When Poly doesn't work and there are children involved, what have you done or what would you do?

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When Poly doesn't work and there are children involved, what have you done or what would you do?

Unconventional Unconventional
I'll give you the condensed version: My first husband and I got married and had a son. After a crazy turn of events, I began dating our third, and eventually married him (after divorcing my first husband, of course) and had his child. My first husband is bisexual, and I recently hooked him up with an old childhood friend of mine. My husband, my ex-husband and I all live together with our two sons and my step-daughter (when it's our parenting time). So, barring the obvious "It depends on the situation" answer, what would you guys do if you had kids in a poly relationship and found that you preferred to be monogamous? Would you want your children to stop using parental titles for the "parent" that wasn't a DNA contributor? (Both of my sons still call both of them "Dad")
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
(I've been there) Remain living together
Unconventional
1
(I've been there) No longer co-habitate
(Never had to deal with that) Remain living together
Wicked Wahine , RosesThorns , Hipposterous
3
(Never had to deal with that) No longer co-habitate
Other-Explain
Airen Wolf
1
Total votes: 5 (5 voters)
Poll is closed
04/16/2013
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Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
Quote:
Originally posted by Unconventional
I'll give you the condensed version: My first husband and I got married and had a son. After a crazy turn of events, I began dating our third, and eventually married him (after divorcing my first husband, of course) and had his child. My first ...
My daughters were only 3 and 5 when Arch wandered his way into our lives. They are now 14 and 16 and we have a son who is 3. If we should break up we have decided to remain co-parents. We are not going to fight like idiots over the kids and we will strive to be adults in our decisions.

I can't see a situation where we would break up...we are kinda stick to it kinda people. The only situation i could see is if Canada and the US get stupid with each other and cause us to have to flip the marriage equation around so we can stay in one country.
04/18/2013
Wicked Wahine Wicked Wahine
Assuming you had the children call someone "Daddy" because he functions in that role, I see no reason for that to change just because you may not be sleeping with him anymore. What's important to the child is this person's fitness to parent. Unless there is some really good reason to upset the family dynamic, I would prefer not to.
04/18/2013
marmouse marmouse
We cohabited for as long as it was practical and parented all together, my spouse, our ex, and I, but then we had to move out of state for various other reasons, school, family, etc, and the ex didn't want to come so he stayed behind and we took the kids most of the time as we were better equipped to look after them. But obviously the kids still see all three as their parents.
05/06/2013
RosesThorns RosesThorns
If something were to happen in my relationship... ( there are 4 of us adults, the kids are not mine biologically and teens) I would just talk to the kids and probably not remain living together, however, if things go the way we want and we manage to have a baby soon, I would try to remain friends and co-habitat as I wouldn't want to separate a young child from their parent(s), this is less of the case with the Teens, because I came into their life at a much later stage and I think they would be able to handle my leaving better. More like no longer having a close relative living with them and more like having a close relative that keeps in touch. *shrug * I dunno I am totally babbling.
05/10/2013
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