Swingers Clubs: Your Thoughts?

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Quote:
Originally posted by Valyn
What are your thoughts on swingers clubs?
Hell, no.
08/16/2010
Tori Rebel Tori Rebel
There are a few in my state and just based on their websites, I don't think it's for me. There are, however, several play groups and parties hosted regularly that I've expressed some interest in and always been warmly and 'normally' received.
08/16/2010
deadpoet deadpoet
It sounds really weird, but like my mom always say, "don't knock it til you try it".
08/24/2010
SeXXXcapades SeXXXcapades
I think it would be very interesting to visit a club but not sure what my comfort level would be at first.
09/08/2010
Jobthingy Jobthingy
I have been to 2 clubs here in the city. There is a third one opening next weekend but I am going to let it play out before checking it out.

I adore the lifestyle. I love the openess of it all. I have been in it for many years.

There are pushy people yes. But clubs SHOULD have a strict no means no policy. You respect others, you ask what they are into to make sure you are on the same level.

Clubs are also very cliquey. The clicks get annoying because you may like some but not others and when one part moves they all have to move along with them.

We are also part of an online community that has meet and greet parties every month. I love that atmosphere because we are a huge group of friends and have a hoot together
10/22/2010
Brandi Rouxxx Brandi Rouxxx
Me and my hubby are just starting to get into this lifestyle... we'll be checking out our first club this weekend. We have talked to other couples and so far, none of them have been pushy... they all for the most part respect everyone's boundaries. And my hubby and I are not old, and not all swingers are old... I'm 27 and he's 32... we've met a lot of couples that are younger than us!! I think it's really just to each it's own...
10/27/2010
Raggedy Andie Raggedy Andie
I haven't been in the lifestyle yet but I want to. My husband is the one that needs to think about it. I will obviously respect his decision either way but he seems interested. Some day.. lol.
11/03/2010
Brandi Rouxxx Brandi Rouxxx
Now that I've experienced a swingers club, I can more effectively reply to this post... lol... We went for our first time this past Saturday. No one was pushy to us at all. In fact, the doorman made us feel sooooo comfortable!! He was checking on us all night, making sure no one was giving us problems and making sure we were comfortable. There was security all over so if someone did get out of line, it wouldn't have gone very far before the troublemakers got kicked out on their asses.

I think there is a presumed ora about these clubs that are just so inaccurate. We felt very comfortable there... It's not just a bunch of people having one big orgy. There are private rooms, with locks, so if you want to get a little freaky, you can just go in the room... but there are restrictions. You MUST be a member of the club if you want to go in the back. Any Tom, Dick, or Harry can't just go back there. They have to be certified members of the club. Like I said, there is security all over the place. And no one is pushy. Everyone respects everyone.
11/03/2010
Brandi Rouxxx Brandi Rouxxx
Now that I've experienced a swingers club, I can more effectively reply to this post... lol... We went for our first time this past Saturday. No one was pushy to us at all. In fact, the doorman made us feel sooooo comfortable!! He was checking on us all night, making sure no one was giving us problems and making sure we were comfortable. There was security all over so if someone did get out of line, it wouldn't have gone very far before the troublemakers got kicked out on their asses.

I think there is a presumed ora about these clubs that are just so inaccurate. We felt very comfortable there... It's not just a bunch of people having one big orgy. There are private rooms, with locks, so if you want to get a little freaky, you can just go in the room... but there are restrictions. You MUST be a member of the club if you want to go in the back. Any Tom, Dick, or Harry can't just go back there. They have to be certified members of the club. Like I said, there is security all over the place. And no one is pushy. Everyone respects everyone.
11/03/2010
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
Quote:
Originally posted by Brandi Rouxxx
Now that I've experienced a swingers club, I can more effectively reply to this post... lol... We went for our first time this past Saturday. No one was pushy to us at all. In fact, the doorman made us feel sooooo comfortable!! He was checking ... More
Sounds like an amazing club!
11/13/2010
pinkzombie pinkzombie
Quote:
Originally posted by Valyn
What are your thoughts on swingers clubs?
Fun and fre...but there are some wierdos that are waay too pushy
11/13/2010
EdLynn EdLynn
we've been curious for a while and have been doing a ton of research and scouting for clubs to go to as a first.
11/17/2010
Not here Not here
My man and I discussed swinging and were open to try it, but after our first experience decided threesomes would be much better suited, and haven't really experimented with that yet. But swingers clubs do freak me out. I've seen a couple documentaries (when we were doing our "research," if you will) and it doesn't seem like something we'd be interested in at all. Way too pushy, and I'd like to at least trust someone a bit before inviting them into my bed. It's great for those who are into it!
11/17/2010
Lady Neshamah Lady Neshamah
i have never been to a "swingers club". but i have been to more than a few play spaces and play parties, ala bdsm.
12/08/2010
A Good Girl A Good Girl
I've only seen these on TV, so my opinion is skewed
01/23/2011
A Closet Slut (aka nipplepeople) A Closet Slut (aka nipplepeople)
It would be interesting in case people are good.
01/29/2011
KnK KnK
I'd consider checking one out if I were in a relationship. (Swinging doesn't really seem to apply for the single), but the idea of a swinger's club for some reason makes me incredibly nervous
01/29/2011
Mr.RightNow Mr.RightNow
aka circus party
02/03/2011
callsignhusker callsignhusker
I would like to check one out but we are worried there won't be any people our age (22-23)...
03/21/2011
Airekah Airekah
We have never looked into anything like this, but i definitely wouldn't knock it before trying it.
03/22/2011
SexyStuff SexyStuff
Not judging others, it isn't for me. I am not into hooking up, I want to have relationships and friendships and really know those I am intimate with.
03/23/2011
G.L. Morrison G.L. Morrison
I think that the reason that swingers come off pushy and creepy is that the polite ones are not as memorable as the weird guy who followed you from room to room rubbing himself. Eeek! I don't think you'd like him no matter where you met him.
03/23/2011
emiliaa emiliaa
Sounds very interesting. ^_~ My boyfriend would definitely say NO for right now. I'd prefer something a little more communal where I know the people a little better than a random club, though.
06/05/2011
Steve of Eden Steve of Eden
I would have to be in a crazy mood... but never say never, right???
06/28/2011
LibertyGirl LibertyGirl
The idea isn't very appealing to me, since I am very selective about the people that I am intimate with. Namely, I want them to be people I am comfortable with, and attracted to. Either one of those things is probably going to be pretty rare at a swinger's club, especially since the crowd is likely much older than I would be comfortable with. (I'm guessing there aren't too many people in their early 20's.)
09/06/2011
Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by Valyn
What are your thoughts on swingers clubs?
Even if I were into that lifestyle, seems in this day and age of lethal disease, I just could not go there on grounds of hygiene.
09/17/2011
socalsusieq socalsusieq
I would love to try one out.
09/17/2011
Ash1141 Ash1141
I would go...more to watch though.
10/22/2011
Jaimes Jaimes
I've done a few events where I have done toy presentations for swingers, and I really enjoyed talking to folks, especially when we weren't actually at the club, but even then I've met one or two people who pushed the bubble boundary. My hubby and I are strictly exclusive, but we have friends that are happily into the lifestyle, and we have talked about going to a club to be with each other, but neither of us have any interest in playing with others. The reason we haven't done it yet is simply cost. It's really expensive!
10/28/2011
Boobs and Lubes Boobs and Lubes
we go to parties with similarly aged couples(couples only). they have some face control which keeps the "talent" on a relatively high level. We never had any pressure in or out of the bedroom, you can see pushy coming from a mile a way.
11/01/2011
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