I know its often part of the cuckold experience but i was just wondering how many would be ok with their partners having fun with others while they remained monogamous.
Would you be ok with your partner having sex with another person while you stayed faithful?
I had to give an answer to both because I think it depends on a lot of factors. First of all are they fooling around with or without permission? If it is with permission, why are you considering yourself monogamous? Wouldn't most couples consider it an open relationship? If they are doing so without consent from their partner why are you allowing it to go on, and why are you still with them? There are a lot of factors involved in this.
If my guy were to ask for us to have other people...BOTH of us, sure I would be ok. But if he says "ok I'm going to have sex with other people but you can't" then sorry, that won't fly.
If my guy were to ask for us to have other people...BOTH of us, sure I would be ok. But if he says "ok I'm going to have sex with other people but you can't" then sorry, that won't fly.
09/24/2011
why would anyone be okay with this unless they gave the other person permission? if it isn't the case of permission, then i would NEVER stay with that person, clearly they weren't satisfied or anything to have to go to someone else. i would never ever be with someone that didn't want me 100%!
09/24/2011
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I had to answer both yes and no to this question. If I were inclined to be monogamous while my partner plays the field then ok, sure! AM I content to do this? No. Now having said that, my partner Arch is content to remain monogamous with me while knowing that I am fully sexual with Sigel and I am polyfidelitous with Arch and Sigel, though Sigel has many playmates. This would be why I say both yes and no. I can see how that would work though I wouldn't be happy if it were forced on me.
Originally posted by
pleasurehunter
I know its often part of the cuckold experience but i was just wondering how many would be ok with their partners having fun with others while they remained monogamous.
09/29/2011
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I replied "no" because you worded this as "while they remained monogamous". That implies that they are not supposed to be having fun with others, that it goes against what the couple found to be acceptable. Especially with your header differing from the question, stating "while you stayed faithful"
Originally posted by
pleasurehunter
I know its often part of the cuckold experience but i was just wondering how many would be ok with their partners having fun with others while they remained monogamous.
, it implies that outside play is a breech of trust, and that's not acceptable.
If the couple ~is~ monogamous, but are open to outside play, together as a couple, to experiment so long as it only stays play, than that is a different story.
09/29/2011
My hubby is actually- in a round about way the one who brought it up to me (it was part of an alt porn he showed me when we were discussing what we were into) I brought up that I found the idea of me humiliating him while I'm with other men to be a turn on. About a year later after having talked about it a few times we agreed that we would both be ok with that sort of arrangement- me allowed to be with other men, while he stays monogamous.
10/02/2011
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My wife ( creamysweet) and I have a sexually open relationship that allows either of us to have casual sex with others provided that we both agree on the who, where and when before it happens. We also each have right of refusal in the sense that if one wants someone but the other isnt comfortable with whoever that is for whatever reason all the other has to say is no and there is no discussion or arguement about it. That being said I encourage, support and will do anything I can to help for her to have sex with others. We have had many mfm encounters which she really likes (Im totally straight - not that it bears on this in any way but just so those who might be curious will know) and she can have sex with guys or gals on her own if she chooses to. For my part in all of this though I have the same permission I have only acted on it was when we did a mfmf same room (same bed) swap. I really enjoy watching her though especially when shes super into it and really enjoying herself. Odd?.... probably. Fun?... absolutely. Will I ever use my stack of hall passes? Maybe but only if the right person comes along.
Originally posted by
pleasurehunter
I know its often part of the cuckold experience but i was just wondering how many would be ok with their partners having fun with others while they remained monogamous.
10/22/2011
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This is very well said, and I do believe it depends on each relationship, and each person's feelings about what "faithful" is.
Originally posted by
XYCopperheadSly
I think that "faithful" is whatever a couple agrees that it is. If I'm okay with my husband sleeping with other women, then he isn't being unfaithful when he does it.
That being said, I do not play nice in the sandbox, and I don't care if it's phone, cyber, text, or physical - I don't share, and neither does he.
10/29/2011
tidalwave
never, because i did not sign up for that kind of relationship. if he wanted an open relationship, i would leave. expecting me to just go along with that because he was 'just being honest about wanting that' would actually be dishonesty about respecting why i agreed to a relationship with him in the first place.
10/31/2011
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Heh I have problems in the sandbox as well....I am an alpha female and my guys have to rein me in at times. I have lots of trouble sharing...problem is I LIKE seeing my guys with other women I just want to be the main focus of their attention. I work on it cause that's not fair to other lovers who deserve to be the center of attention too....it's not all roses and rainbows by any means LOL
Originally posted by
badk1tty
This is very well said, and I do believe it depends on each relationship, and each person's feelings about what "faithful" is.
That being said, I do not play nice in the sandbox, and I don't care if it's phone, cyber, text, or physical - I ...
That being said, I do not play nice in the sandbox, and I don't care if it's phone, cyber, text, or physical - I ...
This is very well said, and I do believe it depends on each relationship, and each person's feelings about what "faithful" is.
That being said, I do not play nice in the sandbox, and I don't care if it's phone, cyber, text, or physical - I don't share, and neither does he.
That being said, I do not play nice in the sandbox, and I don't care if it's phone, cyber, text, or physical - I don't share, and neither does he.
Oddly enough I am more territorial about Arch than about Sigel....though I will still snarl unattractively if ignored regardless of the guy.
11/05/2011