Watching others

sugarOne sugarOne
Do you get aroused when watching others having sex with your partner? Do you ever imagine this in your head just to get off? Does the thought of sharing your partner arouse you in any way and why? What if your not poly but you think of these things often. What does that mean?
08/28/2010
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Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
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Originally posted by sugarOne
Do you get aroused when watching others having sex with your partner? Do you ever imagine this in your head just to get off? Does the thought of sharing your partner arouse you in any way and why? What if your not poly but you think of these things ... More
Means you enjoy thinking about how your lover looks while having sex with someone else. What it doesn't mean is that you are "wired" for poly! We all have the desire to just watch our partners enjoying themselves...especiall y during the act of sex because it is a view of them we don't normally get to sit back and just enjoy. Polyamory or swinging takes that desire much farther by bringing other fragile egos into the mix which isn't really the fantasy. If what you want is to watch your lover taking pleasure then I would suggest that you first don a mask or full costume and tape yourself making love. That way you are watching your lover and he or she is still yours alone. It's quite a thrill ride and you get a very unique perspective because you have the 'body' memory of making love and you get the sensory image of your lover...mind blowing. Mutual masturbation is another way to live the dream, as it were, without jeopardizing your current relationship. Try mixing it up...if you are very submissive try being dominant and demand that your lover masturbate for your enjoyment. Do nothing yourself, simply be passive and watch the play of emotion on your lovers face, the way his/her body moves when he/she experiences pleasure, what strokes or touches get him/her going.

Now I LOVE watching my lovers having sex or being intimate with other people, the difference is I love watching the OTHER person responding to my lover(s). The interplay between them both is amazing to me and makes me feel closer and more connected to them both. It reaffirms, for me, how much I am attracted and in love with them both. If the other person invites me into their circle then it is even better because now I am able to share in the connection that this person has with my lover(s) and share the unique connection I have with them. It is a tricky dance of give and take that I adore, and fortunately, so do my partner(s).
08/28/2010
P'Gell P'Gell
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Originally posted by sugarOne
Do you get aroused when watching others having sex with your partner? Do you ever imagine this in your head just to get off? Does the thought of sharing your partner arouse you in any way and why? What if your not poly but you think of these things ... More
This is one of My Man's biggest fantasies. However, I don't think he is actually Poly. I found out a long time ago, I am capable of Polyamory, but have chosen not to partake in it since we decided to become Monogamous many years ago.

It gets complicated, because I don't think My Man really realizes what the interplay may entail. He has his fantasies, and that's fine, but, I don't know if he could really handle seeing me enjoy an other man. (Although he says he does. He has a script in his head (like a lot of Doms) and I don't think he realizes things may NOT go according to script with FOUR people involved.) He also hasn't thought through things like STD prevention, birth control, light vs full swap etc. I also don't think he's thought about the next morning, either. I have...

Our dynamic is: We'd probably both have fun. But, I'd probably like it more in the end, then I would probably fall in love and he would probably get jealous. It's a nearly constant conversation between us, and in our situation (because he gets jealous, and I really don't, but I fall in love too easily) it would be best to wait on this.

Decisions decisions....
08/28/2010
trios trios
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Originally posted by sugarOne
Do you get aroused when watching others having sex with your partner? Do you ever imagine this in your head just to get off? Does the thought of sharing your partner arouse you in any way and why? What if your not poly but you think of these things ... More
Sounds like me.

I am not poly, but live in a monogamous marriage with my wife and we have children. I would love to have another guy join us to watch them and not for me to just watch, but to be a part of it! There are certain details about the ideal guy, but that is not for here.

We have threesome fantasy nights to help give me an outlet with that, and we have started to use realistic dildos and some roleplaying.

Do you think you may be bi-curious to some degree?
08/28/2010
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
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Originally posted by P'Gell
This is one of My Man's biggest fantasies. However, I don't think he is actually Poly. I found out a long time ago, I am capable of Polyamory, but have chosen not to partake in it since we decided to become Monogamous many years ... More
You are right about the morning after feelings, if he has jealousy issues he has to work on those first before he possibly ruins a really good thing! Good thing he has you to keep him grounded in reality cause hell even in the movies the script is only a guideline!
09/03/2010
Vexed Vexed
I'd love to watch the woman that I'm dating have sex with her other boyfriend. I do feel jealous about the way they interact some times, but it is when they are talking or making out and have their clothes on. I think that it would be amazing to see them have sex regardless. In fact, I think that I'd feel a little bit inferior, and that would make it really hot for me. I suppose that I'm into indirect humiliation, as well as voyeurism.
10/18/2010
MyWifeExposed MyWifeExposed
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Originally posted by sugarOne
Do you get aroused when watching others having sex with your partner? Do you ever imagine this in your head just to get off? Does the thought of sharing your partner arouse you in any way and why? What if your not poly but you think of these things ... More
We both *love* the sex aspect, but are in a loving and committed relationship with each other, so the polyamory part is probably not on the cards.

Polyamory, to us, means loving more than one person. Threesomes or moresomes are just sex with multiple partners. It's probably a key distinction to make.

Both my wife and I are extremely aroused by the thought of her exposing herself to other men (and we indulge this little kink as often as we can), and sometimes we'll go as far as a threesome with the right person with them receiving oral from her. It's sex, and it's fun and arousing. If you're not polyamorous and you think about these things and get turned on by the idea, it means you probably have a healthy sex drive and are open to experimenting a bit. Go with it.
10/20/2010
Brandi Rouxxx Brandi Rouxxx
My husband and I are just starting to get into the lifestyle... We are not into swapping partners, and never will be. We just want to watch and be watched. We both enjoy born, and we both enjoy videoing ourselves and then watching it back... so we decided why not show others how much we pleasure each other during our love making sessions. We also think it would be fun to have a live porn going on while we're making love.... so we're gonna find out if this is something we will both enjoy...
10/27/2010
trios trios
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Originally posted by Brandi Rouxxx
My husband and I are just starting to get into the lifestyle... We are not into swapping partners, and never will be. We just want to watch and be watched. We both enjoy born, and we both enjoy videoing ourselves and then watching it back... so we ... More
That's really cool to hear. It sounds like you are starting to explore more. But keeping safety in mind. Let us know how it goes, maybe will try something along those lines too...
10/27/2010
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