Have you ever been in a polyamorous relationship or wanted one?

Kush Kush
why not?
01/14/2012
SexyStuff SexyStuff
Yes! My hubby has no time for me these days. I think I could juggle two relationships as I have lots of time.
01/15/2012
Katsmeow Katsmeow
I have seen poly relationships work very but they take a lot of work on everyone's part. I have multiple friends in poly homes but they have good communication and go to poly support groups.
01/15/2012
thisisadeletedaccount thisisadeletedaccount
Yep! I am in a poly triad at the moment, and I very much enjoy being in this sort of relationship.
05/30/2012
KrissyNovacaine KrissyNovacaine
I am a woman dating two men. Previously I have had an additional partner to my fiance twice. I think that everyone has to figure out what works for them. I know many people that aren't suited for poly, but I know many that aren't suited to monogamy.
05/30/2012
MsChessnudt MsChessnudt
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Originally posted by callsignhusker
Have you ever been in a polyamorous relationship or wanted one?
I was in a poly relationship as a non-primary; we saw each other a few times a month and I was not connected with his primary or nons. It went on for two years and I had multiple partners, too. It was easy, everyone was aware of the dynamic but we chose not to mix it up, if you will.

Now I'm married and my husband and I have what is commonly known as a "unicorn," (the origin of said honorific I won't pretend to get - I think it's silly, but for the purpose of discussion...yada;-) and it's lots of fun but it's work. Essentially: We have a common girlfriend who we are both involved with and with whom we sometimes have threesomes. Those are the hardest: Someone always winds up with the lion's share of the affection and it can be a struggle to remain objective. We try to practice [b][i]compersion[/b][/i], which is more or less an exercise in being happy with one's partner's pleasure without feeling as if it subtracts from your own...it can be tough, there are moments of difficulty, but we all love each other and find the work worthwhile.
09/04/2012
misty82 misty82
never
09/05/2012
smlove smlove
When my wife and I got together, she told me she was polyamorous. I had heard that word before and thought it was an interesting concept, but not practical in our world. However, all I needed was her to make that equation work. We date other people together and it makes our love and our love for these people stronger and more beautiful.
It's not for everybody. No one thing works for every person alive, so it's silly to think that we're all wired one way or the other.
09/07/2012
Gdom Gdom
Nope, it's not for me.
09/07/2012
geekkink geekkink
Love being poly
09/07/2012
PinkySt PinkySt
Wanted one for awhile now, we haven't had any luck in starting one in the past 2 years though :_:

It makes me wonder when i see all these other poly folks going through partners left and right >_>
09/07/2012
Mistress Dragon Mistress Dragon
My husband and I have talked about starting a poly relationship for a little while now. He thinks that it would make the house a happier place in some ways. I know that there is way more to this than just sleeping with someone, you become a family and help, cry, laugh, pay and anything thing else that a family does together. My husband wants this to make me happy with sex because of having trouble after a stroke, I would love to try it but will take a lot of work to find the right person and then for us all to get along and able to be a family. We are very happy with each other in every way in our relationship, I think it will make it a better place, he is more worried about the sex than any other part of it.
I know that there will be a lot of people post on this one and that is cool. I know that SEX is NOT all there is to work on, it is also just like any other relationship and takes lots of work to make it work right.
09/08/2012
subtyrant subtyrant
I currently have a fiance (we consider ourselves married, but haven't gone through with the legal dealings for personal reasons) and a Dom (friends with multiple benefits ;-D)

The hubby and I have had a couple ffm threesomes with friends in the past, but this would be the first time in our relationship that there was a secondary relationship, involving only one of us. It was a shaky start, but he's been really accepting of this and we work through the tough feelings as best we can, which isn't always graceful or pretty.

I had the advantage of starting my solo mission before he did, so when he found someone to spend some extra-curricular time with, I could handle my jealousy and insecurities much better.
And once he did begin his other relationship, his own doubts and such were squashed.

For me, the relationship with my Dom in no way lessened or changed the feelings I have for my husband. And he saw the same reality for himself when he started dating.

