Swingers Clubs: Your Thoughts?
I have been to 2 clubs here in the city. There is a third one opening next weekend but I am going to let it play out before checking it out.
I adore the lifestyle. I love the openess of it all. I have been in it for many years.
There are pushy people yes. But clubs SHOULD have a strict no means no policy. You respect others, you ask what they are into to make sure you are on the same level.
Clubs are also very cliquey. The clicks get annoying because you may like some but not others and when one part moves they all have to move along with them.
We are also part of an online community that has meet and greet parties every month. I love that atmosphere because we are a huge group of friends and have a hoot together
I adore the lifestyle. I love the openess of it all. I have been in it for many years.
There are pushy people yes. But clubs SHOULD have a strict no means no policy. You respect others, you ask what they are into to make sure you are on the same level.
Clubs are also very cliquey. The clicks get annoying because you may like some but not others and when one part moves they all have to move along with them.
We are also part of an online community that has meet and greet parties every month. I love that atmosphere because we are a huge group of friends and have a hoot together
10/22/2010
Me and my hubby are just starting to get into this lifestyle... we'll be checking out our first club this weekend. We have talked to other couples and so far, none of them have been pushy... they all for the most part respect everyone's boundaries. And my hubby and I are not old, and not all swingers are old... I'm 27 and he's 32... we've met a lot of couples that are younger than us!! I think it's really just to each it's own...
10/27/2010
Now that I've experienced a swingers club, I can more effectively reply to this post... lol... We went for our first time this past Saturday. No one was pushy to us at all. In fact, the doorman made us feel sooooo comfortable!! He was checking on us all night, making sure no one was giving us problems and making sure we were comfortable. There was security all over so if someone did get out of line, it wouldn't have gone very far before the troublemakers got kicked out on their asses.
I think there is a presumed ora about these clubs that are just so inaccurate. We felt very comfortable there... It's not just a bunch of people having one big orgy. There are private rooms, with locks, so if you want to get a little freaky, you can just go in the room... but there are restrictions. You MUST be a member of the club if you want to go in the back. Any Tom, Dick, or Harry can't just go back there. They have to be certified members of the club. Like I said, there is security all over the place. And no one is pushy. Everyone respects everyone.
I think there is a presumed ora about these clubs that are just so inaccurate. We felt very comfortable there... It's not just a bunch of people having one big orgy. There are private rooms, with locks, so if you want to get a little freaky, you can just go in the room... but there are restrictions. You MUST be a member of the club if you want to go in the back. Any Tom, Dick, or Harry can't just go back there. They have to be certified members of the club. Like I said, there is security all over the place. And no one is pushy. Everyone respects everyone.
11/03/2010
Now that I've experienced a swingers club, I can more effectively reply to this post... lol... We went for our first time this past Saturday. No one was pushy to us at all. In fact, the doorman made us feel sooooo comfortable!! He was checking on us all night, making sure no one was giving us problems and making sure we were comfortable. There was security all over so if someone did get out of line, it wouldn't have gone very far before the troublemakers got kicked out on their asses.
I think there is a presumed ora about these clubs that are just so inaccurate. We felt very comfortable there... It's not just a bunch of people having one big orgy. There are private rooms, with locks, so if you want to get a little freaky, you can just go in the room... but there are restrictions. You MUST be a member of the club if you want to go in the back. Any Tom, Dick, or Harry can't just go back there. They have to be certified members of the club. Like I said, there is security all over the place. And no one is pushy. Everyone respects everyone.
I think there is a presumed ora about these clubs that are just so inaccurate. We felt very comfortable there... It's not just a bunch of people having one big orgy. There are private rooms, with locks, so if you want to get a little freaky, you can just go in the room... but there are restrictions. You MUST be a member of the club if you want to go in the back. Any Tom, Dick, or Harry can't just go back there. They have to be certified members of the club. Like I said, there is security all over the place. And no one is pushy. Everyone respects everyone.
11/03/2010
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Sounds like an amazing club!
Originally posted by
Brandi Rouxxx
Now that I've experienced a swingers club, I can more effectively reply to this post... lol... We went for our first time this past Saturday. No one was pushy to us at all. In fact, the doorman made us feel sooooo comfortable!! He was checking on
...
Now that I've experienced a swingers club, I can more effectively reply to this post... lol... We went for our first time this past Saturday. No one was pushy to us at all. In fact, the doorman made us feel sooooo comfortable!! He was checking on us all night, making sure no one was giving us problems and making sure we were comfortable. There was security all over so if someone did get out of line, it wouldn't have gone very far before the troublemakers got kicked out on their asses.
I think there is a presumed ora about these clubs that are just so inaccurate. We felt very comfortable there... It's not just a bunch of people having one big orgy. There are private rooms, with locks, so if you want to get a little freaky, you can just go in the room... but there are restrictions. You MUST be a member of the club if you want to go in the back. Any Tom, Dick, or Harry can't just go back there. They have to be certified members of the club. Like I said, there is security all over the place. And no one is pushy. Everyone respects everyone.
I think there is a presumed ora about these clubs that are just so inaccurate. We felt very comfortable there... It's not just a bunch of people having one big orgy. There are private rooms, with locks, so if you want to get a little freaky, you can just go in the room... but there are restrictions. You MUST be a member of the club if you want to go in the back. Any Tom, Dick, or Harry can't just go back there. They have to be certified members of the club. Like I said, there is security all over the place. And no one is pushy. Everyone respects everyone.
11/13/2010
My man and I discussed swinging and were open to try it, but after our first experience decided threesomes would be much better suited, and haven't really experimented with that yet. But swingers clubs do freak me out. I've seen a couple documentaries (when we were doing our "research," if you will) and it doesn't seem like something we'd be interested in at all. Way too pushy, and I'd like to at least trust someone a bit before inviting them into my bed. It's great for those who are into it!
11/17/2010
The idea isn't very appealing to me, since I am very selective about the people that I am intimate with. Namely, I want them to be people I am comfortable with, and attracted to. Either one of those things is probably going to be pretty rare at a swinger's club, especially since the crowd is likely much older than I would be comfortable with. (I'm guessing there aren't too many people in their early 20's.)
09/06/2011
I've done a few events where I have done toy presentations for swingers, and I really enjoyed talking to folks, especially when we weren't actually at the club, but even then I've met one or two people who pushed the bubble boundary. My hubby and I are strictly exclusive, but we have friends that are happily into the lifestyle, and we have talked about going to a club to be with each other, but neither of us have any interest in playing with others. The reason we haven't done it yet is simply cost. It's really expensive!
10/28/2011
