Do you ever wish your partner was kinkier?

Contributor: OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
No, I'm happy with the way Ow is. Perfect for me.
08/07/2015
Contributor: Inquisitor Inquisitor
Eh, sometimes. I mean I love her either way but I wish she would let "her hair down" more often. You know let the bad girl out to play. She's a fun one!
08/07/2015
Contributor: Thong man Thong man
I thought my wife was "vanilla" until I started bringing up ideas. I realized that she has a kinky side to her.
08/09/2015
Contributor: konicaguy konicaguy
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Originally posted by pfp
Lately I've been wishing my boyfriend was a little less vanilla, you know what I mean? Does anyone else ever feel this way? Is there a way to coax out their inner kinks?
I certainly wish my wife was kinkier, but I've just gotten used to the fact that she is who she is and I would never push her out of her comfort zone.
08/11/2015
Contributor: Evoluchun Evoluchun
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Originally posted by pfp
Lately I've been wishing my boyfriend was a little less vanilla, you know what I mean? Does anyone else ever feel this way? Is there a way to coax out their inner kinks?
no im good i like my bf is not kinky much cause neither am i
07/11/2016
Contributor: mfmtrios mfmtrios
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Originally posted by pfp
Lately I've been wishing my boyfriend was a little less vanilla, you know what I mean? Does anyone else ever feel this way? Is there a way to coax out their inner kinks?
absolutely!!
08/30/2016
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
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Originally posted by Thong man
I thought my wife was "vanilla" until I started bringing up ideas. I realized that she has a kinky side to her.
I'm guessing this is true for many couples. At least it's true for us. "In the beginning" there seems to be a need to 'play the good girl' - which mostly implies not being too experienced or eager. My wife was just waiting for me to 'give her permission' to go outside the box (sorry for the pun).

Inviting her to try new and kinkier things was met with gradual acceptance. Then you reach a point where pretty much anything goes!
09/08/2016
Contributor: Adam7476 Adam7476
I wished mine would open up a little more, but its who she is and I still love her not matter what.
12/03/2016
Contributor: pelpsych pelpsych
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Originally posted by pfp
Lately I've been wishing my boyfriend was a little less vanilla, you know what I mean? Does anyone else ever feel this way? Is there a way to coax out their inner kinks?
how kinky do you want him to be?
09/28/2017
Contributor: pelpsych pelpsych
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Originally posted by pfp
Lately I've been wishing my boyfriend was a little less vanilla, you know what I mean? Does anyone else ever feel this way? Is there a way to coax out their inner kinks?
are you online now... to discuss this?????
09/28/2017
Contributor: pelpsych pelpsych
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Originally posted by bayosgirl
Yeah. "Kinky" for him is spanking me. And he won't even do it hard. LOL
how hard do you want to be spanked...
09/28/2017
Contributor: OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
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Originally posted by Thong man
I thought my wife was "vanilla" until I started bringing up ideas. I realized that she has a kinky side to her.
Many men and I suppose women want their SO's to be more kinky or desire more sex. Some men need to be careful of what they wish for. Women can be insatiable if get overly aroused. And most men are one and done. Then we are left having to use toys from this site.
09/29/2017
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
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Originally posted by OH&W, Lovebears
Many men and I suppose women want their SO's to be more kinky or desire more sex. Some men need to be careful of what they wish for. Women can be insatiable if get overly aroused. And most men are one and done. Then we are left having to use ... more
Yep - I'm there. At times I feel like a created a 'monster' or at least a nymphomaniac - but I've got to tell you I'm not complaining!

After 25 years of begging for more - now I can beg for her big dick! and tonight's special treats, her Crop and Tawse!

BTW - OH try keeping up with a woman 11 years younger! It's enough to keep you on the treadmill!
09/29/2017
Contributor: frisky069 frisky069
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Originally posted by pfp
Lately I've been wishing my boyfriend was a little less vanilla, you know what I mean? Does anyone else ever feel this way? Is there a way to coax out their inner kinks?
I wish my husband was a bit more kinky also! Honestly the only way I get him to be a little kinkier is by explaining how much fun it would be for me to do certain things or how I enjoy certain things. Sometimes even buying toys that would be a bit weird to him and have him use them with me.
Talking is best to get him to open up and for me to Express certain things. I love light choking and spanking (just to list a few) and he would have never done that if I never expressed it to him.
01/20/2020
Contributor: Bailed Bailed
I'm pragmatic and realistic. I have read enough, have been exposed to enough, and have had sex talks with enough women to infer that in general, women are more kinky than men. Consistent with posts of many women in this thread, my fiancee has told me that many of her girlfriends complain of bland sex. In contrast, my fiancee purses her kinky sexuality.

