Jealousy in open relationships

kawigrl kawigrl
how do you avoid jealousy in open relationships?
08/03/2012
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KrissyNovacaine KrissyNovacaine
Figure out what is making you jealous and address that. Not enough attention? Insecure? Fix that.
08/03/2012
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
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Originally posted by kawigrl
how do you avoid jealousy in open relationships?
The same way you do in Monogamous relationships...you don't try to avoid it you work out what is causing it and then solve the underlying issues.
08/03/2012
LittleA LittleA
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Originally posted by kawigrl
how do you avoid jealousy in open relationships?
Always going to be a little, even if its just someones looks, breast size, cock size, stamina, underwear, car... that you are jealous of, human nature. Trust and Honesty. If those things aren't in place then you can't be open, or it will turn septic. If your not enjoying their relationship for your relationship, then being open isn't something your are going to enjoy.
08/05/2012
thisisadeletedaccount thisisadeletedaccount
Talk about it, admit it exists, check in with each other to get the emotional support you need to feel more secure.
08/07/2012
LadyRelentless LadyRelentless
Jealousy is a feeling; feelings are real.

I don't know if jealousy can ever be avoided all the way in poly or monogamous relationships.

For me, the important thing is to own it. To not place the blame on your partner(s) for how you feel.

As in "I am feeling jealous" rather than "you are making me jealous".

No one is making you do or feel anything. If you are feeling jealous, you have needs that aren't being met, and communication that needs to happen that hasn't yet. Try to think clearly about the specifics.

Is he really making you jealous by spending his evening with her? Or is it just that you were really hoping he'd be around to eat dinner with you tonight because you cooked something special.

Address the specific need. He hasn't done anything wrong by going to the movies, and you need someone to eat dinner with. You probably have a friend who'd come over and eat dinner tonight.

If I try to make sure my specific needs are met, I find jealousy rears its head much more rarely.
08/14/2012
Phosphorous Tick Phosphorous Tick
Talk about what's making you jealous
It's hard to not be jealous of another person. I know I am. But you need to talk with your partner about it
08/15/2012
playsalot playsalot
Quote:
Originally posted by LadyRelentless
Jealousy is a feeling; feelings are real.

I don't know if jealousy can ever be avoided all the way in poly or monogamous relationships.

For me, the important thing is to own it. To not place the blame on your partner(s) for how you ... More
Your thoughts on this definatly make sense.
08/15/2012
Mistress Dragon Mistress Dragon
Quote:
Originally posted by LadyRelentless
Jealousy is a feeling; feelings are real.

I don't know if jealousy can ever be avoided all the way in poly or monogamous relationships.

For me, the important thing is to own it. To not place the blame on your partner(s) for how you ... More
I agree with you on this stuff. Jealousy is a feeling and is real, you have to own it and open up and talk about it. If you do not do that it might not be the same way with you and your partner or friend. I hope that you find someway to work this out and can talk to the person about how you feel. Good luck.
08/18/2012
x203 x203
Just don't let it get the better of you. Talk about things and itll calm you down.
08/18/2012
The Kitty The Kitty
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Originally posted by kawigrl
how do you avoid jealousy in open relationships?
you dont, jealousy is a natural emotion like any other and trying to avoid or repress it will lead to problems. The question is how you deal with it, and in my experience jealousy is a sign of insecurities and weaknesses either in yourself or your relationship. I use jealousy to alert me to potential problems and work thru it.
09/03/2012
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