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Contributor: cjvr cjvr
Ok so this whole kink thing is totally new to me. Although I not completely unfamiliar with toys, I haven't really used them much until these past 6 months. I never felt comfortable enough with my exs to try anything different so I never really sat and thought about fantasies, but this time around I do feel better about it and it has opened pandora's box for me! My boyfriend is fine with the whole idea of using toys during our playtime and he is fine with the fact that I am a very sexual person, however a part of me is scared to show or tell him exactly who I am sexually. I have had many different kinds of fantasies that I have never experienced and some of them I think might freak him out. He is really new to all this, in fact from what he tells me I'm the one who first got him to try anything sexually taboo. He seems to like the fact that I am open to trying new things with him, but I've only exposed him to slightly kinky things, and deep inside I have alot of other more extreme kinky things I want to try.

How did you guys introduce your sexual sideto your partners and how long into the realtionship did you feel comfortable doing so? How did they react and if it was a bad reactionhow did you handle it?

Thanks in advance!
03/06/2012
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Contributor: Ansley Ansley
Here's a little trick I learned a bit ago...instead of going "hey what do you think about us getting involved with a swinger's group or threesome or just inviting someone to play for a night", I (and he does it, too) say "well what do you think about couples who are swingers or like inviting random strangers over for playtime?"

Once you open the door that way, it gives him a non-confrontational space to say how he feels about it and then you can start addressing concerns he may have with the idea as a whole and then when you figure out what the limitations are you are better able to mold your fantasies into something that is acceptable to both of you before you pull the trigger on it.

It can be intimidating, but if you open the lines of communication and tread slowly you will likely have a much better outcome in the end.
03/06/2012
Contributor: Hot 'N Sexy TexasMama Hot 'N Sexy TexasMama
Try reading Sweet Confessions with him and asking him what the thinks of some of the various things...might open up a discussion.
03/06/2012
Contributor: unfulfilled unfulfilled
Always have an open line of communication and be honest. Like they both suggested you can casually bring the topic into conversation. Like I heard about _____________________ the other day when reading, what do you think about that.
03/06/2012