I have told my partner that I really want to blindfold him and tie his hands up so that I can do what I please with him. I haven't been able to talk him into it yet. Does anyone have some pointers. I think the issue is that he really likes to be hands on and see every little thing that is happening, but I do believe that he would also enjoy the experience of not knowing what is going to happen next. What should I do... what's the next step?
Bondage... I want it!
Been there. Try telling him he has to be open to new ideas and learning about other senses. A blindfold will mke him more aware of smell, sound, soft touch, warm, cold......the list goes on. EF sells a kit with a blindfold, cuffs and a feather. Buy it, let him see it and then may-be he'll try it. You may have to let him do it to you first.
10/12/2009
I know plenty of people who would absolutely love that (ie. me and my partner!) but I've never had someone who said no to some light bondage. Maybe just ask him to try it for you for one night of fun and see how it goes. Unless he's really afraid of losing control I can't see why he'd say no! I'm sure once he gets the chance to let go he'll find it to be plenty of fun.
10/12/2009
When we were young I used to do play this little game where he had to pretend he was tied up. He was not allowed to move even his lips unless I let him. Then I would tease him mercilessly. Actually he still loves that sometimes. But we didn't use blindfolds back then. So maybe introducing this type of play that way would be a step in the right direction and make him feel safer.
10/12/2009
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I think that is the key. Allowing him to try it on me and see how aroused he becomes. Maybe with that flowing through his head he will allow me to try it on him. Maybe?
Originally posted by
Heather
Been there. Try telling him he has to be open to new ideas and learning about other senses. A blindfold will mke him more aware of smell, sound, soft touch, warm, cold......the list goes on. EF sells a kit with a blindfold, cuffs and a feather. Buy
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Been there. Try telling him he has to be open to new ideas and learning about other senses. A blindfold will mke him more aware of smell, sound, soft touch, warm, cold......the list goes on. EF sells a kit with a blindfold, cuffs and a feather. Buy it, let him see it and then may-be he'll try it. You may have to let him do it to you first.
10/13/2009
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I think control is the major issue here. He likes to have all of it... but I believe if he allows me to take a little he will enjoy it greatly. I have gotten a little control by trying anal play on him... and he really loves it. Maybe I should try one step at a time.
Originally posted by
Boink
I know plenty of people who would absolutely love that (ie. me and my partner!) but I've never had someone who said no to some light bondage. Maybe just ask him to try it for you for one night of fun and see how it goes. Unless he's really afraid
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I know plenty of people who would absolutely love that (ie. me and my partner!) but I've never had someone who said no to some light bondage. Maybe just ask him to try it for you for one night of fun and see how it goes. Unless he's really afraid of losing control I can't see why he'd say no! I'm sure once he gets the chance to let go he'll find it to be plenty of fun.
10/13/2009
I agree with the other responses. I love bondage from my wife but it is hard for her to be dominant but she can on certain occasions. We are fixing to have our 8th wedding anniversary on the 27th of November and we both were talking about how our sex life has evolved. It has come from openness and honesty. We both came from long term marriages and hence the baggage that we carried came with us and all wasn’t good.
We only made one rule for our sexuality; “Only us two in the bedroom and other than that go for it.”
We talked about my need for her to be dominant some and we started of with a blindfold it gave her a feeling of security where she could do things and I not notice her expressions and the “not knowing” was intense for me. It has taken her time to get used to me loving the feeling of serving her. Lately during her shower when she is ready to shave down there. She calls me to the shower and I go my knees and shave her vaginal area and her legs. I then dry her off with a towel and then blow dry her body and hair. She loves it. I wear panties because for one; my normal underwear is panties but when I am serving her this tends to keep my erection to a minimum. After all it is about her not me. We also have tried lately using a nipple clamp to keep my foreskin in place over my penis until she is pleasured orally and by other means before unclamping it.
Angie enjoys some rough sex on occasions but I can’t be dominant. I have tried and I just can’t be.
We both have had dominant professions in our lives. My wife is a sheriff’s deputy and a nurse part time. I am a fulltime ernurse and firefighter and was a Navy Seal for 8 years.
I probably write too much but I can’t say enough for being open and honest. My wife and I are close mentally and emotionally and we both agree that if one of us has thought of it sexually the other has also.
One thing that may help also; I love to write. I often times when I am in the mood for something I will text my wife something that’s on my mind.
We only made one rule for our sexuality; “Only us two in the bedroom and other than that go for it.”
We talked about my need for her to be dominant some and we started of with a blindfold it gave her a feeling of security where she could do things and I not notice her expressions and the “not knowing” was intense for me. It has taken her time to get used to me loving the feeling of serving her. Lately during her shower when she is ready to shave down there. She calls me to the shower and I go my knees and shave her vaginal area and her legs. I then dry her off with a towel and then blow dry her body and hair. She loves it. I wear panties because for one; my normal underwear is panties but when I am serving her this tends to keep my erection to a minimum. After all it is about her not me. We also have tried lately using a nipple clamp to keep my foreskin in place over my penis until she is pleasured orally and by other means before unclamping it.
