Now that I've experienced a swingers club, I can more effectively reply to this post... lol... We went for our first time this past Saturday. No one was pushy to us at all. In fact, the doorman made us feel sooooo comfortable!! He was checking on us all night, making sure no one was giving us problems and making sure we were comfortable. There was security all over so if someone did get out of line, it wouldn't have gone very far before the troublemakers got kicked out on their asses.
I think there is a presumed ora about these clubs that are just so inaccurate. We felt very comfortable there... It's not just a bunch of people having one big orgy. There are private rooms, with locks, so if you want to get a little freaky, you can just go in the room... but there are restrictions. You MUST be a member of the club if you want to go in the back. Any Tom, Dick, or Harry can't just go back there. They have to be certified members of the club. Like I said, there is security all over the place. And no one is pushy. Everyone respects everyone.