Originally posted by
BBW Talks Toys
And please explain your answer... It would help in my decision making if you are "pro" acceptance.
YOu really need to have a discussion with him about the difference between a huge piece of rubber (silicone, glass, metal ect.) and a lovely warm penis that you can feel the heartbeat through it's marvelous skin. You love him and his cock, nothing can replace him or his cock.
Explain to him that you are interested in trying this toy but that your vagina isn't going to streth out so your enjoyment of him won't change!
Take it from someone who has well over 70 vibes and dildos in ALL shapes and sizes as well as having two men with different shaped penises, NOTHING will replace the real thing! Having a lover with a larger penis didn't make me not want my husband's...and his having women with different sizes, shapes and smells didn't make him want to make love to me any less.
With a toy you are enjoying the textures, shape, size and maybe even the material differences. With a man you are enjoying all of his body and how it makes you feel from your nose to your toes. There simply is no comparison, he has NOTHING to feel jealous or inadequate about.
If he can discover WITH you the limits of your body, and maybe allow you to discover the limits of his body with him it can't help but draw you closer and give you a special bond that nothing can weaken.
For example: Sigel was abused after being tied up and couldn't ever imagine floggers, whips and bondage gear being exciting for him. These were things to be endured to please a lover, not something to bring pleasure. He told me repeatedly that he couldn't ever get excited with bondage gear. So I never got any, just used the gear owned by playmates without involving him. I saw a flogger I really wanted and requested to review it with our lifepartner. Well Sigel never wants to be left out of anything. So what I did was show him how excited I was about the flogger and I bought as many toys as I could afford that I knew he would enjoy. Last night he got the courage up to try using a flogger on me...when I was obviously excited by the whole experience it turned him on so much that even though it was very late at night we made very passionate love. He woke up a few hours later and was chuckling about how his dreams were all about flogging and doing equally nasty things to me! Breakthrough!
My point it anything can seem frightening or just threatening but if you give it a shot and revel in how amazing you make your partner feel it can be a beautiful intimate thing.
Anymore I don't refuse assignments because my partner(s) are intimidated but I might prepare them for the arrival of our new toy rather than springing it on them.
I do hope you can work it out because a body part dysmorphia or fear can damage so many wonderful relationships...lets face it you know damn well a pocket pussy can't replace or even replicate the amazingness of your own pussy, why would a dildo replace your man?