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I'm not poly, and I'd worry about there being too much drama and jealousy.
...as opposed to the drama and jealousy in a monogamous relationship? My parents are totally monogamous and have been their entire marriage, as far as they tell it, and their house is a war zone. I am still trying to deal with the after effects. Neither my parents nor my grandparents ever told their respective partners they would choose them again if they had the chance. BOTH of mine have said they would be with me in a heartbeat if they had to choose all over again.
I know my partners are with me because they WANT to be there not because of some social convention. I never worry that some pretty young thing will turn their heads, or that they secretly want out. I have no fear of jealousy because there's nothing to be jealous of...if I need more time or attention I can simply say so.
We have very little drama in our house even though we are parenting three children and planning a complete change of residence, job and area of the Country.
This past Summer we have dealt with massive surgery, Pertussis, zero sex lives, allergies, gas prices, food costs going up, a drought and living in two separate Countries. Through it all I have had two strong sets of shoulders to cry on and some amazing friends who are ready and willing to help out...especially with the sex part!
Honestly? I have no idea how monogamous couples do this, we were a gigantic mess, Sigel and I, when it was just the two of us.