My husband and i are in a poly group of 8 people. His girlfriend and him have been together for 3 months and my boyfriend and i have been in a relationship for 18 months. i ask my husband to tell me whats going on in his relationship. for example, how he feels about her, hows its progressing etc. I do this because i feel this way i will never be hit by an emotional brick in the face. there were times in the past when i was emotional hurt because he would tell me hes in love with someone, and i would be like "omg when did this happen?" and then he would say it was weeks or months ago. and then im left feeling like wow i dont know my own husband. my solution to that was to ask him frequently how things were going. when i do he ask why i am being so nosey and controlling. ?!?! i tell him i just dont want to become uncomfortable. does anyone have any advice on this? am i approaching it negatively? is there a better way to do this?