Why do guys have this fantasy...

Because it's hot? I'm a woman, and I love facials and swallowing. Very intimate, very sexy, shows complete acceptance of your lover, the way your lover's body works, and that you revel in their pleasure and sexuality. That's how I feel about it.

I think there's also something about "marking" your lover that guys find sexy with facials or cumming on their partner. At least, I like to feel that I've been marked as his. He's indicated that he's doing that to me when he does cum on me, though that was a development that came later, because I was the one that told him I wanted him to cum on me in the first place.

Facials and cumming in your partner's mouth have been around long before pornography. Even if you saw it in a porn and got turned on by it, seeing it in pornography isn't enough to make it something you want--you have to be turned on by it, obviously. I think most men (and a lot of women) are visual...and what a visual it is, to watch yourself climax all over your partner. I like watching the moment of ejaculation, myself. It's a huge turn on, and makes me feel awesome to know that I made him feel that kind of pleasure. less

On the face? That's more of a porn thing.
In the mouth? That's just obvious. The few oral sex orgasms I have had, the last thing I want is for the sensations to _stop_ when they are the strongest. There is something incredibly hot about being sucked dry. less

This is why I only watch Lesbian porn. Well, that an the anal scenes that go ATM. I hate to watch the cum shot. It grosses me out completely. My husband likes that part in a porn, and in real life. I allow him to do it if I don't feel like swallowing, but I'd much rather have cum inside me than any other place. I don't like cum on my skin or any place to make a mess. I hate in my hair or any other place that requires me to jump up and shower. I don't allow my husband to cum on any body part. less

I don't think that anyone should push a partner into doing something they are uncomfortable with, and some people are immature enough to see something in porn, get turned on by it, and then expect it to be a given in the bedroom. That being said, the reason that some things are so popular in porn, is because people get turned on by it. I don't think that porn makes people want something, or conditions them to say, "hey...that's hot." Porn can give you ideas...wonderful ideas even, and why shouldn't it? It's fantasy. Facials are probably overused in the porn world, and I think that's because people want to see the "big finish" at the end--there's something gratifying about seeing the moment of climax, just like reaching climax in real life is satisfying; it ties the scene up. Now, why on the face so much more than elsewhere? Well, we could debate about that, but I think people get turned on by seeing the woman in a position where she's accepting her partner's sexuality fully, in a submissive position, and usually appears to want it or like it. People love to see a smiling woman covered in cum, probably because we come from a society that has long taught us in some very subversive ways, that women tolerate sex, don't really want it, but they'll do it to satisfy men. To see that turned on it's head in a visual representation can be really powerful, psychologically.

That being said, I have never been able to understand what is inherently disrespectful about cum on a woman's face. If you see the opposite, where a woman squirts all over her partner, most men love that! Hell, drench me in your orgasm! We had such a good time, that we made a mess of ourselves over it, and look at all the physical evidence of what a good time we had! But if a guy cums on a woman's face? No, no...that's because he's treating her like a whore. Why? What is so offensive about the result of male orgasm? It's the same attitude that some people have towards swallowing, or even getting cum elsewhere than inside of her. Why? I don't find my partner's orgasm, the one that I so satisfyingly induced, a result of his pleasure at it's zenith, to be anything offensive. In fact, I want to see it, feel it, taste it, smell it, take it in. I revel in his pleasure and his sexuality.

But then, I'm with a good guy whose intentions are not to disrespect me or hurt me. If I had a bad experience with someone who interpreted such an act to be a way that he hurt a woman through some sort of symbolic show of his supposed dominance over me, a malicious dominance, instead of that I was an active participant in wanting from him, then it would be a different story. But it comes down to intention, as always, with sex. less