Are threesomes destroying to a marriage?

Contributor: K101 K101
I would find it hard to believe that a threesome could have NO impact on a marriage at all. Even if both ended up being OK with it I think there would still be some sort of impact even if it isn't totally negative, but most relationships, one or the other or both will have a hard time accepting it. A threesome is not like what you see in the porn movies. A lot of emotions and people are involved and I would think it would have to be all gone over for a very long time and still things could happen. It may seem fun when you are in the moment, but people quickly change their minds when horniness wears off. If it is for a person then I say take it easy and slow and be so very cautious. I just dont think a threesome is worth risking it. I have a family member whos marriage was ruined by it. My partner and I are strictly monogamous by choice! We couldn't ever do it.
08/27/2011
Contributor: tooshy tooshy
The jealousy evoked was destructive to my first marriage. There are only two of us in this one.
08/29/2011
Contributor: SiNn SiNn
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Originally posted by Stnjbe1021
Has a threesome destroyed your marriage? Or maybe made it better? Or had no impact on your marriage? Please explain your answer.
i think our relation ship stays the same it makes us alil closer but i think everything we do sexual and non sexual makes us closer
08/29/2011
Contributor: Miss Anonymous Miss Anonymous
I personally feel it can only really impact the relationshio depending on the relationship.
08/29/2011
Contributor: cheetahpita cheetahpita
I've seen it work before, but it really does depend on the couple
08/29/2011
Contributor: jj1228 jj1228
My wife and I have had a 3some i would say maybe 5 times but it was always with the same person. She found him on a website and met him before anything. He comes over we have sex and he leaves. After the 3some i will say my wife is still turned on ready to go and opens up a lot more and her kinkiness through the roof. But i dont think if really affects the marriage if anything just turns things up that day and thats about it.
10/22/2011
Contributor: duff duff
I couldnt handle it at this point in our marriage. Jealousy would b an issue
12/12/2011
Contributor: aliceinthehole aliceinthehole
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Originally posted by Stnjbe1021
Has a threesome destroyed your marriage? Or maybe made it better? Or had no impact on your marriage? Please explain your answer.
i would say it depends on the marriage. it certainly has the potential to destroy or better or make more challenging. it depends on the situation, of course.
12/12/2011
Contributor: jedent jedent
guys, remember: jealousy implies that you feel OWNERSHIP over a person. we don't own people. married, engaged, dating for two weeks, doesn't matter.

threesomes and their effect on the relationship have everything to do with the specific relationship and there is no across the board answer.

jealousy is however born from feelings of ownership.
12/12/2011
Contributor: Ms. Spice Ms. Spice
I've had relationships where it could have easily have been done without implication and I've been with others where it would have destroyed us. It really depends on those involved and the dynamic,as someone mentioned earlier.
12/13/2011
Contributor: xoxo xoxo
not into the threesome thing
03/04/2012
Contributor: Beck Beck
It depends on the couple. You need to have a string bond of trust for one another for something like that.
03/04/2012
Contributor: dks210 dks210
I've never had a threesome, and don't plan to. We just aren't interested in it.
04/03/2012
Contributor: Peaches2000 Peaches2000
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Originally posted by SexyTabby
It would really depend on the people themselves. I could never do a threesome because it's not in me too and our relationship doesn't need anything of that nature. Others find it great though so yeah just depends on the people involved. ... more
I think you have great insight! I share your view. I've never played well in the sandbox with others . I think the answer to this question is different for each relationship.
04/13/2012
Contributor: mat mat
It depends on the relationship.
04/13/2012
Contributor: Lilith Bealove Lilith Bealove
I said no impact. It didn't have a negative "I don't wanna be with you anymore" effect on my relationship. But we were in a sort of poly relationship that started out as a threesome. I said they could have sex as long as he used a condom. Well.... I woke up one morning to them having sex beside me (which we had decided was okayy cause we were sharing a bed) and I just started crying. It was horrible. I hated it. It didn't make our marriage better or worse, just let me know that isn't for us. Well, the poly part anyway.
04/16/2012
Contributor: Stinkytofu10 Stinkytofu10
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Originally posted by Emma (Girl With Fire)
Other.

Depends entirely on the couple and the dynamic.
This!
04/16/2012
Contributor: Cwhitten006 Cwhitten006
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Originally posted by Stnjbe1021
It bettered my marriage because him sleeping with another girl made me realize how much I loved him and didnt want him to do it again. lol
did he want to do it again, even though u didnt?
04/29/2012
Contributor: VelvetDragon VelvetDragon
Can't vote because my (not legally recognized) marriage IS a threesome. I am in a committed three person relationship. We had a wedding ceremony in front of around 200 of our friends and family.
04/29/2012
Contributor: gloomybear gloomybear
interesting question
04/29/2012
Contributor: Undead Undead
I think it would ruin it. I'm not into it.
05/07/2012
Contributor: Sinfully Sinfully
I don't think it should be done unless both people really want it.
09/20/2012
Contributor: SavingMyself SavingMyself
We've never had one and probably never will. It's not something either of us want enough to risk it destroying our marriage.
09/22/2012
Contributor: sw33t1zm3 sw33t1zm3
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Originally posted by Stnjbe1021
Has a threesome destroyed your marriage? Or maybe made it better? Or had no impact on your marriage? Please explain your answer.
i havent done it yet but recently i've been wanting to have sex with a woman again so i love the fact that i have the option to do it in front of him
09/22/2012
Contributor: AK Bunny AK Bunny
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Originally posted by Stnjbe1021
Has a threesome destroyed your marriage? Or maybe made it better? Or had no impact on your marriage? Please explain your answer.
I voted no impact, but that's because it depends entirely on each persons thoughts on it and how open the couple is. It can be something that really beings people together, but it can also easily destroy a relationship.
09/23/2012