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Tell us what you think it means to be in a Polyamorous relationship.
Would you care to answer the question yourself? I am curious as to why you ask actually since there has been so much written about the subject in this forum alone, let alone other forums! Do you have an interesting view about what polyamory or polyamorus relationships mean or entail?
For me being poly means I am free to build lasting relationships that may or may not include sex (since that seems to be the incredible bugaboo for most people). I am free to love the two most amazing men I have ever had the pleasure to meet and have them love me equally intensely in return. It is the amazing feeling of loving and watching two men work so damn hard to build a family with each other and overcome their incredibly hard dealings with other 'friends' and learn to trust and care for each other. It means having many hearts and hands to hold onto in times of incredible joy and equally incredible sorrow.
Poly also means I am free of the burden of trying to be the one and only everything for another person. This lovestyle means each member is enjoined to take ownership of their emotions and needs and fulfill them in a manner that is productive and loving to all the members of the family.
To be in a poly relationship is to be open, honest and free to love many deeply and sincerely. It is having the right to be openly sexy, openly loving and openly giving without fear of loss.
It's also having many adults who share your vision of the world and who broaden your horizons with their uniqueness. When you find someone who share the visions you share with your other partners it is the most amazing thing to know your children are safe, your home is secure and you will never wonder if you are loved.
On the flip side it means working everyday to better yourself so you can be the best self you can be for your partners and working with them to do the same. It means extreme time management! It means being open to the possibilities no matter how unusual they become but being able to put the hard stop to abusive and negative behavior. It means working to overcome jealousy and adversity everyday and putting it all aside when your kids need you to stop your adult processing and spend time with them. (One of the nicest things is in a poly relationship there is usually a trusted adult who can drop everything and be with the kids at any moment.)
In short, to me polyamory is just a relationship that can either be a blessing or a horrible curse. You simply have to be committed and have partners whoa re equally committed to a shared vision...you know the exact same thing you need in a monogamous relationship.