Are you Familiar with Polyamory?

Contributor: freda freda
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Originally posted by Serendipity
From Wikipedia - "Polyamory (from Greek p??? [poly, meaning many or several] and Latin amor [love]) is the practice, desire, or acceptance of having more than one intimate relationship at a time with the knowledge and consent of everyone ... more
I think polyamory is similar to open relationships.
02/22/2012
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
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Originally posted by freda
I think polyamory is similar to open relationships.
In what way? There are poly relationships that are open relationships and people that argue that in order to be poly you need an open relationship and others that argue that you can have a closed but poly relationship.
What is your take?
02/27/2012
Contributor: curious kitten curious kitten
NO! One love, one partner, I am not into open relationships.
03/12/2012
Contributor: sneako sneako
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Originally posted by Serendipity
From Wikipedia - "Polyamory (from Greek p??? [poly, meaning many or several] and Latin amor [love]) is the practice, desire, or acceptance of having more than one intimate relationship at a time with the knowledge and consent of everyone ... more
I'd consider it
03/23/2012
Contributor: sweetiejo sweetiejo
I'm not polyamourous, but I think it is wrong for any one to truly judge another person based off of this. They have the right to do anything they like in a relationship without having it criticized. I am a bit selfish and like my boyfriends attention to be all on me , and not another women or ma, so that would be why I don't partake in this type of lifestyle, but it is also wrong to judge another if they and whomever else they are involved with are happy why be critical and rude about it.
07/07/2012
Contributor: kawigrl kawigrl
poly can mean a lot of different things, people that i've meet that are poly sometimes describe it differently
07/07/2012
Contributor: geekkink geekkink
The last two are the right answer, maybe a little bit of the first one. I'm sad a lot of people that post in the poly board seem to think it just means swinging. Look if I get married to a woman I can't call our marriage a gay marriage. People gotta use the terms that fit, not just decide what ever they think sounds better. If your a swinger, be a swinger. If your in an open relationship do that.
08/16/2012
Contributor: LadyDarknezz LadyDarknezz
I'm trying to learn more about it because the Dom that I am currently speaking with is polyamorous and well, I'm not...I think? I really like him, but I'm not sure how I feel about polyamory right now. I've never had an opinion about it and never thought I'd be confronted with it.
08/16/2012
Contributor: Missmarc Missmarc
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Originally posted by Serendipity
From Wikipedia - "Polyamory (from Greek p??? [poly, meaning many or several] and Latin amor [love]) is the practice, desire, or acceptance of having more than one intimate relationship at a time with the knowledge and consent of everyone ... more
I think polyamory is alot about communication in relationships.
10/12/2012
Contributor: amnip amnip
Polyamory to me is beautiful and complicated. I think where the confusion and negativity comes is in the thought that having more than one partner means that the other(s) exist in the relationship in order to fulfill needs that the "primary" partner(s) cannot.
10/24/2012
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
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Originally posted by amnip
Polyamory to me is beautiful and complicated. I think where the confusion and negativity comes is in the thought that having more than one partner means that the other(s) exist in the relationship in order to fulfill needs that the ... more
That is a large part of the problem I will agree. The thing is my partner doesn't fulfill any needs that my husband can't or won't. He is just more...abundance in it's truest form. I am everything my husband will ever need, except the ability to be free to say yes to someone who might want to have sex with him. Role play only goes so far and he is happiest when he has the "right" to say yes, even though most of the time he doesn't.
10/25/2012
Contributor: tami tami
It is not something I would do or enter into a relationship with some one that wants more than one partner...but to each his/her own. I think that my husband is my husband not 4 other peoples or however many. I believe in one on one and no one else in the mix
10/25/2012
Contributor: tami tami
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Originally posted by Serendipity
I am polyamorous and have been for the majority of my life since I began having intimate relationships.

