You are in a suppose to be monogamous marriage, and find out your spouse has been unfaithful. Know the kicker is they did not tell you, even after the father of the girl beat him up he still did not tell you. You find out when the prosecutor calls and is looking for him about pressing charges. Do you stay? Why or why not?
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08/17/2012
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My answer is I would not stay. I could not see myself staying with a cheater, let alone a liar and a cheater.
Originally posted by
Mrs. Tickle and Giggle
You are in a suppose to be monogamous marriage, and find out your spouse has been unfaithful. Know the kicker is they did not tell you, even after the father of the girl beat him up he still did not tell you. You find out when the prosecutor calls
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You are in a suppose to be monogamous marriage, and find out your spouse has been unfaithful. Know the kicker is they did not tell you, even after the father of the girl beat him up he still did not tell you. You find out when the prosecutor calls and is looking for him about pressing charges. Do you stay? Why or why not?
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08/17/2012
Hell no. Once the trust is gone, so is the relationship. But, from experience, it isnt any better when they. tell you
08/17/2012
I second that. Hell no!
08/17/2012
Through thick and thin...
08/17/2012
I would always think they are going to do it again.
08/17/2012
No, it would be a deal-breaker for me.
08/17/2012
no f**king way!!
08/17/2012
No way would I stay.
08/17/2012
Not only would I not stay, but I'd wonder how I get this shit on Jerry Springer?
08/17/2012
Most definitely not.
08/17/2012
I'd be long gone at that point. Not only am I of the mentality of "once a cheater, always a cheater", but in a situation like this (where the father of the girl is involved) it would seem that he was messing with someone who wasn't just young, but illegal.
08/18/2012
it has never happened to my knowledge i would not stay
08/20/2012
Absolutely not
08/20/2012
I would have been left, Once a cheater always a cheater... and then the lying just makes it worst .
08/20/2012
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I think she is illegal as well. But we will never know.
Originally posted by
Deeder
I'd be long gone at that point. Not only am I of the mentality of "once a cheater, always a cheater", but in a situation like this (where the father of the girl is involved) it would seem that he was messing with someone who wasn't
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I'd be long gone at that point. Not only am I of the mentality of "once a cheater, always a cheater", but in a situation like this (where the father of the girl is involved) it would seem that he was messing with someone who wasn't just young, but illegal.
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08/20/2012
nope, they would be gone the second I found out.
08/20/2012
I don't stay with cheaters, no matter what the circumstances, a cheater is a cheater.
08/20/2012
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I'm sure there are other circumstances, but based on just the facts you presented, no.
Originally posted by
Mrs. Tickle and Giggle
You are in a suppose to be monogamous marriage, and find out your spouse has been unfaithful. Know the kicker is they did not tell you, even after the father of the girl beat him up he still did not tell you. You find out when the prosecutor calls
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You are in a suppose to be monogamous marriage, and find out your spouse has been unfaithful. Know the kicker is they did not tell you, even after the father of the girl beat him up he still did not tell you. You find out when the prosecutor calls and is looking for him about pressing charges. Do you stay? Why or why not?
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08/20/2012
Cheating followed by more deceit to cover up the cheating is an absolute dealbreaker for me. Why would I be in a relationship with someone who has proven, in a very significant way, that I can't trust them?
08/20/2012
No I would not stay I have tried the stay we will work it all out thing, for him to turn around an do it again. So HELL NO I would go an if police are involved and he got beat up by the dad that is even more reason for me to go because sounds like he was messing with an underage girl.
08/21/2012
Just not worth it. How can someone rebuild trust after something that huge?
08/21/2012
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Honestly, I have no idea. My husband did cheat on me, I didn't know and there were accusations made that I also didn't know about. My problem was that he faced a lying bitch without anyone to back him because he was cheating. I forgave him because his cheating had nothing to do with me, wasn't caused by me, and didn't involve me. It was HIS lying and HIS cheating he had to live with. He chose to stay and witness the devastation that his lying caused and helped me work on getting over it. I am a better person for having lived through this experience and my life is in a pretty damn good place right now, so I only regret that he didn't trust me enough to tell me what was going on in the first place.
