I've had kids and my body defiantly isn't what it used to be and I was wondering if wearing lingerie would make me feel less insecure? Since my husband is almost 36 and barely wants to do anything sexual you think that would spice things up!?
Does wearing lingerie make you feel less insecure?
OMG!! Yes!! It hides my stretch marks, belly pooch and reinforces the good curves, allowing me to relax and focus on having sex. I do not wonder if he still thinks I am sexy, if my belly is jiggling, etc. I focus on stimulating him or me and having the greatest sex ever....every time!!
That is why I purchase and wear so much lingerie. It makes me feel confident and sexy and teases him with the eye candy, my hubby says he doesn't care if I wear the lingerie or not--but he is always obviously turned on when he either realizes I have lingerie on under street clothes or come out of the bath wearing it.....
That is why I purchase and wear so much lingerie. It makes me feel confident and sexy and teases him with the eye candy, my hubby says he doesn't care if I wear the lingerie or not--but he is always obviously turned on when he either realizes I have lingerie on under street clothes or come out of the bath wearing it.....
05/07/2012
I think you are dealing with 2 separate issues here.
#1 - you want to feel better about your body and appearance. Well made lingerie CAN help with that, most definitely.
#2 - your husband has very little interest in being sexual with you. That could be for a variety of reason, and lingerie may or may not help with that at all. (My guess is it probably won't, you may be better served talking with him about that part of the issue.)
#1 - you want to feel better about your body and appearance. Well made lingerie CAN help with that, most definitely.
#2 - your husband has very little interest in being sexual with you. That could be for a variety of reason, and lingerie may or may not help with that at all. (My guess is it probably won't, you may be better served talking with him about that part of the issue.)
05/07/2012
My husband loves in in lingerie or without it. It doesn't bother me, even though my body is not perfect.
As for your husband; had he been to the doctor to check for his Testosterone levels? My Man is more than 15 years older than he is and still has a voracious appetite for sex. Low T can effect a man in many ways, from his energy levels, to what appears to be depression, to his wanting to participate in things, to not caring about work and not wanting to have sex.
Healthy men should never lose appreciation for good sex (neither should women, for that point) and if they do, a doctor's appointment is a good idea. If his doctor won't take him seriously, he may need to see a urologist or an endocrinologist.
I have a female friend who is having a similar problem herself, (she has lost her sex drive) and she refuses to do anything about it. (She even has a prescription, based on her hormone level test. She says it's "too expensive" and that her husband will "just have to deal with it, he didn't marry me for sex, did he?" I have to only shake my head and think, "Yeah, at least in part he did. That's only normal.") I really worry about her relationship with her husband, because it is effecting him seriously. (My Man and he are good friends.) Few relationships can survive long stretches of sexual deserts.
He may feel better when he gets medical help.
Good luck.
As for your husband; had he been to the doctor to check for his Testosterone levels? My Man is more than 15 years older than he is and still has a voracious appetite for sex. Low T can effect a man in many ways, from his energy levels, to what appears to be depression, to his wanting to participate in things, to not caring about work and not wanting to have sex.
Healthy men should never lose appreciation for good sex (neither should women, for that point) and if they do, a doctor's appointment is a good idea. If his doctor won't take him seriously, he may need to see a urologist or an endocrinologist.
I have a female friend who is having a similar problem herself, (she has lost her sex drive) and she refuses to do anything about it. (She even has a prescription, based on her hormone level test. She says it's "too expensive" and that her husband will "just have to deal with it, he didn't marry me for sex, did he?" I have to only shake my head and think, "Yeah, at least in part he did. That's only normal.") I really worry about her relationship with her husband, because it is effecting him seriously. (My Man and he are good friends.) Few relationships can survive long stretches of sexual deserts.
He may feel better when he gets medical help.
Good luck.
05/07/2012
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I have talked to him I thinks its me and my insecurity not him honestly I think my sex drive is just way higher then his.
Originally posted by
indiglo
I think you are dealing with 2 separate issues here.
#1 - you want to feel better about your body and appearance. Well made lingerie CAN help with that, most definitely.
#2 - your husband has very little interest in being sexual with ...
#1 - you want to feel better about your body and appearance. Well made lingerie CAN help with that, most definitely.
#2 - your husband has very little interest in being sexual with ...
I think you are dealing with 2 separate issues here.
#1 - you want to feel better about your body and appearance. Well made lingerie CAN help with that, most definitely.
#2 - your husband has very little interest in being sexual with you. That could be for a variety of reason, and lingerie may or may not help with that at all. (My guess is it probably won't, you may be better served talking with him about that part of the issue.)
#1 - you want to feel better about your body and appearance. Well made lingerie CAN help with that, most definitely.
#2 - your husband has very little interest in being sexual with you. That could be for a variety of reason, and lingerie may or may not help with that at all. (My guess is it probably won't, you may be better served talking with him about that part of the issue.)
05/08/2012
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