the title says it all, well mostly. we have been together 5 years and just finally tied the knot 2 months ago. I know I should still be reeling from the wedding and honey moon, but we have already lived as a married couple so long nothing has changed except my last name. Ever since hubby gained a lot of weight, and has been un able to lose it, even his doctor has not been able to help him lose it. I have had to be on top, I have done every possible variation of girl on top sex, I have brought in toys and lingerie, we even bought a rather large and expensive piece of liberator black label furniture, with the cuffs. but no matter what, the sex is still the same, oh yea, we even tried a swingers' club. it was going okay, until we decided to start playing with a couple that felt the need to pressure us into a full swap too soon. that ended badly. I've talked with him about it, but until he loses the weight there is nothing that can be done I HAVE to be on top every time. I just don't know what to do any more. is there anyone with any advice?