Abstaining Before Marriage

<3BF <3BF
I know many couple like to abstain from sex before getting married to make that night all the more special. So how long do you think is the perfect time to wait?
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
Wait one week before the wedding
1  (1%)
Wait a few nights before the wedding
2  (2%)
1-2 Weeks before the wedding
5  (4%)
Don't wait; do it the night before, in the limo, at the reception...
39  (31%)
Wait up to a month before the wedding
7  (6%)
Wait multiple months before the wedding
2  (2%)
Abstain from sex for as long as you can before getting married
23  (19%)
Other
45  (36%)
Total votes: 124
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12/31/2011
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Coralbell Coralbell
So you're talking about couples who have already had sex, who choose to abstain for a short period before the wedding?

I would have sex whenever I wanted to and we had a chance to. My wedding night would be special no matter what. I wouldn't find it any more special by avoiding sex for a while before it.
12/31/2011
The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary
Quote:
Originally posted by <3BF
I know many couple like to abstain from sex before getting married to make that night all the more special. So how long do you think is the perfect time to wait?
I know I am bad I just would not be able to wait. I would feel like I was playing by somebody elses rules.
12/31/2011
SexyTabby SexyTabby
I should think you could abstain for any amount of time that makes you comfortable. I personally didn't. But then we didn't have sex on our wedding night either lol For some ungodly reason the people followed us to our home and demanded we open all our wedding presents in front of them. So by the time we did all that and got all those insane idiots out of our house we only had a couple hours to sleep before we were leaving and Hubby was sooooooo drunk lol Honeymoon was fun though!
12/31/2011
punkstar283 punkstar283
Quote:
Originally posted by <3BF
I know many couple like to abstain from sex before getting married to make that night all the more special. So how long do you think is the perfect time to wait?
In the limo would be great
12/31/2011
Snozzberries Snozzberries
I didn't actually have sex for two weeks after our wedding... but that's because there was a lot going on. Plus we were tired the first night.

But I don't think I could have abstained at all beforehand.
12/31/2011
True Pleasures True Pleasures
I don't really have an opinion, since my husband and I didn't wait for marriage. We spent quite a bit of time away, since he was in the Navy then, though. I'd say at least 3-4 months apart at a time, if not more.
12/31/2011
MrWishyWashy MrWishyWashy
Whenever you're horny, go for it, regardless of time!
12/31/2011
deltalima deltalima
I think the longer you wait the more amazing it will be on the honeymoon
01/01/2012
- Kira - - Kira -
We just didn't have sex the night before. Every other night was fair game.
01/02/2012
SexyStuff SexyStuff
We waited till marriage... it made the night awkward rather than special, but it was fun to work things out together.
01/15/2012
mistre$$ mistre$$
I don't think I would wait, but whatever a couple agrees to do is fine.
01/27/2012
<3BF <3BF
I think I'd like to wait at least a few days for it to be extra special, but not too long for one to be sex crazed at the wedding lol
01/29/2012
Ms. Spice Ms. Spice
I wouldn't abstain from sex, period.I fail to see how abstaining makes sex "special." Sex is a way that I can express my love to my partner, and if I'm not allowed to do that for whatever reason, I'm going to be sorely disappointed.
01/29/2012
unfulfilled unfulfilled
I had this idea before we got married and the thing is if you refrain a guy for so long his stamina decreases so do you really want a short sex session on your wedding night?
01/29/2012
ellejay ellejay
Eh, it depends on the couple. I probably won't make it a point to abstain.
01/29/2012
Gary A. Gary A.
Quote:
Originally posted by <3BF
I know many couple like to abstain from sex before getting married to make that night all the more special. So how long do you think is the perfect time to wait?
I wouldn't wait
02/15/2012
Rin (aka Nire) Rin (aka Nire)
Eh, seems silly to me to abstain. Since sex is an important part of married life for many couples, it makes more sense to experiment together and see how well you go together in the sack before getting married.

As my grandmother once said on the subject: "You gotta take a test drive before you buy the car."
02/16/2012
fredacarl fredacarl
Quote:
Originally posted by <3BF
I know many couple like to abstain from sex before getting married to make that night all the more special. So how long do you think is the perfect time to wait?
Don't wait
02/24/2012
winterseve winterseve
We waited for a whole month before our wedding to have sex. We screwed like bunnies before, but we decided to go the last month before to see if it would change anything or make it more fun. I didn't but it still made me feel a little romantic and old fashioned.
03/03/2012
Mwar Mwar
I would do a no sex week or so. Would make us all the more ready to jump each other's bones!
03/14/2012
Brenard Brenard
Probably wouldn't abstain, but my girlfriend when we get married may want to. Will have to see.
03/17/2012
BlooJay BlooJay
Do it whenever you can!
03/17/2012
HannahPanda HannahPanda
I'd do it that day haha
04/03/2012
dks210 dks210
I've considered all these options, and still don't know. lol
04/03/2012
PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
whenever you feel like it!
04/06/2012
Sex Positivity Sex Positivity
Doesn't matter to me. I don't think I'd wait at all.
04/06/2012
spineyogurt spineyogurt
Do what youd like
04/06/2012
Sinfully Sinfully
I wouldn't be abstaining EVER! lol.
04/06/2012
Istanbull Istanbull
Take it from someone who knows. That abstinence-only crap ruins marriages. I waited with my wife until we got married and it wasn't until then that I find out she is not into any kind of sex other than me on top, don't do anything but tab-A into slot-B sex. We only have sex once a month, Worst decision in my life. Had I not waited I would have known that we were sexually incompatible right from the start.
04/11/2012
Total posts: 62
Unique posters: 61