Have you and your significant other ever been to a sex club?

The post above isn't exactly accurate.

Please allow me to elaborate.

I feel like this is such a misconception about the community, so I will say this more than once.

ALL PLAY IS CONSENSUAL BETWEEN 1 OR MORE ADULTS.

Most clubs require a screening/interview prior to being granted entry. The interview can be in person or over the phone and they usually require speaking with both partners (assuming it's not a single M or F).

After the interview if you are invited to attend the club, you must pay a membership fee to the club. The fee can be charged annually, semi annually, quarterly, monthly, or lifetime. In addition to the membership fee, a couple would typically also be required to pay a nightly entrance fee - pretty much like a cover charge at any nightclub.

The fees are to offset the cost of running the club. Things like lights, water, rental space, keeping the place clean, laundry, security, DJ, bartender, maintenance like a broken light bulb or a leaky pipe, etc.

Most clubs are BYOB, because most clubs do not possess a liquor license. Most clubs supply mixers (juice, soda, garnishes, etc) and have a paid or volunteer bartender.

Clubs are pretty much like you would expect of any typical nightclub. There are people dancing, people mingling, people sitting, standing at the bar, etc.

Men are dressed in typical night club attire - nice jeans, button down shirts, or nicer shirts. Women are welcome to wear as much or as little as they are comfortable with. Some walk around naked, some only in panties, some in teeny tiny dresses, and some jeans and a t shirt. The majority of women wear mini dresses or dance wear unless there is a theme to the evening (Hawaiian, Polka Dot, School Girl, etc) then the women dress in costume accordingly.

There is a separate section of the club for “play.” Play could be anything from masturbation, oral sex, BDSM, play with toys, voyeurism, to actual sex. It can be with your own partner, someone you just met, someone you meet while you are in the room, several someones, etc. The key take away here is that:


ALL PLAY IS CONSENSUAL BETWEEN 1 OR MORE ADULTS.



No means no. That means asking before you touch someone, watch someone, etc. If someone says no, it’s not up for discussion “Oh why not?”

I would say that most swingers attend the clubs and do not get laid 100% of the time. We probably full swap (all sexual acts are up for discussion) about 1 out of every three times that we attend, and have soft swapped (everything but penetration) maybe 1 out of every 20. Most swingers go because they like the atmosphere that the clubs provide. It’s a chance to be yourself, not be judged, and have a little fun if the opportunity presents itself.

I want to stress that the money that is being exchanged does not guarantee anything. The money is a donation that you are making towards the maintenance and upkeep of your club.

Prostitutes take money for sex. Swingers just want an even exchange – nobody is paying me to participate, or to accept any offers that come my way.

You can find locations for sex clubs/parties in your area with a simple google search -or by joining one of the many swinger online communities. less

The post above isn't exactly accurate.

Please allow me to elaborate.

I feel like this is such a misconception about the community, so I will say this more than once.

ALL PLAY IS CONSENSUAL BETWEEN 1 OR MORE ADULTS.

Most clubs require a screening/interview prior to being granted entry. The interview can be in person or over the phone and they usually require speaking with both partners (assuming it's not a single M or F).

After the interview if you are invited to attend the club, you must pay a membership fee to the club. The fee can be charged annually, semi annually, quarterly, monthly, or lifetime. In addition to the membership fee, a couple would typically also be required to pay a nightly entrance fee - pretty much like a cover charge at any nightclub.

The fees are to offset the cost of running the club. Things like lights, water, rental space, keeping the place clean, laundry, security, DJ, bartender, maintenance like a broken light bulb or a leaky pipe, etc.

Most clubs are BYOB, because most clubs do not possess a liquor license. Most clubs supply mixers (juice, soda, garnishes, etc) and have a paid or volunteer bartender.

Clubs are pretty much like you would expect of any typical nightclub. There are people dancing, people mingling, people sitting, standing at the bar, etc.

Men are dressed in typical night club attire - nice jeans, button down shirts, or nicer shirts. Women are welcome to wear as much or as little as they are comfortable with. Some walk around naked, some only in panties, some in teeny tiny dresses, and some jeans and a t shirt. The majority of women wear mini dresses or dance wear unless there is a theme to the evening (Hawaiian, Polka Dot, School Girl, etc) then the women dress in costume accordingly.

There is a separate section of the club for “play.” Play could be anything from masturbation, oral sex, BDSM, play with toys, voyeurism, to actual sex. It can be with your own partner, someone you just met, someone you meet while you are in the room, several someones, etc. The key take away here is that:


ALL PLAY IS CONSENSUAL BETWEEN 1 OR MORE ADULTS.



No means no. That means asking before you touch someone, watch someone, etc. If someone says no, it’s not up for discussion “Oh why not?”

I would say that most swingers attend the clubs and do not get laid 100% of the time. We probably full swap (all sexual acts are up for discussion) about 1 out of every three times that we attend, and have soft swapped (everything but penetration) maybe 1 out of every 20. Most swingers go because they like the atmosphere that the clubs provide. It’s a chance to be yourself, not be judged, and have a little fun if the opportunity presents itself.

I want to stress that the money that is being exchanged does not guarantee anything. The money is a donation that you are making towards the maintenance and upkeep of your club.

Prostitutes take money for sex. Swingers just want an even exchange – nobody is paying me to participate, or to accept any offers that come my way.

You can find locations for sex clubs/parties in your area with a simple google search -or by joining one of the many swinger online communities. less