How to bring it up???

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How to bring it up???

rbruning rbruning
so it is pretty basic, great relationship, but want to try it... best way to start the convo???
06/11/2012
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indiechick indiechick
Quote:
Originally posted by rbruning
so it is pretty basic, great relationship, but want to try it... best way to start the convo???
Honesty. But before even having that conversation you need to think about the answer to probably the most common question. "If I say no are you going to leave me" because no one wants to be put in that situation. If you know the answer to that then say its something you have wanted to try. But let me tell you this is not something you try for a week decided its not for you and leave the lifestyle, because it is a lifestyle and you need to make sure that you are both ready for that before you jump in.
06/11/2012
Peggi Peggi
Quote:
Originally posted by indiechick
Honesty. But before even having that conversation you need to think about the answer to probably the most common question. "If I say no are you going to leave me" because no one wants to be put in that situation. If you know the answer to ...
Exactly, I couldn't have said this better myself!

If this is something that is an entirely new lifestyle to you, and you've never done this in previous relationships, you'll also want to at least START a list of boundaries. For example, in the past when I was in poly relationships, we had a rule of thumb. Before you could add a new partner, they had to meet and get to know ALL of the other partners, and if the other partners were okay with it, it was okay. But everyone had to be included so there was no jealousy. SOME couples prefer to make sure that they do NOT meet your partner so there are rules set about where you can go to eat, stay, etc.

You'll want to consider all of this first, before bringing it up. Having a "game plan" is very important
06/12/2012
rbruning rbruning
thanks for all the things to consider, we actually talked about it and he is open as well, so now we just have to set those lines out.
06/16/2012
thisisadeletedaccount thisisadeletedaccount
What great response comments! I hope everything works out well as you try new things and potentially new partners. =)
06/20/2012
Mitzuki Mitzuki
I hope everything works out well!

Best thing I can tell you, /communication is key/! Between my fiance and I, there was a big lack of communication, and we almost fell apart. Just be honest and talk!
06/24/2012
gavind gavind
I'd say go for it. You might even be amazed by her answer. EdenFantasys Logo
07/20/2012
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