Boring sex :(

TiffanyW TiffanyW
We have been married for 4 years. We have a 3 year old son. We have known each other since we were 14(me) and 16(him). How can we spice this up? I want exciting sex, and lately, it's been really boring.

I was on bed rest and pelvic rest for 14 weeks when I was pregnant, and I think we just got used to the no sex, but I want to have some fun sex with my hubby!
05/29/2013
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Mrs.Hellzapoppin Mrs.Hellzapoppin
You could try communicating about it. Maybe, introduce toys into the bedroom during foreplay or a couples vibrator like the tiani or wevibe, so you both can enjoy it.
05/29/2013
edeneve edeneve
talk to each other & find out what each of you like & have fun. there's a pair of dice available that could really make things exciting.
05/29/2013
TiffanyW TiffanyW
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Originally posted by Mrs.Hellzapoppin
You could try communicating about it. Maybe, introduce toys into the bedroom during foreplay or a couples vibrator like the tiani or wevibe, so you both can enjoy it.
That's what a friend of mine suggested. We have been trying different lubes so far, because I thought it would be something easy to start out with.
05/30/2013
TiffanyW TiffanyW
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Originally posted by edeneve
talk to each other & find out what each of you like & have fun. there's a pair of dice available that could really make things exciting.
I was thinking about buying the dice just to get things started.
05/30/2013
pixiedustVixen pixiedustVixen
Its all about seduction, we have it. no matter what even with kids you can still seduce your man. try to coax him into it by reminding him of how much fun you used to have and then you could maybe try something different or offer him something he prefers it doesnt hurt to try, or you could even suprise him and just jump his bones! date night is a good start to warm things back up too if all else fails buy a vibe lol
05/30/2013
Ciao. Ciao.
Exciting sex is all about what is going to be fun for the both of you. My partner and I (of 10+ years) just recently had a kid, so I get where you're coming from. Talk to each other, set aside some time where you can be alone together, without the kid in the house (or with both of you someplace else). Talk through some of both of your fantasies and interests beforehand and then pick some out that you both want to explore. Having some special time together to romance and play could definitely help break you both out of your slump a little.
05/30/2013
TiffanyW TiffanyW
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Originally posted by pixiedustVixen
Its all about seduction, we have it. no matter what even with kids you can still seduce your man. try to coax him into it by reminding him of how much fun you used to have and then you could maybe try something different or offer him something he ... More
he was recently gone for 6+ weeks for work and when he got home, I had made a blindfold out of one of my old pieces of lingerie, and had a bowl of warm chocolate sauce.... that turned out to be a fun night. He got home, we put our son to bed, and I blindfolded him. Then the fun began
05/30/2013
dancingduo dancingduo
There you go! Just keep dialog open, communicating your and his desires will help you both get closer.
06/09/2013
sexymomma4 sexymomma4
Talk with your husband and let him know how you feel. Then learn something new to do that you haven't done before.
I know for us me learning to squirt has brought our sex life to a new level and its been very enjoyable for both of us. Its definitely made it better than the same old , same old. See if there is anything that he would like to try out (with in reason for both of you). But of all things communication is the key to letting him know that you would like to spice things up a bit in the bedroom.
06/16/2013
Iggins09 Iggins09
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Originally posted by TiffanyW
We have been married for 4 years. We have a 3 year old son. We have known each other since we were 14(me) and 16(him). How can we spice this up? I want exciting sex, and lately, it's been really boring.

I was on bed rest and pelvic rest ... More
Oh my gosh I know what you mean!!! I've been married to my husband for 2 years, together for 4 years. I was put on bed and pelvic rest at 13 weeks 7 days pregnant and I have another appointment coming up soon to see what the verdict will be: continued bed/pelvic rest or released back to work. I'm 16 weeks pregnant now and not being able to have sex is driving me nuts.
08/08/2013
Thong man Thong man
Talk to each other and plan some alone time
08/08/2013
Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by TiffanyW
We have been married for 4 years. We have a 3 year old son. We have known each other since we were 14(me) and 16(him). How can we spice this up? I want exciting sex, and lately, it's been really boring.

I was on bed rest and pelvic rest ... More
Above all, you need get away's. no child. No housework. It does not need to be expensive, but if you plan, some way, to have just the two of you, in a hotel somewhere. Get a nice meal and then bring along some sexy undies he has not seen, and some toys you have never used before, and just plan on nothing else but playing for a night, that can really fire up the passion as you count the days till your next "get away"!!!!
08/09/2013
Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by Thong man
Talk to each other and plan some alone time
Bingo
08/09/2013
Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by sexymomma4
Talk with your husband and let him know how you feel. Then learn something new to do that you haven't done before.
I know for us me learning to squirt has brought our sex life to a new level and its been very enjoyable for both of us. Its ... More
Sounds nuts, but part of that is "getting back to dating". Do some spontaneous and crazy things. Put an "I want you when you get home" note in his lunch. Pick him up one day in a short skirt..with nothing under it, and make sure he, and his hand, knows it. There are a million ways to add fuel to the fire. Get creative and hopefully he will respond in kind.
08/09/2013
SaiDiscordia SaiDiscordia
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Originally posted by TiffanyW
We have been married for 4 years. We have a 3 year old son. We have known each other since we were 14(me) and 16(him). How can we spice this up? I want exciting sex, and lately, it's been really boring.

I was on bed rest and pelvic rest ... More
One thing that is a good ice breaker is a sexual board game. I know it sounds awkward, but this works in two ways. One, you get to do an array of sexual acts t spice things up and two, it really does open up communication. You learn what each of you enjoys, you get to express feelings, and you get to laugh because some of the tasks are hilarious! Just make a commitment to finish the actual game and to be completely honest with each other before you start playing. Otherwise you will get so hot and bothered that you won't finish.
08/12/2013
Istanbull Istanbull
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Originally posted by TiffanyW
We have been married for 4 years. We have a 3 year old son. We have known each other since we were 14(me) and 16(him). How can we spice this up? I want exciting sex, and lately, it's been really boring.

I was on bed rest and pelvic rest ... More
Get a boyfriend. If he's not taking care of you despite your request and eagerness then that's his loss. There's plenty of men in sexless marriages who would die to have a wife who wants to have more sex, explore new thigns and make things exciting.
10/07/2013
Vinroe Vinroe
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Originally posted by TiffanyW
We have been married for 4 years. We have a 3 year old son. We have known each other since we were 14(me) and 16(him). How can we spice this up? I want exciting sex, and lately, it's been really boring.

I was on bed rest and pelvic rest ... More
You say you've been together since your teens. Well you are in a similar situation as a couple friends of mine. They chose to get back to basics and did a few things they did in their youth. They grab a bottle Boone's Farms and SoCo, borrowed his dad's old pick up and headed to the river. They pretended to be teenagers again talked about old times, got tipsy and made love in the bed of a classic Ford pickup.

Kinky is great but nothing beats a classic. Getting back to a time when your relationship was fresh and new can't be a bad thing. It'll help you both find yourselves again.
12/15/2013
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