Are threesomes destroying to a marriage?

Stnjbe1021 Stnjbe1021
Has a threesome destroyed your marriage? Or maybe made it better? Or had no impact on your marriage? Please explain your answer.
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
Destroyed
25  (30%)
Better
11  (13%)
No impact
47  (57%)
Total votes: 83
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11/21/2010
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Stnjbe1021 Stnjbe1021
It bettered my marriage because him sleeping with another girl made me realize how much I loved him and didnt want him to do it again. lol
11/21/2010
SexyTabby SexyTabby
It would really depend on the people themselves. I could never do a threesome because it's not in me too and our relationship doesn't need anything of that nature. Others find it great though so yeah just depends on the people involved. Voted no impact cuz it seemed the best one for not being into it.
11/21/2010
Midway through Midway through
There is no particular thing that is good for everyone, so really it depends on the person. Some people just aren't poly, and in my opinion you have to be for threesomes to really mean anything.
11/21/2010
Jobthingy Jobthingy
It really varies from one couple to the next. Some can do it and others will tear there marriage apart. It is something that really needs to be discussed a lot
11/21/2010
Emma (Girl With Fire) Emma (Girl With Fire)
Other.

Depends entirely on the couple and the dynamic.
11/21/2010
hive83 hive83
Quote:
Originally posted by Stnjbe1021
Has a threesome destroyed your marriage? Or maybe made it better? Or had no impact on your marriage? Please explain your answer.
I guess it's what your into and how you can handle it. It's not really not our thing. But never say never.
11/21/2010
Alicia Alicia
Quote:
Originally posted by Emma (Girl With Fire)
Other.

Depends entirely on the couple and the dynamic.
Exactly!
11/21/2010
DeliciousSurprise DeliciousSurprise
I've seen threesomes do all of these things.
A threesome can destroy an unstable couple, bring a close couple together, or have no impact at all on a couple.

Depends on the couple, what's been going on, how open they are with each other and a litany of other things.
11/21/2010
~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
I'm not married and have never had a three some, so I don't know what it would do to my relationship. However, neither of us have a desire to engage in that. Of those that I know, it has destroyed their relationship or made things rocky. It can work, but it takes a special kind of couple and relationship.
11/21/2010
ScottA ScottA
It's not going to happen here, but I'd say be very careful. It could do any number of things, and you don't necessarily know what it's going to do until afterwards.
11/22/2010
Lady Venus Lady Venus
I'm not married but I am common-law, engaged, but just havent picked a date yet. LOL I am bi, but we have never had a threesome. It's just not "us" and it was discussed in the beginning of our relationship that it wasn't going to be. I have always considered threesomes single's play, but never bring it into my relationships.
For some people it works great. I have many swinger couple friends and they are happy. Some people it betters their relationship and while I also have friends who it hasn't worked out so great for. I think it really depends on the couple and it takes much trust and communication to make it work.
11/22/2010
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
Quote:
Originally posted by Stnjbe1021
Has a threesome destroyed your marriage? Or maybe made it better? Or had no impact on your marriage? Please explain your answer.
Threesomes didnt have much of an impact on my marriage, the guilt about enjoying them did. The subsequent lying and cheating nearly destroyed us as people let alone as a married couple. Being honest with ourselves and living the life WE wanted to live has saved our marriage. We still enjoy a threesome or moresome but it doesn't lead to use tearing each other apart anymore.
11/22/2010
Danielle915 Danielle915
It had no impact on my marriage at all. It was just something that we both agreed on and wanted to do for a while. We both enjoyed it and want to and will do it again in the future.
11/22/2010
Faith Faith
It depends entirely on the couple. If both people consent to it and they can separate emotions from sex, then a threesome should be okay. However, if one person isn't fond of the idea and forces themselves to do it (to make the partner happy), a threesome will more than likely hurt the relationship.

Personally, I could never do it. I can't bring a 3rd party into my bedroom without guilt being associated with the situation (even if my partner was okay with). Guilt + Sex = No fun for me. hehe
11/22/2010
Alura Une Alura Une
It depends on the couple. We got close to having one years ago. Just getting close made things a little shaky and the impact can be felt very subtly today, nearly 10 years later. I don't think most people can maintain something like this easily, but for some it's a natural fit.
11/27/2010
sweet seduction sweet seduction
It made my marriage stronger
01/05/2011
kfdarling kfdarling
Quote:
Originally posted by ~LaUr3n~
I'm not married and have never had a three some, so I don't know what it would do to my relationship. However, neither of us have a desire to engage in that. Of those that I know, it has destroyed their relationship or made things rocky. It ... More
I agree with this.
03/08/2011
minifreak minifreak
It depends. Ive done it 3 times and we are good
03/16/2011
mama2007 mama2007
Quote:
Originally posted by Stnjbe1021
It bettered my marriage because him sleeping with another girl made me realize how much I loved him and didnt want him to do it again. lol
it ruins it in a way, because his ugly ass ex wife who he was in the middle of divorce with in 07 they asked if i wanted to "join" and i said ok, and feel like shit ever since, they been divorced since 08 and we got married a month after divorce was final but it still pisses me off how gullible i was.
03/17/2011
MontereyJak MontereyJak
Like everyone has said couples vary but the key in your relationship is communication. My wife knows that I love her dearly and if she says we are done playing around like this then we are done.
03/17/2011
DancerLove DancerLove
Yes, I think it definitely is destroying to a marriage. I am a newlywed and my husband said that he wouldn't mind at all if I wanted to experiment with another girl in our bed. I was appalled. It scared me because I know that he would be thinking of the other girl more than me. And I think its disgusting nontheless. He is the type to not know how to commit to one girl anyways. So it's just me I think. But no, in any case, yes, it can be very damaging I do believe.
03/17/2011
mrs.mckrakn mrs.mckrakn
Quote:
Originally posted by Emma (Girl With Fire)
Other.

Depends entirely on the couple and the dynamic.
Dido
04/24/2011
Howells Howells
It looks hot when you imagine but no way I'd do it in a marriage. Even if I'm in a relationship.. If I was single and the opportunity came I'd take it of course but when committed, no.
04/24/2011
PersonalAngel PersonalAngel
I would say it can go either way, if one of the partner is not okay with it and or very jealous I would say stay clear from it.
04/25/2011
Daniel & Brittany Daniel & Brittany
No problems with it
04/26/2011
loveshimandhelovesme loveshimandhelovesme
We tried it before we got married and found that it was something great for him to fantize about. It was not something we would do again. We are just to emotional about sex for it to work for us. I have seen it work with plenty of marriages though.
04/26/2011
Ansley Ansley
They can be. And they can't be. It depends on the couple, the persons involved and the ethics.
07/21/2011
CutiePatootie CutiePatootie
I think it's really good for us. We can go without threesomes, but it's a kink we both share and relate to each other on. There's been a lot of issues with it throughout the dating process but before w got married and since it's been wonderful when we have a girlfriend.
07/27/2011
Wildchild Wildchild
Quote:
Originally posted by Stnjbe1021
Has a threesome destroyed your marriage? Or maybe made it better? Or had no impact on your marriage? Please explain your answer.
I think it spices things up for us. We seem to b more in love with each other afterwards. I/We really believe it canbe a positive thing.
08/23/2011
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