How many of your sexual fantasies have you shared with your partner?

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How many of your sexual fantasies have you shared with your partner?

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Contributor: MidnightStorm MidnightStorm
I personally love it when my partner knows all of my fantasies. I'm a VERY open person, so there are a lot of things I want to try; even if it's just talking or "role playing" them. Because of just how "kinky" I am though, I can't imagine being with someone who was prudish at all. This is always a concern for me with my partners, so I try to be careful to date people who I know will be open to all of the things I'm interested in.

I know this isn't always possible, however, and I've heard of many people that are very afraid to share all of their fantasies with their partners.

That has me wondering... Just how comfortable are you with sharing fantasies with your partner? Are there any fantasies you just aren't willing to share? Why not?
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
Only a few -- I'm uncomfortable sharing more than that.
Only a few -- It just hasn't come up in conversation.
7  (14%)
Most of them -- There are some I'm still not comfortable sharing.
14  (27%)
Most of them -- A few just haven't come up in conversation.
10  (20%)
All of them -- I'm completely comfortable letting my partner know what I like.
18  (35%)
All of them -- I don't like anything that worth "worrying" about.
1  (2%)
Other -- Please elaborate!
1  (2%)
Total votes: 51
Poll is closed
11/06/2011
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Contributor: submissive.sweetheart submissive.sweetheart
I have shared most of my fantasies, I'm guessing there are a couple I have not because it just has not come up yet.

It can be hard, as I am still trying to accept my kinky side, and am even ashamed by some of my fantasies, but for the relationship to grow and be strong I think there should not be any secrets regarding this.

Perhaps the best feeling is when someone embraces a fantasy that you felt is weird, and you won't know that until you speak out. No point in living life with what-ifs
11/06/2011
Contributor: Kaltir Kaltir
We share everything that crosses our minds about sex with each other. We LOVE being so open about it, and it just leads to more fun
11/06/2011
Contributor: The Curious Couple The Curious Couple
I have shared all of my fantasies that come to mind, but I have so many that I probably haven't been able to mention them all yet!
11/06/2011
Contributor: Yaoi Pervette (deleted) Yaoi Pervette (deleted)
I like to share them, but there are some I have been hesitant about. For instance, I sometimes fantasize about a threesome with my husband and another guy (usually his best friend). I have alluded to fantasizing about double penetration, but I don't ever mention the best friend part. I just worry it would upset him if I did that.
11/06/2011
Contributor: married with children married with children
I dont have any "out there" fantasies, so I am not worried about sharing them with her. We share everything together. I think even if I did have some strange ones, I would still share them with her.
11/07/2011
Contributor: MidnightStorm MidnightStorm
Thanks everyone for the responses! There are a few scenarios that I hadn't really considered (the friend situation, for example). I know in my case, my boyfriend has a few 'out there' fantasies that I really want to know about, so I try to be open in return for his sake.
11/08/2011
Contributor: Lornoria Mirid Lornoria Mirid
I do not share anything with my partner, I am always terrified of what he might say. I am a really out there kind of person but I do not like letting people know what goes on in my mind. I do not even put all the music I want to on my iPod because I know he listens to it... I do love listening to his fantasies though but he is so shy he never shares them with me even though I always keep an open mind and there is only one little thing I would ever object to.
11/13/2011
Contributor: Shellz31 Shellz31
I don't have a partner as such, but I don't have any issues discussing everything with my Master - I know he is open and doesn't down things that too many other people do.
11/13/2011
Contributor: averageguyextrodinarypleasure averageguyextrodinarypleasure
All of them I actually made my wife a list of stuff I'd like to try
11/14/2011
Contributor: hyacinthgirl hyacinthgirl
My sub knows pretty much all of them. My beau knows a few of them, and I know a few of his.

Then again, I've known my sub for 10 years, and even though we only started talking about sex a few months ago, we're just a lot closer.
11/15/2011
Contributor: Sex'и'Violence Sex'и'Violence
Most of them, but I'm still not sure how he'd react to some of them. :0
11/16/2011
Contributor: eroticmutt eroticmutt
Quote:
Originally posted by MidnightStorm
I personally love it when my partner knows all of my fantasies. I'm a VERY open person, so there are a lot of things I want to try; even if it's just talking or "role playing" them. Because of just how "kinky" I am though, ... more
I have shared all my fantasies/fetishes as in, what I am into. But when I masturbate I normally don't then call him up and tell him all the details of it or anything
11/19/2011
Contributor: GRRRRR GRRRRR
All
12/08/2011
Contributor: allinonekid allinonekid
I've shared EVERYTHING. My partners and I each joined fetlife and tracked down everything we could think of and THEN some. Not many secrets between us.
12/08/2011
Contributor: Lucky21 Lucky21
Almost all. there just have been some recent ones that we haven't talked about yet.
12/08/2011
Contributor: bsgs bsgs
we try to share all of them, but its more about timing...i dont like sharing all of them at once, it can be overload, and that would be bad
02/15/2012
Contributor: bayosgirl bayosgirl
I share them, but that doesn't guarantee he'll make them come true! lol
02/15/2012
Contributor: snuggly snuggly
We've talked multiple times about what we like and don't like
02/21/2012
Contributor: NarcissisticLust NarcissisticLust
Quote:
Originally posted by MidnightStorm
I personally love it when my partner knows all of my fantasies. I'm a VERY open person, so there are a lot of things I want to try; even if it's just talking or "role playing" them. Because of just how "kinky" I am though, ... more
Only a few. Most of my sexual fantasies involve public humiliation and multiple partners and this isn't something I want my partner to know or think I want to happen.
02/21/2012
Contributor: SexyStuff SexyStuff
I share most, but some I enjoy keeping private.
02/21/2012
Contributor: SecretToyMan SecretToyMan
All of them. I don't have any that are as wild as other men. No threesome fantasies or anything of the such. So why not share? It only turns her on.
02/21/2012
Contributor: Lilith Bealove Lilith Bealove
I've told my husband all of them. What better way to have them fulfilled then sharing them with the person who can help you fill them?
02/21/2012
Contributor: Mwar Mwar
I've told him most of them. One at a time. One at a time...
02/21/2012
Contributor: Eucaly Eucaly
As many as he'll let.
02/21/2012
Contributor: L&P3040 L&P3040
We've both sat down and discussed a "bucket list" of stuff we want to do. Both of us put everything on the table.
05/19/2012
Contributor: Hallmar82 Hallmar82
My wife and I always keep some of our fantasies to ourselves so we have something to think about that's just ours.
05/19/2012
Contributor: sweetpea12 sweetpea12
Quote:
Originally posted by MidnightStorm
I personally love it when my partner knows all of my fantasies. I'm a VERY open person, so there are a lot of things I want to try; even if it's just talking or "role playing" them. Because of just how "kinky" I am though, ... more
Only a couple because I don't feel like some fantasies are really that important to me, plus the logistics of them are pretty complicated
05/19/2012
Contributor: Martiniman Martiniman
Most, but not all.
01/02/2013
Contributor: hall5885 hall5885
I really haven't shared all of them but than again I have many. It's not I'm worried about sharing them I just like sharing them overtime and enjoying few at a time and fully enjoying them before moving to the next few. Plus, I'm always thinking up new ones and than there are some I don't think about a lot and forget to tell. When I remember them or think of new ones I tend to share.
01/02/2013