Poly Fights

  • Christmas shipping schedule

Poly Fights

miamortis miamortis
I am in a poly group with my husband, two married couples, and two separate men. We all do great together but sometimes we have fights. I find that the married couples take sides. Except that sometimes the married couples take sides different from each other and then it causes more fighting until we all have to have an 8 person sit down.

Does anyone have any experience with this? How do you solve it before it gets to the 8 person sit down? Getting 8 people together when we all have full time jobs and are spread between 5 houses is difficult.
04/04/2011
  • Save 50% on Gift Set For Couples!
  • Save 50% on Gift Set For Her!
  • Save 50% on Gift Set For Him!
  • Save 25% on LELO and PicoBong
  • Holiday Clearance – Save 80%
  • 1
  • 2
  • 3
  • 4
  • 5
All promotions
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
Quote:
Originally posted by miamortis
I am in a poly group with my husband, two married couples, and two separate men. We all do great together but sometimes we have fights. I find that the married couples take sides. Except that sometimes the married couples take sides different from ...
WOW! What a complex web you have woven! For my part we are mostly a triad with the occasional other person. For us there really isn't a side taking as one of us always has to be the 'tie breaker' or as we like to call it 'voice of reason'. Almost all of our discussions tend to be out in the open and we actively discourage 'taking sides' though agreeing with someone isn't frowned upon.
Generally we try to avoid making the third person feel like they are in the middle though it is inevitable that it happens. When it does we address the problem quickly and with as little fussing as possible. Beyond that we settle in for a knock down drag out and it seems to draw us closer together rather than driving us apart. There's a skill to disagreeing that can actually leave you feeling better than when you went into the discussion...and we are actively pursuing the perfect scenario. They say practice makes perfect!
I can't imagine getting 8 adults to sit down and discuss problems but I have found that setting aside some regular time (say a monthly meeting) to discuss both the positive and negative goings on. For us we have a bi-weekly set aside night to sit down and talk about whatever has happened in the last two weeks and pay bills, play games, discuss the coming two weeks and what time constraints we might anticipate. Love ain't limited but time sure as hell is!
I wish you all love and luck, sounds like you got a good thing going.
04/04/2011
Nice to Eat you Nice to Eat you
no freaking way, a relationship with one is enough work.
04/27/2012
Total posts: 3
Unique posters: 3