Cuckold "Hotwife" Question

Bubba29 Bubba29
So I have been wondering this about cuck wive's. How sexual were you before you got married to your current husband? Trying to get a feel for the innate sexuality of the women in this lifestyle.
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
I was a virgin before I met my current husband
5  (42%)
I had sex with 1 guy previous
1  (8%)
I had sex with 2-4 guys previous
2  (17%)
I had sex with 5-9 guys previous
2  (17%)
I had sex with 10-15 guys previous
1  (8%)
I had sex with 16-20 guys previous
I had sex with 21+ guys previous
1  (8%)
Total votes: 12
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eri86 eri86
Cuckold?
06/12/2013
Ansley Ansley
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Originally posted by eri86
Cuckold?
cuckold

Cuckoldry as a fetish

Unlike the traditional definition of the term, in fetish usage a cuckold is complicit in their partner's sexual "infidelity" and takes masochistic sexual pleasure in it. Cuckolds in the fetish sense also need not be male, and need not be married, although some level of pair-bonding intimacy or commitment in their relationship is necessary.[9] Among fetishists, the pose of reluctance—the victimization of the cuckold—is a major element of the paraphilia. (Which may be the reason for the use of the term "cuckold," with its connotations of victimization and inadequacy.)

In the fetish cuckolding subculture, it is most common for the female to take on the sexually dominant role and the male the submissive role, however, female subs, sometimes referred to as cuckqueans,[1] also exist. The wife who enjoys cuckolding her husband is frequently called a "hotwife," or a cuckoldress if the man is more submissive.[10]
Fetish cuckolding can have a wide range of expression, from pillow-talk fantasy between monogamous partners to extreme "alternative lifestyles," depending on the couple. It is also often mixed with other fetishes in practice, such as voyeurism, denial, etc.

Cuckolding can also be mixed with other non-monogamous relationship arrangements with which it has substantial overlap such as swinging, wife-swapping, open relationships, and polyamory, etc. It is distinguished from these concepts in that the cuckold's thrill in their partner's acts is specifically masochistic; as such it is considered a category of BDSM fetish.
06/12/2013
TiffanyW TiffanyW
interesting... I've never even heard of this!
06/12/2013
BrittaniMaree BrittaniMaree
I had sex with 2-4 guys previous
06/12/2013
Thinkingman Thinkingman
Quote:
Originally posted by Bubba29
So I have been wondering this about cuck wive's. How sexual were you before you got married to your current husband? Trying to get a feel for the innate sexuality of the women in this lifestyle.
This is a new one to me..
06/12/2013
This Is For The Birds This Is For The Birds
This is new to me and I still don't understand it very well, looks like i'm going to do some research.

On the other hand, I had sex with 5 different guys before getting with my husband.
06/12/2013
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
The term Cuckolding refers to the practice of the Cuckoo bird. It leaves it's eggs in other bird's nests to be raised by these adoptive parents. The cuckoo will sometimes even roll the legitimate eggs out of the nest to ensure their young get preferential treatment.

In sexual terms it was used to describe royalty's untalked about practice of strengthening bloodlines by bringing in a "stud" with desired characteristics to breed with the woman. It has always been a derogatory term when applied to a male. As time passed it was often a large and incredibly funny joke that bards traded upon to ensure a laugh. It also began to have a darker side in which the female cuckoo duped her unwitting husband into believing that her illegitimate children were his. It is not entirely to be believed that these men were totally duped.

Now a days it has a different connotation as Stormy pointed out. There is usually a bit of humiliation attached but the men seem to relish this rather than resent it. Men can also be cuckolds but generally this is called simply being a man or being in a traditional male-female Dom/sub relationship wherein the male doesn't promise fidelity to his slave.

It is less common for a cuckolding female to bear a child in this type of relationship but this has more to do with advances in fertility treatments and birth control. Incidentally, cuckolding in the traditional sense of a woman bearing a son and claiming it to be her husband's is the actual definition of the term "adultery". In the biblical sense the term only refers to a woman claiming a son as her husband's when in fact it is the product of an illicit affair.

LOL Class over!
06/15/2013
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
In my experience cuckolding has less to do with the actual sexual needs of the woman and more to do with the needs of the couple as a unit. In most fetishized cuckolding relationships the male will fantasize about his wife with other men, he will relish the thought that he is somehow lacking BUT, and this is the most important part- she always comes home to HIM! In a simply male way this proves he is the better man regardless of the other men and their sexual prowess.

Usually the sex is quite hot between the cuckolding couple and she rarely sees anything lacking. The intense reaction of her spouse coupled with the illicit feel of the sex with others is usually one motivating factor for her.

Now it should be noted that I am speaking in broad generalities based on my experiences. There is a whole WORLD of subtle nuances involved in this practice and each relationship is different.

In my relationship both men have a shared interest in cuckoldry and it is part of what makes us work so well. One man can fantasize that I need two men because he simply isn't enough and the other gets a secret thrill that he has a hot wife lots of guys want to fuck. Add in some mild desires for humiliation and a fluid fetish and it all rolls up into one very dynamic relationship.
For me? I wasn't especially sexually needy and I was a virgin when I met Sigel. He is the driving force in my sexual exploration and I will admit that my life is indeed rich and fulfilling. I get to be home with my children all the time and have two men who adore me and pamper me shamelessly. Far from being abusive our cuckolding is actually very nourishing to the two different relationships...and we take great care both with safer sex practices and safer sex emotional practices.

When it works it REALLY works, eh?
06/15/2013
Eugler Eugler
Quote:
Originally posted by Airen Wolf
In my experience cuckolding has less to do with the actual sexual needs of the woman and more to do with the needs of the couple as a unit. In most fetishized cuckolding relationships the male will fantasize about his wife with other men, he will ... More
Unfortunately I cannot really contribute to the discussion, sorry for that.

Just wanted to say:

I really loved your posting. Great!
06/17/2013
Marie Hanna Marie Hanna
I've never heard of this, but it seems interesting.
06/17/2013
ICEE ICEE
now that i have been married for almost 14 years i wish i would have been with 1 or 2 more guys...i can think of 1 person that i should have when i had the chance...damn morels lol
06/22/2013
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