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Today we had two articles on SexIs dealing with Polyamory. In the first, "Polyamour: A Soulful Slant on Multiple Sexual Lovestyles", A Modern Love Muse paints a picture of the definition of polyamory with a very broad stroke. In it she
Today we had two articles on SexIs dealing with Polyamory. In the first, "Polyamour: A Soulful Slant on Multiple Sexual Lovestyles", A Modern Love Muse paints a picture of the definition of polyamory with a very broad stroke. In it she asks: "How many of us think of ourselves as polyamorous? Some do, of course, but probably most of us think of ourselves as monogamous. Yet, how many of us can claim we've loved just one person in our lives? Likely, not many. So, are we truly monogamous or are most of us serially polyamorous?"
What are your thoughts?
The other article was a short sexfeed piece called, Polyamorists Argue for Polygamy in British Columbia. In it, Jeff Schult reports about a case that is being heard in the BC Supreme Court Supreme Court where the CPAA says that polygamy should not be considered criminal.
Do you think they should allow the legalization of polyamorous relationships?
My general rule is that if all parties involved are informed, consenting adults, it's nobody else's business.
I don't believe the concept of having one and only one true love is a common human trait, behaviourally. I look at partners like I look at, say, brownies: Out of all the brownies in the world, there probably is one best suited for me, that has the perfect amount of cocoa, sugar, walnuts, moistness etc. Does that mean that the brownie ranked 30th best couldn't satisfy me completely for a really, really long time? Absolutely not. I could possibly never taste the #1 brownie, but have very successful experiences with brownies number 30, 89, 108... maybe if I'm lucky number 12. You get the idea. Relationships are the same way. There's a spectrum of compatibility and we're lucky to find people who fall in the section that best suits us. Hopefully, though, we don't rank them like brownies.
I think this is a really interesting age for poly relationships, mostly because women are able to take more control of their love lives than maybe 50, 200 or 1000 years ago. The ranking systems of poly's past aren't today's set rules and are consistently being challenged. Some folks can't conceive of a group of 3 or 5 people who love each other equally or are happy with the rankings (I may be one of them), but it's happening, and I think that's really neat. Communication is a beautiful thing.
As for legality:
One reason I think it'll never be considered legally--at least not anytime soon--is the bureaucratic mess that would be rewriting the laws for medical emergencies, inheritances, and domestic violence disputes. We assign rights to people based on their legal marriage status. I'm guessing it's awful for one partner not to be allowed into a hospital room because s/he's not the one on the marriage certificate and I believe there's reason for that to be changed, but change is slow, excruciatingly so for "nontraditional" relationships' rights.