't mean someone is a failure in the bedroom, or that they don't get excited enough from their lover. Women go thru hormonal changes every single month, that can mess with their ability to self-lubricate. So can any medications (including birth control methods) that the woman may be taking. Get some good, quality water-based lube (safe for all toys and condoms) to have on hand. The more wet a woman is, the better the experience for both!
06/29/2008
Angelina fan Angelina fan
Don't feel bad, I have had a baby and I am still uncomfortable some times. However I have noticed that lube can take care of this. I have a hard time getting relaxed, maybe give her a massage with some nice oil and see where it leads. I have also fould that doggy style gives me more control over depth of penitration and is more comfortable in general.
07/06/2008
Beautiful Dreamer Beautiful Dreamer
Lubrication. I can't stress this enough.

Because of a lovely medical history, my vagina tends to be uncooperative. I'll be ready, and it's... well... not. Make sure you reassure her that you want her to feel comfortable. That was my biggest problem with new guys, I felt broken when I went to grab my lube and some of them made me feel like I was.
If it's really a problem, it helps when my boyfriend starts penetration extremely slowly. I know it's sometimes agonizing for him to have to go so slow, but it really helps me get ready and also to have the lubricant get everywhere it needs to be. Good luck!!
08/11/2008
Josmoseph Josmoseph
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Originally posted by Me&Me
Well see, my girlfriend is really tight, and it hurts her when I fuck her. Do you know of anything that could help... loosen her?
Spend more time getting ready. allow her to put you in her and not you. When she is ready. she will take your cock in her hand and thrust it in her waiting pussy.
05/08/2009
Jessica Elizabeth Jessica Elizabeth
Lubrication and LOTS of foreplay.
05/14/2009
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