Hello All! New to the forum and this is my first post. I have been "lurking" as a non-member for a few weeks and have been really impressed by all of the open-minded and wise / experienced people that post here, and I am hoping that I might get some similarly good advice.
In a nutshell, I am a 40 something year old male, married to a wonderful lady for over 16 years. We've been together for over 18 years, and I was (happily) her first. We have been sexually active for most of that time and, currently, I get "it" more often (from what I surmise) than many guys I know, so I am not complaining about the frequency. My query concerns, more or less, the "degree" of intimacy we achieve.
Specifically - I'm much more adventurous in the sack. I enjoy, and willingly provide, oral, genital, and anal stimulation, outside of providing mere intercourse. I take pleasure in, and enjoy, foreplay, and within the last year have really gotten into rimming - an activity that, based on the response I've gotten, has proven quite pleasureable for my wife. I've even gone so far as to "clean" her up afterwards as both a way to add additional pleasure to our lovemaking, as well as to demonstrate the degree of intimacy I feel with her. Problem is, that I don't feel reciprocated. My wife is pretty much a straight - forward intercourse type of lady. She uses a vibrator during our sessions and I do know for a fact that she gets "her's" (mostly multiple) each time. There are only four or so positions that she likes, and oral sex, when I receive it, is awkward, tense and pretty much just up to the point of my orgasm, at which time she pulls away and finishes me with her hands. She is totally averse to oral sex, bodily fluids, deep throating, etc. She won't even kiss me in return - once I have gone "down" on her, that's the end of the kissing until I clean up.
So, has anyone else been where I am? Anybody else been with, or is with, a partner that's completely averse to anything other than straight sex? I can't help but think that her unwillingess to "fully" engage in all aspects of sex isn't a sign that she does not fully accept me. Her fluids, my fluids, our fluids, are completely off limits to her. Anyone see any middle ground or have any suggestions? Thanks in advance, and sorry for the length of the post, as well as the explicitness.
In a nutshell, I am a 40 something year old male, married to a wonderful lady for over 16 years. We've been together for over 18 years, and I was (happily) her first. We have been sexually active for most of that time and, currently, I get "it" more often (from what I surmise) than many guys I know, so I am not complaining about the frequency. My query concerns, more or less, the "degree" of intimacy we achieve.
Specifically - I'm much more adventurous in the sack. I enjoy, and willingly provide, oral, genital, and anal stimulation, outside of providing mere intercourse. I take pleasure in, and enjoy, foreplay, and within the last year have really gotten into rimming - an activity that, based on the response I've gotten, has proven quite pleasureable for my wife. I've even gone so far as to "clean" her up afterwards as both a way to add additional pleasure to our lovemaking, as well as to demonstrate the degree of intimacy I feel with her. Problem is, that I don't feel reciprocated. My wife is pretty much a straight - forward intercourse type of lady. She uses a vibrator during our sessions and I do know for a fact that she gets "her's" (mostly multiple) each time. There are only four or so positions that she likes, and oral sex, when I receive it, is awkward, tense and pretty much just up to the point of my orgasm, at which time she pulls away and finishes me with her hands. She is totally averse to oral sex, bodily fluids, deep throating, etc. She won't even kiss me in return - once I have gone "down" on her, that's the end of the kissing until I clean up.
So, has anyone else been where I am? Anybody else been with, or is with, a partner that's completely averse to anything other than straight sex? I can't help but think that her unwillingess to "fully" engage in all aspects of sex isn't a sign that she does not fully accept me. Her fluids, my fluids, our fluids, are completely off limits to her. Anyone see any middle ground or have any suggestions? Thanks in advance, and sorry for the length of the post, as well as the explicitness.