My opinion so far is that poly is pretty awesome...now if I can convince the hubby for a mfm threeway, I'd be set! Hey, I'm not too proud to say I'd like to lay back and have a couple of people taking care of me sexually ;-P.
09/15/2012
ImaGodiva ImaGodiva
No, monogamy is important to me. But I don't have anything against it for others, if you're interested, try it!
10/22/2012
travelnurse travelnurse
It actually sounds quite nice!
10/22/2012
buttcleavage buttcleavage
I've wanted one.
10/27/2012
closed account closed account
i have and i would again. it was a horrible experience, but that's because it wasn't a good fit and there was a lot of drama. i would be very cautious before trying it again. it would be important to me that they have experience, i don't have the patience to be someones experiment or their attempt to spice things up.

i also have trouble with the concept of "secondary" once things are serious and commitments have been made. i just don't think like that. i also don't understand when someone doesnt feel compersion. whether sexual or emotional happiness...i love seeing that on someones face. i enjoy seeing people in love and feeling joy.
11/04/2012
candice8284 candice8284
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Originally posted by callsignhusker
Have you ever been in a polyamorous relationship or wanted one?
I am actually starting one now. I am very excited.
11/14/2012
hmb12 hmb12
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Originally posted by CreamySweet
About 5 or 6 years ago my husband and I were in an adult toy shop in Reno. The girl at the counter said that if we were looking for something fun to do that we should go check out a local bar that turns into a swingers club a couple nights a week. ... More
This is really interesting and hot to read. Sounds like a good thing to think about, but for me I don't see myself ever being in that situation.
11/20/2012
hmb12 hmb12
My bisexual male roomate and I joke that he, my boyfriend, and I are polyamorous, but we could never really do it. He's more intrested in my boyfriend than he is in me anyway.
11/20/2012
TransGuy14 TransGuy14
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Originally posted by callsignhusker
Have you ever been in a polyamorous relationship or wanted one?
Not currently, but I would like to be.
11/21/2012
TransGuy14 TransGuy14
I am not currently, but I would like to be.
11/22/2012
candice8284 candice8284
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Originally posted by callsignhusker
Have you ever been in a polyamorous relationship or wanted one?
I am really considering one with my friend and her bf, but it is starting really slow.
11/23/2012
vanillaSpice vanillaSpice
I've been in one where my boyfriend at the time was dating another woman. It didn't work out because he was really just using polyamory as an excuse to "cheat" in a sanctioned way. :/
11/23/2012
pixiedustVixen pixiedustVixen
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Originally posted by callsignhusker
Have you ever been in a polyamorous relationship or wanted one?
i have been in one and its awkward we are all still friends but if jealousy isnt an issue thaan your ok. thats my dealbreaker u have to treat everyone the same and not favor one over another than its just cheating i think... for me i wont deal with it... of course hubby loved it but i was getting the short end of the stick and it got ugly really fast so be careful if u try this
04/17/2013
pixiedustVixen pixiedustVixen
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Originally posted by callsignhusker
Have you ever been in a polyamorous relationship or wanted one?
however i would love to date 2 guys lmao that would be great
04/17/2013
JDear JDear
I once joined a couples relationship. They had always wanted to be polyamorous and had never found someone who could handle it. It went well for a while but what they really needed was someone to take care of them. I'm no one's mother.
04/17/2013
Pandora'sBox Pandora'sBox
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Originally posted by kimscucky
I found out my wife had cuckolded me with a man 10 years younger than her about 3 years ago and she continues the relationship telling me she will not stop. She actually told me my little dick does nothing for her and she deserves a real man's ... More
Dude...that's not polyamory, your wife cheated on you and then BLAMED THE CHEATING ON YOU and made you feel bad about it.

:/ That's not the way polyamorous relationships are supposed to be. It's supposed to be a relationship where all parties involved are mutually happy. It sounds more like she cheated on you, wanted to keep doing it, and then you just submitted.
04/26/2013
Pandora'sBox Pandora'sBox
My husband and I currently have a closed marriage, but we have been thinking about trying a threesome. We decided we want to do it, but the person we asked is still thinking about it. So we're just waiting on word from him.

We're not sure about an open marriage though. The person we asked about a threesome is someone who I care about a lot. I do have some feelings for him, but if he has other partners or girlfriends, it doesn't bother me at all.

But if my husband were to have another girlfriend, it does bug me. Hypocritical, I know, but that's why we're looking into just experimentation rather than an ongoing poly relationship.
04/26/2013
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
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Originally posted by Pandora'sBox
Dude...that's not polyamory, your wife cheated on you and then BLAMED THE CHEATING ON YOU and made you feel bad about it.

:/ That's not the way polyamorous relationships are supposed to be. It's supposed to be a relationship where ... More
No but that is the very definition of a cuckolding relationship! Like BDSM these sorts of relationships are hard to understand the appeal of unless you are involved in them. They are polyamory by definition because the relationship is quite often very loving and can be rather permanent. Humiliation play is quite exciting for some otherwise very incharge type men.
Describing these sorts of relationships can make it seem like the partner is cruel and sadistic but the reality is that the cuckolded partner is usually very turned on by the whole event.
04/28/2013
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