Our Tribe consists of two men and one woman.
The two males have were friends in elementary school, than had a large gap away from one another until very recently. The woman actually kind of runs most things.
The two males are twenty nine, and the female is twenty four.
This is getting terribly scientific and boring. I myself am Bisexual and the female in our relationship is as well, the other man is not. Okay that is everything I need to explain about the this is this this is that side of our grouping.
I absolutely adore this life style, I was raised poly, My father had at one point in my life seven women. I always hated that, that is how it had to work for him, the women couldn't have other men. It seemed silly to me. The thing I loved most about it growing up was that there was always someone to talk with, or someone who knew how to answer my questions. My tribe consists of people from both vastly different backgrounds, and areas of study, our music tastes are all different, and we all have different skills.
I can cook, and fix just about anything for instance I also clean, I even like doing these things, so it's natural for me to slip in a role that fills that. I am my girlfriends Dom, and taking on these more feminine roles as it were doesn't insult that position for me.
The other male works and fixes computers. He is often times the voice to the rest of the world as well, as he is vastly less passionate about things than our shared partner and myself. He can filter for us. It's useful when your angry people. Me having PTSD myself really don't care if I hurt other peoples feelings, or often notice when I do. Having him as a buffer is really nice.
The female in our group is passionate, which is great when two people are not, she is almost too passionate for two people. When someone is devoid of mostly all emotions, and the other is very rational this is a nice person to have.
What I absolutely adore about our relationship is how well we all work together. It's very rare we have issues in our household. If something needs fixed someone can, if friends need assistance someone here can handle it. I suppose this is a more rational solution to something that is often discussed as purely emotional based in this board, but honestly this style of relationship works well, on a rational level. We all share common interest yes, it would be much harder if we didn't I am sure, but the fact we are not all the same on everything is great. There is often times nothing in this house someone can not accomplish, and certainly nothing we can't do if we all work together.
I've seen a lot of posts in this board, always discussing if this is ethical, or is it fair to this person. It's rarely discussed what type of personality would be best to add. Forgive me a moment as I am a bit of a sociologist, it's what I got to school for, but I think this is vastly better a thing to look at. Everyone wants to be needed, if you add a person to your group that is exactly like someone else, what role will they fill in your group. I clearly don't mean extra person to scrub toilets, I mean what mental and social role do they add. I mentioned earlier my PTSD, the fact our tribe has a person who can calmly and rationally explain things to others is a huge boon to our groups survival. The fact a cold, and very much emotionless it is useful to have someone that has emotion like the woman in our group does.
I think it would be best for people to focus less on, does this person fill our emotional needs, which yes are most certainly important, but more to the effect of does this person fill our life needs and we theirs.
( If I was to actually write this out and formulate it, I could actually get a good paper out of this, might send it to sex is social. )