Angie enjoys some rough sex on occasions but I can’t be dominant. I have tried and I just can’t be.
We both have had dominant professions in our lives. My wife is a sheriff’s deputy and a nurse part time. I am a fulltime ernurse and firefighter and was a Navy Seal for 8 years.
I probably write too much but I can’t say enough for being open and honest. My wife and I are close mentally and emotionally and we both agree that if one of us has thought of it sexually the other has also.
One thing that may help also; I love to write. I often times when I am in the mood for something I will text my wife something that’s on my mind.
10/13/2009
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I think that is great that you are so open with each other. It really is so important to succeed sexually. I love telling my hubby what I like, and what I don't. That way he focuses on the good, and doesn't try the bad again. It really helps, and we make mind blowing love!
Originally posted by
SealTeam2
I agree with the other responses. I love bondage from my wife but it is hard for her to be dominant but she can on certain occasions. We are fixing to have our 8th wedding anniversary on the 27th of November and we both were talking about how our sex
...
I agree with the other responses. I love bondage from my wife but it is hard for her to be dominant but she can on certain occasions. We are fixing to have our 8th wedding anniversary on the 27th of November and we both were talking about how our sex life has evolved. It has come from openness and honesty. We both came from long term marriages and hence the baggage that we carried came with us and all wasn’t good.
We only made one rule for our sexuality; “Only us two in the bedroom and other than that go for it.”
We talked about my need for her to be dominant some and we started of with a blindfold it gave her a feeling of security where she could do things and I not notice her expressions and the “not knowing” was intense for me. It has taken her time to get used to me loving the feeling of serving her. Lately during her shower when she is ready to shave down there. She calls me to the shower and I go my knees and shave her vaginal area and her legs. I then dry her off with a towel and then blow dry her body and hair. She loves it. I wear panties because for one; my normal underwear is panties but when I am serving her this tends to keep my erection to a minimum. After all it is about her not me. We also have tried lately using a nipple clamp to keep my foreskin in place over my penis until she is pleasured orally and by other means before unclamping it.
Angie enjoys some rough sex on occasions but I can’t be dominant. I have tried and I just can’t be.
We both have had dominant professions in our lives. My wife is a sheriff’s deputy and a nurse part time. I am a fulltime ernurse and firefighter and was a Navy Seal for 8 years.
I probably write too much but I can’t say enough for being open and honest. My wife and I are close mentally and emotionally and we both agree that if one of us has thought of it sexually the other has also.
One thing that may help also; I love to write. I often times when I am in the mood for something I will text my wife something that’s on my mind.
We only made one rule for our sexuality; “Only us two in the bedroom and other than that go for it.”
We talked about my need for her to be dominant some and we started of with a blindfold it gave her a feeling of security where she could do things and I not notice her expressions and the “not knowing” was intense for me. It has taken her time to get used to me loving the feeling of serving her. Lately during her shower when she is ready to shave down there. She calls me to the shower and I go my knees and shave her vaginal area and her legs. I then dry her off with a towel and then blow dry her body and hair. She loves it. I wear panties because for one; my normal underwear is panties but when I am serving her this tends to keep my erection to a minimum. After all it is about her not me. We also have tried lately using a nipple clamp to keep my foreskin in place over my penis until she is pleasured orally and by other means before unclamping it.
Angie enjoys some rough sex on occasions but I can’t be dominant. I have tried and I just can’t be.
We both have had dominant professions in our lives. My wife is a sheriff’s deputy and a nurse part time. I am a fulltime ernurse and firefighter and was a Navy Seal for 8 years.
I probably write too much but I can’t say enough for being open and honest. My wife and I are close mentally and emotionally and we both agree that if one of us has thought of it sexually the other has also.
One thing that may help also; I love to write. I often times when I am in the mood for something I will text my wife something that’s on my mind.
10/14/2009
How I see it (but I'm not married)is if a person's open and willing to open up sexually to their partner, it makes the sex soo much better. The way that I se it is if I give myself over to a man as a submissive (which there's only 2) that I'll subbie for. If he wants to be a Dom. I like for them to go through some of the same things that I had to go through. Just so they know and remember how it feels. 1 of the 2 doms that I work with is suppose to train another as part of his trainning I get to be over him. My two men know me, what I like, how I like it, and how rough I want it.
05/31/2011
Take him by surprise. Most of the time the build up to something is the hard part so just take control. Get everything ready while he's out, then take him into the bedroom, take top and tie him down gently. Once he's experienced it the first time it'll be easy in the future.
If you lecture him and tell him he has to be more open he'll likely cave and try it out, but he'll go into it with a bad attitude so it wont be overly enjoyable for either of you.
If you lecture him and tell him he has to be more open he'll likely cave and try it out, but he'll go into it with a bad attitude so it wont be overly enjoyable for either of you.
05/31/2011
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