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I was poly for a long time till I met my current partner... and he is chronically mono. I am honestly struggling and have f'ed up once already... How does one go from being poly to being mono? Does it ever work out in the long run? Am I screwed? LOL
I'm not poly, but my advice isn't mono/poly specific... My theory on relationships is that if your needs aren't met, you will never be happy in the relationship. It doesn't matter if you're happy with them, or if you love them, or if you want to be monogamous if you're polygamous, or if you want to be polyamorous if you're monogamous. If the needs that are most important to you aren't being met, the relationship can not and will not ever work in any kind of way that makes either of you happy.
That being said, I think that it's possible to go from being polyamorous to being monogamous, if the lover you're with can meet the needs that are most important. Are you happy with them? Are your needs being met? Is it/he worth the hard work that this is going to take, to make it work? If you try to force a square peg into a round hole, all that's going to happen is that you're going to squish your finger. Sometimes, you need to make the hole a little more square and the peg a little more round.
I hope that helps a little, and I wish you lots of luck and lots of patience.