I want to fuck other people? but I wouldn't

been with my boyfriend 4 years only person I've dated and slept with. When I was younger I would never have thought about havig sex with someone unless I really trusted the person and could see myself with them forever. I had all kinds of negative thoughts on having sex with guys like if a guy has had alot of relationships and slept with alot of girls then you should never date them because its like sleeping with all the other people he's slept with too then there could be drama from past relationships even come up...I was always wanting a certain type of guy innocent very few to none relationships someone you would never have to think twice about cheating on you or trusting them with anything,feel totally comfortable around. Thats how I feel with my boyfriend...I would never sleep with anyone I know my boyfriend will always be around and care about me.

I just wish I could fuck other people alot more lalty? We are getting along just fine and have a good time in bed...a couple of the new workers from brazil I want to fuck them lol. In like 2 more montehs they will all be gone so I will never see them again except on facebook lol. One guy who was nice must have been really lonely not sure but he has a thing for me asking if he can take me home and that he wants me. A few weeks ago he even asked if I had a boyfriend. He's been calling me beautiful and asking me if I want to go home with my boyfriend. It was very flattering and he was one of the ppl I want but I won't do it. WHy do I feel like this? Is it because I never had my "fun" with others before? Maybe my negative thoughts and cares went away? Heck I could even see myself kissing a girl or doig one once. When I was yonger I would never have considered it. less

I've felt this way before. It's natural to want more partners. One of the things I liked most about the first time having sex with my girlfriend was that other side of her that I never would have seen. It makes it even harder when you have opportunities that you know you could take. It feels good to know someone wants you, thinks that you are beautiful, and wants to take you home.

You probably feel like it wouldn't hurt your relationship with your boyfriend. I feel like my relationship with my girlfriend wouldn't change and I could sleep with other people without becoming attached. But I know I'm just lying to myself. Your partner will feel inadequate, like it was their fault, like they should have done something different. It's a serious betrayal.

I feel like I've missed out on something, too. But messing around is something you give up to be in a relationship. Married people who end up divorced lose sight of the partnership that they made. Marriage and relationships are about compromise and sacrifice, but you gain something by that sacrifice. You have to be willing to put the other person and your relationship first. Selfish decisions like cheating are why marriages and relationships end.

You don't want do live with that kind of guilt. I know I couldn't. That curiosity will bother you at first, but you just have to realize that it isn't worth it. Part of the problem for me is that I feel like I should have more partners, because of external influences like people around me and stories I have heard.

It might be a good idea to talk with your boyfriend about how you feel. Be careful about it. He probably has some interest in other girls, as bad as that sounds, but he also may not. You don't want to scare him. This is one of the most difficult things about being in a relationship. It's not easy but you can work through it together. less

It is perfectly natural to wonder what you might be missing. It's flattering to have other people look at you in that certain way. it's also normal to wonder if other people find your partner attractive.

The problem I have with this whole situation is you come off sounding very immature and horrible about your current partner, like you are trying to justify why you would be attracted to other men. I seriously doubt your partner would have any trouble finding someone who would take a tumble on him. Geeky guys as well as nerdy guys are attractive to a wide variety of women!

Having an open relationship take a lot of work both in the relationship and in yourself. I would be very wary of feeling confident your guy isn't attractive to other women it speaks of a very poor self esteem problem in you. YOU find him attractive and YOU don't have abysmal taste, presumably, so why would you assume that the rest of us feel the same way? That road leads to heartache.

What I would suggest as a woman who is VERY well aware that both the men in my life are wildly attractive to other women, is that you sit down and have a conversation with your man about how you are feeling. You aren't necessarily asking for an open relationship but you are blossoming in your sexual adulthood. Your interests are broadening and you could use a partner's help in exploring the areas you are comfortable with. I would not suggest that you explore polyamory or even swinging right now but some really intense roleplay might be just what you need.

While I agree that it is a horrible feeling to wonder what you might be missing I would suggest another review of the dog and bone allegory. You don't want to lose the special relationship you have with your partner chasing after something different. Give him the chance to be the something different and whatever you do don't try to justify cheating or remaining in a relationship that no longer suits you. The heartache just isn't worth it.

The sex we have in fantasy is always more satisfying because we can control all the elements. I won't blow sunshine up your ass and say that swinging or group situations aren't exciting...they are mind blowing. if you are unaware or unprepared for the mind fuck you will get after the fact then it can be a terrible experience.

Talk to your amazing, special, attractive, hawt guy about what you are feeling and ask if he will join you in some intense fantasy. Let him know he is the star of your show and that you love him but that you want to explore with him. less