if you have been in a long relationship for years and want to try a threesome would you tell them you want to have threesome or wont afraid they might leave relationship?

JADE76 JADE76
I would love to try a threesome but i dont think it would go well if i told him
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yes i would tell your partner
Rawr4483
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no afraid they would be angry
JADE76 , .kaycat
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depends on relationship
pixiedustVixen , Hummingbird , Hallmar82 , padmeamidala , SMichelle , eri86 , Gunsmoke , evie.amor , PeaceToTheMiddleEast , GONE! , konicaguy , married with children , karenm , Alan & Michele , SecretKinksters
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Total votes: 18 (18 voters)
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05/16/2013
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pixiedustVixen pixiedustVixen
hey jade it definately depends on the relationship some guys really really want it and some guys just fantisize but i think overall most of them want it so i dont think they would be angry unless that is a total turnoff.. it really depends on your guy. i had that experience and it turned into my worst nightmare because he ended up cheating constantly with the other girl when it was supposed to only be the few times i agreed to it so you have to be cautious. if you are totally confident with it and yourself, go for it but if not then Dont, when im in doubt i usually Dont
05/16/2013
Hummingbird Hummingbird
It really does depend on the relationship and the people involved. I've tried to just discuss a poly one and that was a definite no further discussion at all.
05/16/2013
Hallmar82 Hallmar82
I would start with a conversation on fantasies and see what the reaction is when you mention threesomes. I would not start a conversation saying it's what you want. Many people might become defensive and believe they are not satisfying you.
05/16/2013
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
It might be interesting to watch some porn together and see how he reacts to MFM 3-somes. His reaction might tell you a lot.

What I would be more concerned about is the ability of your relationship to survive the complications of a 3rd party. The 3rd will not be an inanimate dildo/robot. The requisite sincere interaction that a 3-some takes can - and will shed new light on your current relationship - and not necessarily in a good way.

Proceed with caution.
05/16/2013
evie.amor evie.amor
Personally, I could only have a three way with someone I wasn't serious about (like someone who's more a friend than a boyfriend/husband). But that's just me! I'd proceed with caution, definitely start with toys first.
05/16/2013
konicaguy konicaguy
Quote:
Originally posted by JADE76
I would love to try a threesome but i dont think it would go well if i told him
Just depends: girlfriends in the past wouldn't mind me asking, my wife however...
05/16/2013
married with children married with children
I dont think I would tell her, but not because she would get angry. But it does not really matter, as I do not want to have a threesum.
05/16/2013
karenm karenm
It depends on the relationship, and I'd say be cautious about it. Personally, I wouldn't bring it up because I know my partner would be very uncomfortable about it and we'd never do it. But some people have a different, more open relationship than ours.
05/17/2013
Beautiful-Disaster Beautiful-Disaster
Well.. I'd never want a 3 some... But I know if I had a partner that asked me.. I'd be really upset.. Just because I'd feel like I'm not good enough.. I'd actually also be offended..
05/17/2013
Alan & Michele Alan & Michele
We've traveled this road, and you've gotten a lot of good advice here.

One thing I wanted to add is; you might want to stop and think about why you want a threesome before you even bring it up to your partner. For us it was just a matter of 2 kinky peeps adding a 3rd kinky peep into the mix for a little different kind of play session. Alan & I had no relationship issues and there was nothing missing in our sex life beforehand or afterward. It was more of a shared fantasy, which has been repeated from time to time. If you can't say the same, then there's a good chance that having a threesome will damage your relationship permanently, even if your partner agrees to it.
Oh, and be very careful about who you choose to be the 3rd if it comes to that. It's not a good thing to wind up having the emotional responsibility of dealing with somebody who can't accept the difference between "casual threesome" and "poly relationship."

~M
05/17/2013
KrissyNovacaine KrissyNovacaine
If it is something you want to explore I always advocate communicating, but it needs to be clear that you are not trying to replace your partner or anything.
05/17/2013
SecretKinksters SecretKinksters
Depends on the relationship. The man I'm with now we can talk and have talked about almost everything...including threesomes...it all depends if you are BOTH comfortable talking about anything and everything sexually with one another.
05/19/2013
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