I didn't identify as poly until I got into a relationship with a poly person. I don't know if it'll last forever, but for now it suits my lifestyle. I tend to still be a single girl other than my partner (he lives an hour and a half away and we don't see each other often, so I still feel single)
I realized it when I fell in love with another man but didn't fall out of love with my husband. I loved them both passionately and completely, though differently. That's when I realized I was polyamorous and quite capable of balancing the needs of both men. The guys have differing views on their "polyness" but they both love me and care deeply for each other.
I keep having dreams that we both are attend sex party and go off separately. I'll tour the individual rooms and when I come back, she's kneeling on all fours in a dimly lit room with about 4 or 5 guys licking their chops. In another dream we are screwing separately side by side a member of the opposite sex. In yet another one I tie her to the four posts in the bed, blindfold her, and warm her up while either another man or woman enters the room and starts toying or screwing her. It's a turn on to think of that, definitely a fantasy I'd like to live out once.
I realized I was poly about a year ago. I had tried a few poly relationships in my early dating years, and then I was in an open relationship for 2 years. After that ended and I started dating again, I tried a poly relationship and it worked for me. But now I am currently in an open relationship again.
My grandma was French Polynesian. I always knew it but maybe if ur adopted you wouldn't know. You should deff check out your family tree! ancestry.com is really good! good luck
Well, I never expected this sort of reply! I think someone doesn't understand what being polyamorous (poly) is. In this case it means loving more than one partner at a time in every sense of the word not whether you are Polynesian.