Originally posted by
Mrs. Tickle and Giggle
You are in a suppose to be monogamous marriage, and find out your spouse has been unfaithful. Know the kicker is they did not tell you, even after the father of the girl beat him up he still did not tell you. You find out when the prosecutor calls
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You are in a suppose to be monogamous marriage, and find out your spouse has been unfaithful. Know the kicker is they did not tell you, even after the father of the girl beat him up he still did not tell you. You find out when the prosecutor calls and is looking for him about pressing charges. Do you stay? Why or why not?
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However, with another man who uses cheating and lying to punish his spouse for real or imagined ill treatment I would walk away...and with authority.
For us the cheating was a long hard road to walk but it was worth it, I don't recommend that for every relationship. Sometimes a situation is so toxic that you just have to leave to save yourself.
08/21/2012
Ok so we ALL know that cheating in endemic in our society and more than in 50% of relationships people admit to an episode of cheating, and there is the belief that the numbers are more like 75% or higher. So all of you who say "no way, no how" would simply hop to another relationship and face the very real chance that the next person would cheat?
Let's all raise a glass to serial monogamy! Or let's admit that we don't know WHAT we'd do...I was one of the ones who threatened physical harm to my husband if he cheated. Oh, and the whole time I was threatening him, he WAS cheating. So think about that for a bit. We were the poster children for marital bliss, but he was doing whatever he felt like doing from the very beginning. We are still the poster children for marital bliss but we're a WHOLE lot wiser about the realities of life.
Let's all raise a glass to serial monogamy! Or let's admit that we don't know WHAT we'd do...I was one of the ones who threatened physical harm to my husband if he cheated. Oh, and the whole time I was threatening him, he WAS cheating. So think about that for a bit. We were the poster children for marital bliss, but he was doing whatever he felt like doing from the very beginning. We are still the poster children for marital bliss but we're a WHOLE lot wiser about the realities of life.
08/21/2012
fuck no, I would never cheat. My boyfriend and I have an understanding (which I don't know how it will hold up on his side) that we would tell each other if we wanted to sleep with another person.
08/21/2012
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No, anybody deserves better than to be with someone that is not only a cheater, but dishonest about it and something as big as legal problems as well. And if you did stay, it would probably look like it is ok and it would continue.
Originally posted by
Mrs. Tickle and Giggle
You are in a suppose to be monogamous marriage, and find out your spouse has been unfaithful. Know the kicker is they did not tell you, even after the father of the girl beat him up he still did not tell you. You find out when the prosecutor calls
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You are in a suppose to be monogamous marriage, and find out your spouse has been unfaithful. Know the kicker is they did not tell you, even after the father of the girl beat him up he still did not tell you. You find out when the prosecutor calls and is looking for him about pressing charges. Do you stay? Why or why not?
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08/21/2012
No way. I could never stay with someone who cheated, and lied to me.
08/21/2012
Good lord! Sounds like they've been cheating a while. I'd say probably not, not based on the cheating, but on all the other stuff!
08/21/2012
There is a small chance I could forgive him for cheating. But I don't think I could forgive him for abusing a child. Your question implies that the person he slept with was a minor (why else would her father get involved?) and that would be too fucked up.
08/24/2012
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This is my understanding as well. But we will give thedirt bag the benefit if the dought and say she was not a minor and she just lived with her parents does that change your mind?
Originally posted by
ellieprobable
There is a small chance I could forgive him for cheating. But I don't think I could forgive him for abusing a child. Your question implies that the person he slept with was a minor (why else would her father get involved?) and that would be too
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There is a small chance I could forgive him for cheating. But I don't think I could forgive him for abusing a child. Your question implies that the person he slept with was a minor (why else would her father get involved?) and that would be too fucked up.
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08/26/2012
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