In my late teen years I was not familiar with the term poly, but knew that I was not interested in being monogamous. I enjoyed dating more ... more
If I may ask...is there ever any jealousy? do you ever feel jealous or left out or like someone else is more important? I am not trying to be disrespectful I am just curious.
10/25/2012
Contributor: sexfairy sexfairy
I'd say that I'm not...
10/25/2012
Contributor: TransGuy14 TransGuy14
I think poly means different things to different people. Communication is key, and setting boundaries is incredibly important. So it may just be sex, just be dating, or becoming fully committed to other partners. Just depends on the people involved
11/21/2012
Contributor: MacNCheese MacNCheese
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Originally posted by Serendipity
From Wikipedia - "Polyamory (from Greek p??? [poly, meaning many or several] and Latin amor [love]) is the practice, desire, or acceptance of having more than one intimate relationship at a time with the knowledge and consent of everyone ... more
Love it.
12/01/2012
Contributor: Meltingfish Meltingfish
I am currently in a polyamorous relationship with one man, my fiance, and one woman. It's an open relationship, with all parties allowed to see other people, and it's still somewhat casual with the woman. It's a new relationship, we're still getting used to it, but as far as I can tell we're all happy with it.
12/12/2012
Contributor: sunkissedJess sunkissedJess
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Originally posted by tami
If I may ask...is there ever any jealousy? do you ever feel jealous or left out or like someone else is more important? I am not trying to be disrespectful I am just curious.
I don't know a whole lot about being Poly, but I do watch a TV show about it and I really like it. From everything that I've watched on the show, jealousy does seem to be an issue and some people do start to feel left out. It's important for everyone in the relationship to make rules, follow them, and communicate with one another when they're feeling some kind of way.

I think I'm too jealous of a person to be in a Poly relationship, but I will admit that this TV show that I watched had me questioning myself if I was Poly.
12/12/2012
Contributor: Martiniman Martiniman
I know what it is.
01/12/2013
Contributor: Bleu Bleu
I think it's the same thing as an open relationship with a fancy word attached to it.

Like an open relationship, it requires a lot of communication but I don't think they are made to really work out well. While humans/animals are prone to want more than one partner, having multiple relationships with multiple people doesn't seem like it'll work.
01/12/2013
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
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Originally posted by Bleu
I think it's the same thing as an open relationship with a fancy word attached to it.

Like an open relationship, it requires a lot of communication but I don't think they are made to really work out well. While humans/animals are ... more
I'll keep that in mind as I move through my life completely satisfied and happy with my multiple partners. Many different things work for many different people blanket statements will never fit the majority of the cold toes.

Also a poly relationship can be the exact opposite of an open relationship...they can be as closed as any monogamous relationship. Also there are more non-pair bonded species in Nature than there are pair bonded ones and it seems to work just fine for the species involved. Humans have always had multiple partners the idea of the nuclear family is a relatively new concept in the grand scheme of things. Since we are still the dominant species in the world I would have to say that the multiple partner relationship model works just fine. I simply think it's time we openly admit to liking this lifestyle rather than hiding behind serial monogamy and cheating.

Monogamy works for some people and polyamory works for others. it's just that simple.
01/14/2013
Contributor: bettyboom bettyboom
I'm not personally in a poly relationship, but the lifestyle of polyamory has always been fascinating to me!
03/16/2013
Contributor: xgreatlovex xgreatlovex
so I'm a little confused, polyamory is bieng able to carry on multiple sexual relationships or more so taking on multiple spouses?
05/13/2013
Contributor: SydneyScreams SydneyScreams
I'm poly/open.

I tend to date several people at once, though not always having sex...more just the emotional connection.

I like it because it tends to be difficult for one person to fulfill all my wants/needs, and different people bring different things to the table so to speak.
05/13/2013
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
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Originally posted by xgreatlovex
so I'm a little confused, polyamory is bieng able to carry on multiple sexual relationships or more so taking on multiple spouses?
Yes and yes...It can be both of those things though with the sexual relationships there is more commitment and development of relationship other than sex involved. It is about loving many and balancing many loves. It need not include marriage but often does, and there is sometimes an element of swinging involved.
06/16/2013
Contributor: HannahPanda HannahPanda
I think it's similar and different at the same time. I'm monogamous, though.
06/16/2013
Contributor: edeneve edeneve
I have never heard of polyamory, have never heard about it much until reading this post.
06/16/2013
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
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Originally posted by edeneve
I have never heard of polyamory, have never heard about it much until reading this post.
Sure you have! Husband, wife and mistress relationships wherein everyone knows what is going on is common in literature, tv shows and movies. It was common throughout history and anyone attending public school knows that royal person's had mistresses, and male lovers. Also it's in all religious traditions. The idea of multiple acknowledged partnerships is not a new thing...it's as old as humankind.

Calling it polyamory is new the practice is most definitely not.
06/18/2013
Contributor: Lavendar Lavendar
I think it is all about communication and trust.
06/18/2013
Contributor: Beautiful-Disaster Beautiful-Disaster
I don't really know a lot bout that type of relationship.. I just know theres a lot of sex involved.
06/18/2013