Anyone in a 'Group Marriage'

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Anyone in a 'Group Marriage'

LilMissSub LilMissSub
I have a friend who has a serious committed relationship between a man and a woman(Both women being bisexual). They raise two children together and they have the most amazingly loving family bond I've ever seen.

I'm wondering if anyone else is in this relationship set up. My fiance and I personally would love it(We ourselves have a son), but it's such an uncommon thing so it's tough to find real experience in it. I've always been attracted to women, the fiance was a very unusual exception.

What are your thoughts on it(If you're in one or not)?

What do you think it's effects on a family are?

Would you be interested in it yourself and why?
11/10/2011
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Alan & Michele Alan & Michele
There are several people on Eden who are in poly relationships or varying types.

"What are your thoughts on it(If you're in one or not)?":

My personal feeling is that those relationships are destined to fail UNLESS all 3 people honestly love each other. And not necessarily in a sexual way since not all poly relationships involve all 3 partners bedding each other. Love doesn't just happen when you want it to though, so I think a lot of people who jump into poly relationships are in it for the wrong reasons. Sex, usually, and if that's the case then they'd be better off exploring an open relationship with regular recreational threesomes.

"What do you think it's effects on a family are?":

If it's a solid poly relationship, then I think everyone in the family benefits from it in many ways.

"Would you be interested in it yourself and why?":

Alan & I had many discussions about this over the past year or so and are open to the idea, but are not currently in one ourselves. The reason we're open to it is because it simply wouldn't make any sense to walk away from anyone that we mutually felt we couldn't be happy living without, just to appease other peoples' ideas of what's right.
11/11/2011
LilMissSub LilMissSub
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Originally posted by Alan & Michele
There are several people on Eden who are in poly relationships or varying types.

"What are your thoughts on it(If you're in one or not)?":

My personal feeling is that those relationships are destined to fail UNLESS all 3 ...
I completely agree with you on the not forcing it and the mutual feelings of love being involved in a long term relationship between multiple people. Also, that last sentence was a very heavily touching one.

It seems like it would be an ideal thing for us if it ever ends up happening. We'll hope for it even if it's possible it won't happen.

Thanks for your feed back and input. <3
11/11/2011
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
Quote:
Originally posted by Alan & Michele
There are several people on Eden who are in poly relationships or varying types.

"What are your thoughts on it(If you're in one or not)?":

My personal feeling is that those relationships are destined to fail UNLESS all 3 ...
Well said! It's not easy to balance the needs of two people in a relationship and adding another to the mix will stress any relationship especially if the principles in the relationship don't exactly HAVE a relationship! Oddly enough my guys have bonded over our son and then over the girls this summer. The thing is they have always had a relationship as Arch knew coming into this thing that we came as a unit...and then he became part of that unit.
That's why it works for us, I think. You have to be aware that this third person has goals, desires and selfish needs as well as you do as a couple. If you acknowledge that and make space for that then it can be the most amazing thing if you don't it can ruin everything.
11/11/2011
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
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Originally posted by LilMissSub
I completely agree with you on the not forcing it and the mutual feelings of love being involved in a long term relationship between multiple people. Also, that last sentence was a very heavily touching one.

It seems like it would be an ideal ...
Honestly that's the best way to be...be open to the idea and then let happen what happens rather than trying to force something. Keep building the relationship you have while you contemplate the relationship you might have in the future. You want a potential partner to be welcomed into a strong and loving relationship, that way the odds are he/she won't be left feeling like a homewrecker!
11/11/2011
badk1tty badk1tty
Nope, not this gal.
11/18/2011
Willow Wand Willow Wand
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Originally posted by LilMissSub
I have a friend who has a serious committed relationship between a man and a woman(Both women being bisexual). They raise two children together and they have the most amazingly loving family bond I've ever seen.

I'm wondering if anyone ...
This is called a unicorn. We are ALL hoping for this, but it is SUPER rare, lol. I would LOVE to though!
11/23/2011
LilLostLenore LilLostLenore
Threesomes are always fun but i wouldnt marry 2 people.
11/30/2011
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