There could be biological and social basis for my inference. Men, in comparison to women, are easy, especially after they hit 30. Men are easy to make cum, and once they've cum, they become sleepy (biology). Socially, women are expected to show restraint and refrain from talking about sex. When women hit their sexual primes, which can last for decades, they can have sex for hours many times a day, every day. Female orgasm, besides being intensely euphoric, provides women with bursts of energy, which is probably caused by procreation. Orgasm causes men to feel sleepy, yet orgasms give women bursts of energy. From my experience, orgasms cause women to become more horny.

Women seem to have far more sexual fantasies than men. In fact, other than FMF sex, I do not know of other men's sexual fantasies. My fiancee has at least a half-dozen sexual fantasies, assuredly more. She knows that she can tell me about her fantasies in graphic detail, and I'll never judge her.

Women have more erogenous zones than men. Years ago I read a treatise authored by a female physician who was exploring women's multiple men sexual fantasies. Her thesis was that when many of women's erogenous zones are simultaneously stimulated, it causes sensory overload in their brains (Their brains cannon simultaneously process stimulation from many of their erogenous zones.), and when they hit orgasm, their brains release an overabundance of euphoria-causing chemicals causing women to feel unparalleled euphoria. Hence, many women, after experiencing the most incredible euphoria they've ever experienced, find themselves pursuing multiple men sex.

My fiancee told me very early in our dating relationship that she loves kinky sex. I asked her to define kinky sex. She tried but couldn't. I have no clue of what would constitute kinky sex. But I do believe that most women have desire for kinky sex. Their biggest obstacle to experiencing mystical, euphoric sex is their husbands/boyfriends. Once men's wads are shot, they're good for naps.

Based upon my experiences, what I've read, and what women have told me, most women want kinky sex to include experiencing many of their sexual fantasies. Probability would tend to indicate that a woman to whom a man is married or a girl he's dating has repressed sexual desires. Women are every bit as if not more sexual than men. As is true with many of my fiancee's girlfriends, they are either unsure of how to broach the topic of their repressed sexual desires with their husbands/boyfriends, or they're afraid to because of the possibly of negative reactions.

My advice is open, honest sexual communication without judgment. I'd never ridicule a woman for her sexual desires/fantasies. I firmly believe that is men's responsibilities to learn the extents of their wives/girlfriends sexuality. From my experience, if a woman trusts a man and knows he will not judge her, she'll become honest and candid about her sexual desires and fantasies.

My fiancee and I are connected on many strata. However, our open and honest sexual communication without judgment might be our most intense connection. We established open and honest sexual communication very early in our dating relationship. She has told me that I know more about her sexual desires, fantasies, and experiences than anyone she had ever known including her ex-husband. She knows that I will never judge her. She is an extremely sexually liberated women who knows of mystical, euphoric sex. She knows that she can always tell me anything that's on her mind, and that includes sex. She is absolutely adorable when she looks at me after a stressful day and says, "I just want to go to your house and fuck all night."

I've found it wise and most enlightening to listen to how women say what they say. Within their spoken words might be, "Let's try something kinky tonight." Actions speak louder than words. I'll watch how they do what they do, Women might convey an image of modesty. I can't remember how many women have told me that they prefer to be naked. A girl I dated in college was sexually liberated for her age. She took me to a pool party. On the way, she told me it would wind up being a skinny dipping party. Most people were naked when we arrived. When I returned from getting us a couple beers, my girlfriend was completely naked. That was one fun party. A very conservative appearing businesswoman I know told me years ago that she preferred going to nude beaches. My ex-wife loved to be naked, and she was always skinny dipping in our pool. My fiancee can go all day at my house without ever wearing a stitch of clothing.

Don't let women's appearances and public personas fool you. Most women have very wild and kinky sides. It is men's responsibility to make them feel comfortable to allow their wild and kinky sides to surface. When they do surface, I've found in beneficial to make women feel completely comfortable with their sexuality.

That's all I got to say 'bout that ;-)
01/21/2020
Contributor: SoloRebel SoloRebel
I just wish my wife was as half as kinky as I am; that’d be just fine . Spank, pinch, poke, slap, choke, peg me...I’m game! She’s got a kink side; I’ve seen sparks of it from time to time, but it’s blocked by some resistance or something. I’ll keep trying; introducing toys and whatever; until she lets go and opens up to what she’s been missing. It’s not been easy !
01/22/2020
Contributor: Bailed Bailed
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Originally posted by SoloRebel
I just wish my wife was as half as kinky as I am; that’d be just fine . Spank, pinch, poke, slap, choke, peg me...I’m game! She’s got a kink side; I’ve seen sparks of it from time to time, but it’s blocked by some resistance or something. I’ll keep ... more
Have you asked her?

From experience, when a woman authentically trusts her boyfriend/husband and
knows he'll not judge her, she'll tell him everything and anything.

My advice is to never violate a woman's trust, especially by harshly judging her sexuality, especially her historic sexual experiences (who she's fucked before you).
01/25/2020
Contributor: Bailed Bailed
After a last Saturday informal gathering of couples, there is no doubt in my mind that women are more kinky than men. That's a good thing. Men love naughty women.
01/29/2020