Did you lose your sex drive after marriage?

captainsgirl captainsgirl
After marriage did you get a little to comfortable and loose your spice/sex drive/etc.?
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
sadly yes
Hummingbird , Eugler , A Good Girl , Msmueller , marriedlady123 , Ayogirl230 , sexymomma4 , Hallmar82 , doctameca , edeneve , Iggins09
11  (20%)
no
nikki0668 , Gunsmoke , brevado , PieC , mpfm , Fun2 , Pete's Princess , Airen Wolf
8  (15%)
hell no! It's better than before
captainsgirl , P'Gell , SneakersAndPearls , Nurse Katie , The Vixen , married with children , Rossie , PropertyOfPotter , Hot4You , Teaser , padmeamidala , chelly411 , spiced , Stagger13 , bayosgirl , Mr. E , Missmarc , OFWife , Bubba29 , Castielskitten , Bignuf , C&K0143 , Vinroe
23  (43%)
other
TheirPet , Terri69 , Noelle , Missy27 , Cat E. , CutiePatootie , Deeder , TJtheMadHatter , Adnerbmw , KrissyNovacaine , earthmama , Sassy Pam
12  (22%)
Total votes: 54
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01/30/2013
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captainsgirl captainsgirl
Quote:
Originally posted by captainsgirl
After marriage did you get a little to comfortable and loose your spice/sex drive/etc.?
I'd have to say, I did lose it for a little bit, but I lost a child and had a lot of health issues, now that I am on the road to happiness my sex drive is higher than ever!!
01/30/2013
SneakersAndPearls SneakersAndPearls
No, not at all. It actually picked up significantly.
01/30/2013
Hummingbird Hummingbird
But recently over the past year its come back like a tornado, house on fire and a category 10 earthquake.
01/30/2013
nikki0668 nikki0668
not after marriage, but after giving birth.
01/30/2013
Chilipepper Chilipepper
Mine slowly died during marriage between my ex keeping it celibate, him policing my access to anything sexy, and me being on anti-depressants.

It came back full force the day after we separated ... my FWB walked funny for three days afterward.
01/30/2013
TheirPet TheirPet
Not married yet. I hope this doesn't happen.
01/30/2013
Nurse Katie Nurse Katie
Quote:
Originally posted by captainsgirl
After marriage did you get a little to comfortable and loose your spice/sex drive/etc.?
Nope, I love married sex
01/30/2013
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
I did not - my wife on the other hand did. I think she viewed sex as an obligation - not something 'good girls' enjoyed. When the kids came along, they were the perfect excuse. Luckily in her 40s she got over it.
01/30/2013
married with children married with children
not at all. still going strong.
01/30/2013
brevado brevado
It goes in cycles
02/01/2013
Noelle Noelle
Quote:
Originally posted by captainsgirl
After marriage did you get a little to comfortable and loose your spice/sex drive/etc.?
My husband is 52 and has no real sex drive. I am 42 and at my peak. THIS SUCKS!!!!
02/08/2013
Missy27 Missy27
Not after marriage but definitely did after having kids. At least for me, it was dead! It has started to come around and I think I am beginning to peak. Maybe because the kids are not as young anymore or maybe it's time for my peak. Hubby is thrilled. It's been far too long!
02/17/2013
PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
It's not always a spicy as I would like it to be, but we have an active sex life and I love it.
02/17/2013
Hot4You Hot4You
Not at all. It's better than it was.
02/17/2013
Cat E. Cat E.
I'm not married but I don't see how marriage could change a sex drive.
02/17/2013
Fun2 Fun2
It has its ups and downs at times. Overall though its just as good or better.
02/19/2013
chelly411 chelly411
No, after marriage it is so much better
02/22/2013
spiced spiced
It's certainly not as desperately passionate as when we were living hundreds of miles apart (except when one of us has to travel for work), but we now have a MUCH better understanding of each others' needs and desires. Overall, it's definitely better.

We did go through a rough patch a couple of years ago, when I injured myself (skiing) and took months to recover. I stopped exercising, and found my libido plummeted. And a few months ago, my wife's work was just insane; she wasn't getting enough sleep and had zero interest in sex for a few weeks (which sucked!). But as long as we're both physically active and well-rested, all's well.
03/05/2013
Stagger13 Stagger13
Quote:
Originally posted by captainsgirl
After marriage did you get a little to comfortable and loose your spice/sex drive/etc.?
Nope-we are better now than we ever were.
03/05/2013
CutiePatootie CutiePatootie
Some days/weeks/months are better than others. My husband never has lost it, but I am not nearly as horny as I was when we met in college.
03/06/2013
unicorn64 unicorn64
Quote:
Originally posted by captainsgirl
After marriage did you get a little to comfortable and loose your spice/sex drive/etc.?
Sadly yes. After 45 years and then I found out the high blood pressure medication killed my desire. For some reasong the last few months it has come back with a bang. Now health problems stop my husband and financial issues hold us back. Thus I am trying to use the toys to help myself.
03/06/2013
A Good Girl A Good Girl
When I'm super busy and stressed out it does wane, but then things find an even keel and we're back at it again. I think it's more about just being crazy tired than about being married.
03/08/2013
Missmarc Missmarc
Quote:
Originally posted by captainsgirl
After marriage did you get a little to comfortable and loose your spice/sex drive/etc.?
hell no! It's better than before
03/29/2013
Pete's Princess Pete's Princess
Not at all. I think he is the hottest thing. I would do him all the time, but alas I must work and take care of all the other stuff life brings. He is a wonderful person and I love him for so much more than sex. Sex is definitely the most fun part though.

In my first marriage my sex drive plummeted. He was very mean and verbally abusive. He was also very lazy and did nothing around the house. It is hard to get desire up for someone you do not respect and is putting you down.
04/20/2013
TJtheMadHatter TJtheMadHatter
Since we've been together our sexual relationship has slowly declined. The quality is still top notch, but the quantity is lacking. I'm way more sexual than him, now or ever. Thank God, for dildos and vibrators...that's all I'm saying. lol
05/13/2013
dancingduo dancingduo
Life gets busier. Kids, work, etc. but no, we still make time for each other.
05/18/2013
Adnerbmw Adnerbmw
My husbands libido is really low and hes on some meds right now that lower is even more. its horrible. i feel terrible about my body and him not wanting to have sex does not help me at all. we are going through a bit of a rough patch sexually right now. Its pretty crappy
05/31/2013
sexymomma4 sexymomma4
Yes, lots of things in life can cause your libio to wax and wane. Stress, hormone issues, having children, working a lot, etc.

My husband and I have been married for 18 yrs. When we were first married our love life was great, then I had children and with each one I think they took the energy of out me. My youngest is 6yrs old and she had been born with complex medical conditions so for a long time, up until recently , like three weeks ago recently that I've come back to full swing and then some. LOL

The most important thing is that you love each other. Moods change, libios change, but in the end as long as you love each other, that won't change.
06/16/2013
Hallmar82 Hallmar82
Quote:
Originally posted by A Good Girl
When I'm super busy and stressed out it does wane, but then things find an even keel and we're back at it again. I think it's more about just being crazy tired than about being married.
True, life is usually easier when you're just dating.
06/16/2013
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