How often do you fake an orgasm with your partner?
When you fake it, your partner gets the idea that he or she is doing things that work for you, when they don't.
I have probably faked a few times, (a LONG time ago) and it came back to bite me in the ass (not literally) because then the guy thought that technique worked for me, and then both of us were unhappy. I learned quickly that its better to be honest, and let him KNOW what works for me, what I don't care for, (or don't want just this one time) what I DO really like and he then learns what works to help me find my orgasm.
I don't believe in faking to save a partners' "feelings." They shouldn't get wrapped up in the idea of "making" someone else come anyway. Orgasm is a couples effort, not one person "making" an other come (unless you're using Forced Orgasm Play, in which it's even worse to fake it.) In most situations, the effort to bring one to orgasm should be shared.
Orgasm is an effort that both members of the partnership need to participate in, and letting your partner know what works and when will only help the relationship. If I don't like something, or something isn't' working in one particular session I say something about it. Then we can move on to something that works for both of us.
I think one loses by faking it. It won't kill your partner if he or she knows you didn't have an orgasm. Letting them know what will work is much better tactic to get what you need as well as being honest with your partner.
I have probably faked a few times, (a LONG time ago) and it came back to bite me in the ass (not literally) because then the guy thought that technique worked for me, and then both of us were unhappy. I learned quickly that its better to be honest, and let him KNOW what works for me, what I don't care for, (or don't want just this one time) what I DO really like and he then learns what works to help me find my orgasm.
I don't believe in faking to save a partners' "feelings." They shouldn't get wrapped up in the idea of "making" someone else come anyway. Orgasm is a couples effort, not one person "making" an other come (unless you're using Forced Orgasm Play, in which it's even worse to fake it.) In most situations, the effort to bring one to orgasm should be shared.
Orgasm is an effort that both members of the partnership need to participate in, and letting your partner know what works and when will only help the relationship. If I don't like something, or something isn't' working in one particular session I say something about it. Then we can move on to something that works for both of us.
I think one loses by faking it. It won't kill your partner if he or she knows you didn't have an orgasm. Letting them know what will work is much better tactic to get what you need as well as being honest with your partner.
07/19/2011
I never thought I would answer this question with a yes. But as I get older it's hard for me to orgasm more than 1x per day. On those rare days when we have a chance for 2x in a day, I can get an erection and make sure my wife has an orgasm - I simply can't. So the answer reluctantly is - occasionally I do.
07/19/2011
Very, *very* rarely and only if things are just going so badly I need it to stop. Usually I'm great about directing him so that we fix a problem, but on occasion there's isn't much to be done.
I think faking it is a terrible idea overall since it teaches them the wrong things about you, and ultimately will lead to more need to fake, lol
I think faking it is a terrible idea overall since it teaches them the wrong things about you, and ultimately will lead to more need to fake, lol
07/19/2011
I never have & never would. Faking it would be hurting me more than it would him? If I faked it he'd be thinking I liked it and never know to do it differently. I don't fake it because it's decieving and I want us to be close enough to be honest. We don't ever really have any problems with our sex anyways. Sometimes I want faster and sometimes slower, I simply just tell him and he's always really happy when I do.
07/20/2011
I never have and I won't. I believe in letting a partner know if what they are doing isn't working or if I have too much on mind. I can't bring myself to deceive them in that way - especially when they put all the effort in. If they aren't doing the right thing to get ya off, there's a great chance they could continue with that routine and you risk not getting off in the future.
07/20/2011
Never. I don't orgasm, at all, during sex, but if my partner wants me to fake it then they aren't really doing it for the right reasons. My boyfriend still always tries, and he can usually get me pretty close. (And I make lovely noises even when I don't orgasm, LOL.) I wish I could get there, I figure eventually I will .
07/20/2011
