Why do you swing?

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Why do you swing?

TheSexista TheSexista
Just courious for all you swingers out there. Why did you decide to take on the lifestyle? Were you not able to make your parter happy sexually or do you both just enjoy sex with others also?

For any of you who allow you partner to swing solo, does it ever bother you?
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
I can not please my parter, so I allow someone else.
My parter swings solo and tells me about it.
1  (7%)
My partner does not swing but allows me too.
My partner and I both enjoy sex with others.
14  (93%)
Total votes: 15
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09/09/2010
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Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
Quote:
Originally posted by TheSexista
Just courious for all you swingers out there. Why did you decide to take on the lifestyle? Were you not able to make your parter happy sexually or do you both just enjoy sex with others also?

For any of you who allow you partner to swing solo, ...
Sigel likes the swinging lifestyle but I prefer to invest the emotion that a relationship takes before having sex with someone. I have a committed relationship with another guy. So we are in an open V formation.
09/09/2010
P'Gell P'Gell
My Man wants to try it out. I has NOTHING to do with my not being able to please him. I do that successfully, at least once or twice a day. I have an incredibly high sex drive and he says he thinks I would appreciate an other man, or two men from time to time. He also would love a threesome or quad. He, like many men, likes variety.

Honestly, although I am capable of Polyamory, I haven't participated in this lifestyle for many years. I don't know if My Man could handle it, despite his insisting he can.

It's a quandary.
09/10/2010
TheSexista TheSexista
Quote:
Originally posted by Airen Wolf
Sigel likes the swinging lifestyle but I prefer to invest the emotion that a relationship takes before having sex with someone. I have a committed relationship with another guy. So we are in an open V formation.
Hey Airen,
Are you saying that you have Sigel and a relationship with another guy or am I misunderstanding?
09/14/2010
TheSexista TheSexista
Quote:
Originally posted by P'Gell
My Man wants to try it out. I has NOTHING to do with my not being able to please him. I do that successfully, at least once or twice a day. I have an incredibly high sex drive and he says he thinks I would appreciate an other man, or two men from ...
Its a hard one. I know some people who have done great with the lifestyle and other relationships that ended because one partner would not take it.
09/14/2010
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
Quote:
Originally posted by TheSexista
Hey Airen,
Are you saying that you have Sigel and a relationship with another guy or am I misunderstanding?
Yes I am married to Sigel and we have a life partner, Arch. Sigel and Arch aren't sexually involved at all outside of the occasional threesome. They are both with me, therefore I am the pivot point of our V triad formation.
09/15/2010
mrs.mckrakn mrs.mckrakn
weve talked about it. thats as far as its ever gotten.
10/19/2010
Brandi Rouxxx Brandi Rouxxx
I vote none of the above...

Neither of us have any desire to be with any one other than each other... We both please each other more than any one ever has before in our lives, so there's no need to try to replace the ecstacy we've found with each other... We just want to try watching and being watched...
10/25/2010
Jobthingy Jobthingy
I have been in the lifestyle since before I was with my partner. It has nothing to do with being unable to please the other. Our solo sex life is incredible.

We do not full swap, we soft swap. He has never been in a swing relationship before so I let him control what he likes. It is more of an exploration of fantasy just like any other kink. It takes a lot of trust, communication and the non-jealous type. It is certainly not for everyone and it can and will break up a marriage if just anyone takes it on.
10/25/2010
P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by TheSexista
Its a hard one. I know some people who have done great with the lifestyle and other relationships that ended because one partner would not take it.
It IS a hard thing to decide about. I know My Man very well. He thinks with his dick. Really. When we're in the heat of things, yeah, I'm sure his fantasies just flow towards a trio or quad (nothing wrong with that, mine do too) but, he has also expressed jealousy towards men I dated while we WERE in an Open Relationship. That was a long time ago, and he says, "I can handle it." But, I really don't know.

Then there's the logistics of it. With many, (most) quads and swinging, condoms are mandatory, he hates them. I need non-latex, which is hard to find in his size. He doesn't think "It will be a problem. There are other couples who won't mind not using them." But, you don't really know someone's sexual history that well. I think condoms would be necessary.

It's difficult. I don't see it happening any time soon.
10/31/2010
P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by Jobthingy
I have been in the lifestyle since before I was with my partner. It has nothing to do with being unable to please the other. Our solo sex life is incredible.

We do not full swap, we soft swap. He has never been in a swing relationship before ...
A Soft Swap would be a good bridge, I think. I would at least REQUIRE that before going further.
10/31/2010
PinkSunsets PinkSunsets
I never had one a threesome, but I'd like to have a relationship with a woman who's also loves my boyfriend as well. I don't think I could ever have a one night stand, I get so attached to that person. We both agreed and are on the same page about it, we just never found the right person yet.
12/25/2010
UnknownGirl UnknownGirl
Variety is the spice life. I mean, I think it's nice to experience new things once in a while. That why we're getting into it. It has nothing to do with not being satisfied. We both satisfy each other sexual.
12/25/2010
Airekah Airekah
I have always been curious but never had the opportunity to swing. I tend to have jealousy issues, so I don't know if this would work anyway.
12/25/2010
cottonxcandy cottonxcandy
We like to share, but only when the other person is there. Well, in my case anyway. I have jealousy issues so he is definitely more comfortable with letting me do waay more than I would be comfortable with him doing. It works for us though, I don't think he feels like he's missing out on anything or giving more than I'm giving.
02/26/2012
Boobs and Lubes Boobs and Lubes
Only play together, and we love seeing the other pleased. Simple.
03/09/2012
Various Various
It has been brought up before, but not anything further.
03/09/2012
Total posts: 17
Unique posters: 12