Do you ever fantasize about watching your lover/partner/signific ant other with someone else?

new southern girl new southern girl
I recently read a book titled SWAP. Two couples basically swap for the weekend in the same house. At certain times they even watch their loved one with another man, woman or both. After reading I thought about what it would be like to be in that situation and realized I kinda thought it would be fun. Upon telling my lover, I found out that He would actually like to see the same thing. So I am wondering who else has that same type of fantasy.
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
Yes I have thought about it and want to see it
74
Yes I have thought about it and do not want to see it
53
No I have not thought about it
75
I have done it.
17
Total votes: 219 (209 voters)
Poll is closed
09/09/2010
  • Weekly BOGO: Accessorize for Pleasure! Buy 1 Vibrator And Ge
  • Try a luxury harness with a dildo and save 45% on a kit!
  • Get a FREE Pleasure Balm when buying OhLaLa Lingerie
  • Better Price - Save 40%
  • Better Price Sale - Save 50%
  • 1
  • 2
  • 3
  • 4
  • 5
All promotions
NuMe NuMe
Not even for one second.
09/09/2010
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
I do fantasize about 3somes and other combinations - but it isn't going to happen.
09/09/2010
Kindred Kindred
Never thought about it.
09/09/2010
Darling Jen Darling Jen
Never would ever consider it. I'm way too jealous and I hope my next partner is just as possessive and protective as I am.
09/09/2010
ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
Never thought about it. I don't think I could.
09/09/2010
Passionate Pastor Passionate Pastor
No interest at all.
09/09/2010
Alura Une Alura Une
I have thought about this but I could not bear to see it in reality. I am certain he would not like to watch me with someone else, either. We took each others' virginity and we are just a little possessive (not like crazy possessive!). We are happier this way with just us.
09/09/2010
Liz Liz
No. Not my thing. Maybe in a previous relationship, but not this one.
09/09/2010
sexysweetieshan sexysweetieshan
Never! He's mine! I don't share. To me, that's what marriage is about.
09/09/2010
Lurr Lurr
out of the question.
09/09/2010
kck kck
He cheated on me earlier in our relationship. So, no, I would never entertain such thoughts. And I would NEVER want to actually see it.
09/09/2010
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
Quote:
Originally posted by new southern girl
I recently read a book titled SWAP. Two couples basically swap for the weekend in the same house. At certain times they even watch their loved one with another man, woman or both. After reading I thought about what it would be like to be in that ... More
In fact Sigel has a new playmate that I am really looking forward to getting to watch him with! It is a shared kink with him and I and luckily our lifemate is willing to entertain as well. I would caution you that the first time you watch your partner enjoy themselves with someone else it WILL be awkward...it can be hawt as hell but there will be a bit of emotion. Be prepared for that or it will totally mind fuck you. Sigel was certain for 20 years that he wanted to see me really really enjoying myself with someone else...when it finally happened he felt left out and lonely. Now we have an amazing life partner who appologized and admitted that he had a migraine that night and wasn't totally into the whole event. The point is you need to be comfortable enough to be able to discuss what you are feeling even after the event BEFORE you give it a try. Also remember that there is another person involved as well, unless you pick up a total stranger (NOT recommended) or a professional sex worker you will probably meet up with this person again. You need to think through how awkward that could be.
IF you manage to get past all this then don't forget to have FUN with it! LOL
09/09/2010
new southern girl new southern girl
Quote:
Originally posted by Airen Wolf
In fact Sigel has a new playmate that I am really looking forward to getting to watch him with! It is a shared kink with him and I and luckily our lifemate is willing to entertain as well. I would caution you that the first time you watch your ... More
Thank you for that! It sounds like you were able to get through all the awkwardness and I think that is great. And this is something that we will talk about a lot before or if we do decide to go through with it.
09/10/2010
PurpleBerry PurpleBerry
No way....no how...
09/11/2010
Blinker Blinker
Quote:
Originally posted by NuMe
Not even for one second.
Ditto.
09/11/2010
Envy Envy
Fantasy, for both of us seeing the other with another, or including a 3rd person. But in reality, not gonna happen.
09/11/2010
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
Quote:
Originally posted by new southern girl
Thank you for that! It sounds like you were able to get through all the awkwardness and I think that is great. And this is something that we will talk about a lot before or if we do decide to go through with it.
Heh it sounds easier than it was, I had to get over my fear that I didn't deserve Sigel, that he didn't (couldn't) really love me and that he was looking for someone 'better'. This was a process that took many more years than it had to but now that I've gotten to a place where I believe him when he says he loves me, I can actually enjoy watching him. I really do, he's amazing when he's all into the experience!
09/11/2010
SexyySarah SexyySarah
Nope never really thought about it, but as a fantasy I wouldn't mind acting it out.
09/13/2010
aleong aleong
I've thought of it before, and I told my boyfriend. I think I would let him, I just don't want to know about it or see it.
09/13/2010
new southern girl new southern girl
Quote:
Originally posted by SexyySarah
Nope never really thought about it, but as a fantasy I wouldn't mind acting it out.
That's the way I was until I read that book. Now It is something that I regularly fantasize about!
09/13/2010
clp clp
I think about it; at some point it may happen. No rush, though, and not a big deal if it doesn't. I think we have just as much imagining and pretending as if it were to actually happen.
09/13/2010
ScottA ScottA
Just enough thought to decide "no way".
09/14/2010
Madeira Madeira
I get turned on by watching my girlfriend (my domme) punish other subs, largely because I get a slight feeling of "haha, you're getting punished and I'm the good one, na-na-na-na" yeah... I'm mature
09/19/2010
Riccio Riccio
I am too madly in love with my woman and too jealous to think about this scenario with any pleasure whatsoever! punto e basta
09/19/2010
~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
This is what I immediately thought..."Hell no, why the heck would I ever want to think of that?"
09/19/2010
drifter10 drifter10
yeah pretty hot when taking turns lol
09/30/2010
MyWifeExposed MyWifeExposed
For us it was a case of finding out we had a complimentary kink (she exhibitionist, me voyeur) that led us to experiment with involving others in our sex life. We did the full swap, albeit in the same room, a couple of times and found that it was fun but not the thing that gave us the ultimate sexual thrill.

We never regretted the experiences and see them as contributing to our relationship positively. We learned a bit about ourselves and each other and found out what we really enjoy.
10/19/2010
Illusional Illusional
Quote:
Originally posted by Lurr
out of the question.
Ditto.
10/19/2010
Serendipity Serendipity
although i am polyamorous, i don't often like watching my partner(s) play with another, unless i am involved i would prefer to be somewhere else while they have their fun.
10/19/2010
Total posts: 101
Unique posters: 95