He recorded me!

I agree with the point made by 'Bievan'!

Honestly I would have been pissed. Mainly because he would have done it so sneakily! But, also because I am one of those people that I have to have the angles just right and it has to look good if I do something like that. Im anal about it, its almost borderline ridiculous really lol.

I would confront him and ask him why he felt the need to hide it from you. Ask him "Well, did you think that I would say no?" and try to see it from his perspective. Maybe he just wanted something of both of you so he could watch it at a later date, maybe its a turn on for him, etc etc. But, He NEEDS to be open with you and he can't just go doing things that are so sneaky. Especially if you have had issues with this in the past. I would ask him why he felt the need to be sneaky about it and try to get to the root of the issue, and see if there is a trust issue or communication issue that needs to be addressed. Open up to him, you both need to talk about this, especially if it is bothering you.

Im with you on this Zombirella. I would watch it with him, and IF and ONLY IF I was ok with him keeping it, I would let him. BUT again, I would sit down and have a discussion about what on earth that was all about and then I would discuss other things such as fantasies and some preferences of what you both find to be "The line" in certain situations. This sort of thing is stuff that alot of couples don't talk about beforehand and it can really blow up in both of your faces if its not discussed. You both have to know where each others breaking point is, so you know not to cross that line.

That would really bother me that my partner didn't ask. I would be upset about that.

I like it, but it happened to me too. I was embarrased at first, but decided WTH!! I don't care what his friends thought, and it shows what a loser he really was. Your hubby should have told you about it, or atleast asked. Did he feel like you would say no??

I agree with TheSinDoll. It's between you two. Communicate about it. It doesn't matter whether I'd be pissed or turned on by it; it matters how you felt. It may have been a shock right away, but what do you think about it now that you've had time to think?

Discuss it and come to a decision about the future. If you don't want him to take photos or videos again, then make that clear. If you're okay with nude photos/videos shared between you two, then let him know you were blindsided by it, but are willing to participate under your own conditions and make those clear as well.

Most of us have done things we thought were cool or 'right' but turned out to hurt someone we love. I hope this was one of those cases, and you don't punish him severely for something he might have thought was a turn-on, rather than a breaking of trust.

No one but you two knew about the video until you posted it here. But now many here know about it because you posted this. He may feel humiliated or embarrassed, being exposed about this online rather than you coming to him to talk about it. Does he know you posted this? Did he know before you posted it? There's different ways of breaking trust or putting our partner at risk of embarrassment and humiliation. Sneaky or not.

Sounds like you two have things to talk about.
Just my $0.02 worth. (and probably not as valuable.) :-/

Talk - learn - heal - love

He is likely to post it on one of the many websites. Mine did :/