Are threesomes destroying to a marriage?

I would find it hard to believe that a threesome could have NO impact on a marriage at all. Even if both ended up being OK with it I think there would still be some sort of impact even if it isn't totally negative, but most relationships, one or the other or both will have a hard time accepting it. A threesome is not like what you see in the porn movies. A lot of emotions and people are involved and I would think it would have to be all gone over for a very long time and still things could happen. It may seem fun when you are in the moment, but people quickly change their minds when horniness wears off. If it is for a person then I say take it easy and slow and be so very cautious. I just dont think a threesome is worth risking it. I have a family member whos marriage was ruined by it. My partner and I are strictly monogamous by choice! We couldn't ever do it.

The jealousy evoked was destructive to my first marriage. There are only two of us in this one.

I personally feel it can only really impact the relationshio depending on the relationship.

I've seen it work before, but it really does depend on the couple

My wife and I have had a 3some i would say maybe 5 times but it was always with the same person. She found him on a website and met him before anything. He comes over we have sex and he leaves. After the 3some i will say my wife is still turned on ready to go and opens up a lot more and her kinkiness through the roof. But i dont think if really affects the marriage if anything just turns things up that day and thats about it.

I couldnt handle it at this point in our marriage. Jealousy would b an issue

guys, remember: jealousy implies that you feel OWNERSHIP over a person. we don't own people. married, engaged, dating for two weeks, doesn't matter.

threesomes and their effect on the relationship have everything to do with the specific relationship and there is no across the board answer.

jealousy is however born from feelings of ownership.

I've had relationships where it could have easily have been done without implication and I've been with others where it would have destroyed us. It really depends on those involved and the dynamic,as someone mentioned earlier.

not into the threesome thing

It depends on the couple. You need to have a string bond of trust for one another for something like that.

I've never had a threesome, and don't plan to. We just aren't interested in it.

It depends on the relationship.

I said no impact. It didn't have a negative "I don't wanna be with you anymore" effect on my relationship. But we were in a sort of poly relationship that started out as a threesome. I said they could have sex as long as he used a condom. Well.... I woke up one morning to them having sex beside me (which we had decided was okayy cause we were sharing a bed) and I just started crying. It was horrible. I hated it. It didn't make our marriage better or worse, just let me know that isn't for us. Well, the poly part anyway.

Can't vote because my (not legally recognized) marriage IS a threesome. I am in a committed three person relationship. We had a wedding ceremony in front of around 200 of our friends and family.

interesting question

I think it would ruin it. I'm not into it.

I don't think it should be done unless both people really want it.

We've never had one and probably never will. It's not something either of us want enough to risk it destroying our marriage.