I am quite curious about this whole concept. Here is just a few questions I would like to ask, and I would really appreciate the feedback.
Polyamourus
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Trying it out
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Still Into it?
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Once you start you can't go back?
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Love
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Sounds remarkably like what happened with my partner Arch. He fell in love with me but admired my lo0ve for and committment to Sigel.
Originally posted by
zecookiepuss
I fell in love with a married woman... to be with her I had to be willing to have something more open with her. I happily agreed and it has been the best thing for everyone involved.
Jan 31, 3:12 pm
I was in what I would call a "monogamish" relationship with my partner L - we were committed to each other, but allowed to flirt, cuddle with, kiss, and dance with whoever we wanted, and were very open in talking to each other about other people we had crushes on. We met K, who is now our third, at a weekend retreat for queer students from our college campus and the other local colleges, and hung out with her a bit. She and my partner started to talk on Facebook a lot - they have similar "night owl" sleep habits - and it developed into a mutual crush, which L admitted to me. I was delighted by this, and somewhat surprised by my own delight, since a crush with potential to go somewhere was not something we'd experienced as a couple before. I started talking to K more as well, and it was easy to understand why L liked her so much - I started to get a bit of a crush myself, which she reciprocated. After a few three-person dates and cuddle sessions, we invited her to go to a dance with us, then brought her home and had a threesome. We all realized our feelings went beyond purely sexual and worked on establishing a triad relationship. It's new, but so far we are all very happy with how things have turned out.
May 15, 9:52 pm
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Still happily trying to resolve the conflicts of a border between us and our life partner. Even if this current relationship structure should change I doubt I'd go back to monogamy unless I met someone who I desired to be with enough to be monogamous with. It could happen, mind you, but I wouldn't be against polyamory if it did. I would simply see it as a conscious choice we both made.
Originally posted by
Badass
Are you still in that relationship? Have you changed your mind about it after being in one? Changed it for or against it?
Feb 9, 3:02 pm
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Probably not but I am capable of it. I love the freedom of the poly lifestyle and flat out LOVE being between two men both between and out of the sheets. Still if I felt I was satisfied in one relationship I could just as easily be monogamous. I,personally, can be happy this way but I am happier being poly. I wouldn't feel I was losing anything that makes me who I am I would simply be making a choice and living with it.
Originally posted by
Badass
Would you ever be involved in a monogamous relationship after being involved in a polyamourus relationship?
Jan 25, 4:09 am
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Ditto. Anything is possible, and the myriad of relationships and emotional ties between people are definitely proof that the connections between people are as diverse as the individuals involved. I have not experienced loving more than one person at a time, but I believe many people are fully capable and have experienced this in their lives.
Originally posted by
voenne
I do believe that it is possible, I just have not tried it myself. It takes a certain level of trust, understanding, and love, that not all people are capable of.
Jan 31, 7:49 pm
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