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I am poly and have several partners. One of these relationships has expanded to include his other female partner. The three of us have really relaxed, wonderful chemistry around each other. She and I talk about everything under the sun, from
I am poly and have several partners. One of these relationships has expanded to include his other female partner. The three of us have really relaxed, wonderful chemistry around each other. She and I talk about everything under the sun, from poly to psychology. Not only do we all play together but we enjoy just being in the others' presence.
Everything is completely open and we find that by she and I having a relationship completely between ourselves, it sweetens the triad we all have. Actually triad is not the best term. More of a poly family. I'm hearing, and I believe, that this situation and it's smooth, wonderful details, is the exception rather than the rule. I'm wondering about others' experiences.
Have you had this? Would you want it? What obstacles have you encountered?
I've got a triadic relationship now, among other things. It's going very well! In the beginning, it was a vee, centered on my girlfriend M. At about the same time, she started seeing both me and our current boyfriend D, and since I was really quick to back off when I saw the other relationship forming (I wasn't completely committed to the idea of a romantic relationship at the time, and I didn't want her to end up missing out on something potentially great with him for me when I wasn't sure of my wants), the two of them were 'officially' a couple first. But then a novel idea - why did she have to stop seeing me, just because she was with D? In fact, since I said I was game, why don't we try a threesome?
And it all somewhat deliberately, somewhat magically, fell into place from there. I fell head over heels in love with M, and while D and I were trying hanging out to make sure we got along well, too, we ended up falling in love. For M and I, it's been very easy. We aren't possessive or jealous by nature, it seems, which is lucky. D has had a little harder of a time, not so much with sharing us with each other (although that, too, has had some roadbumps), but mostly with others outside the relationship. He's doing his best to work through it, though, and has been very supportive of my new outside relationship with another guy, T.
Honestly, though, it is somewhat surprising how little work the triad has taken. So, hooray for all of us!