It most definitely damages it. My husband is a VERY BAD flirt. Girls come up to me and say that he is flirting with them and when I talk to him, he just says that he has a flirty personality. Lol, no, that's not it at all. He thinks it's fine and he can get away with it. He never flirts with me and really never has. He flirts with them and he never tells them that we are married and they text him and it gets WAY too much. This one girl was talking sex to him and I found out that apparently he asked to have sex with her and she said no. She didn't want to stop talking to him just because she wouldn't have sex with him, he said ok. He denies the whole thing, but of course he has a different story to tell, but I talked to the girl myself and he tried. I just dont get it and I never will. So yeah, flirting ... not a good idea to even think about in a marriage or relationship.
Do you feel that flirting with someone other than your S/O can hurt or invigorate a long term relationship?
04/27/2011
I agree, it depends on the couple. If you and your partner are into that, then no it wouldn't damage your relationship. But personally, with my man and our relationship... it would be very damaging so we just don't go there.
04/27/2011
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It might mess up the relatioship
Originally posted by
removedacnt
I'm kind of on the fence about how I feel about this, so I would love to hear others opinions. Besides answering the poll, I would love to hear everyone's personal input as well.
04/27/2011
I think it depends on the situation and depends on the trust level in the relationship.
04/27/2011
She: I'm really friendly and I apparently come off as flirting to people sometimes, and it used to bother him, so I try to drop in something about "my partner" early on to help give off a "not flirting" vibe. If I were to intentionally flirt, I think I'd have to be dissatisfied with our relationship, so I'd assume the same of him.
He: It seems like intentionally flirting with other people is to find excitement that is missing from the relationship.
She: Then again, it's definitely still flattering when someone decides to flirt with me. I just make sure they know I'm taken and don't flirt back.
He: You definitely are a hottie
She: Aw
He: It seems like intentionally flirting with other people is to find excitement that is missing from the relationship.
She: Then again, it's definitely still flattering when someone decides to flirt with me. I just make sure they know I'm taken and don't flirt back.
He: You definitely are a hottie
She: Aw
04/29/2011
Well, I make a lot of naughty jokes that could be construed as flirting. My boyfriend doesn't mind; he usually thinks it's funny. I don't mind if he makes flirty jokes with other girls. It's all in good fun.
However, I would never seriously flirt with someone. I'm in a monogamous relationship and wouldn't want to lead someone on. Likewise, I would be upset if my boyfriend started to seriously flirt with someone.
However, I would never seriously flirt with someone. I'm in a monogamous relationship and wouldn't want to lead someone on. Likewise, I would be upset if my boyfriend started to seriously flirt with someone.
04/29/2011
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My husband does those kinds of jokes all the time and yes, he knows that it's flirting but he just says that they just screw aroudn with each other. He knows I don't appreciate it, but he does it anyways. A lot of girls he talks to thinks that he wants something from them whether it be a relationship or sex. It's pretty bad. But the sad thing is, the people he mainly does the jokes to, are only 15-18 years old. It's sick.
Originally posted by
bunny love
Well, I make a lot of naughty jokes that could be construed as flirting. My boyfriend doesn't mind; he usually thinks it's funny. I don't mind if he makes flirty jokes with other girls. It's all in good fun.
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Well, I make a lot of naughty jokes that could be construed as flirting. My boyfriend doesn't mind; he usually thinks it's funny. I don't mind if he makes flirty jokes with other girls. It's all in good fun.
However, I would never seriously flirt with someone. I'm in a monogamous relationship and wouldn't want to lead someone on. Likewise, I would be upset if my boyfriend started to seriously flirt with someone. less
However, I would never seriously flirt with someone. I'm in a monogamous relationship and wouldn't want to lead someone on. Likewise, I would be upset if my boyfriend started to seriously flirt with someone. less
05/02/2011
I think it could, flirting can be a dangerous game to play.
06/10/2011
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You summed it up perfectly for me right here.
Originally posted by
purplekidney
She: I'm really friendly and I apparently come off as flirting to people sometimes, and it used to bother him, so I try to drop in something about "my partner" early on to help give off a "not flirting" vibe. If I were to
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She: I'm really friendly and I apparently come off as flirting to people sometimes, and it used to bother him, so I try to drop in something about "my partner" early on to help give off a "not flirting" vibe. If I were to intentionally flirt, I think I'd have to be dissatisfied with our relationship, so I'd assume the same of him.
He: It seems like intentionally flirting with other people is to find excitement that is missing from the relationship.
She: Then again, it's definitely still flattering when someone decides to flirt with me. I just make sure they know I'm taken and don't flirt back.
He: You definitely are a hottie
She: Aw less
He: It seems like intentionally flirting with other people is to find excitement that is missing from the relationship.
She: Then again, it's definitely still flattering when someone decides to flirt with me. I just make sure they know I'm taken and don't flirt back.
He: You definitely are a hottie
She: Aw less
Also, my lover and I don't share. I have no desire to be with anyone but him and don't see the point in flirting with others 'for fun' because...there's just no fun in it. No point, no purpose. It wouldn't mean anything and it would only upset things if I pretended to be interested in someone else. I'd be upset if he flirted with another person as well, because I'd assume the reason had to be he wanted something in our relationship that I wasn't providing, so he was seeking it elsewhere.
Luckily, he's not that kind of person. Luckily, he's quite possessive and I daresay we're a good match on that front.
06/10/2011
Flirting is fun and harmless. As a theatre person I flirt with everyone, its just natural. My hubby is used to it and knows that it has nothing to do with sex. Flirting for me is light and meaningless, sex is intimate and meaningful.
06/10/2011
If it's harmless, innocent flirting that practically everyone does, then I'm fine with it. But if it's not and they're doing it to make me jealous and such, then no way.
02/25/2012
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its up to the relationship, but for me it really pisses me off when my wife flirts with someone else
02/26/2012
I do not want my husband flirting with other people. I don't do it and I don't want him to. We are supposed to be committed to one another and I think putting that out there is a bad idea.
02/28/2012
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I totally agree here. Some flirting is fun and makes you feel attractive to others. After a long-term relationship or marriage, you tend to feel overlooked at times. As long as it's harmless flirting, I don't see the big deal.
Originally posted by
Sammi
I think it depends on the kind of flirting you're doing. Innocent flirting, light flirting, flirting with your partner's consent that isn't going anywhere can be invigorating. But if there's a possibility that it's going to go
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I think it depends on the kind of flirting you're doing. Innocent flirting, light flirting, flirting with your partner's consent that isn't going anywhere can be invigorating. But if there's a possibility that it's going to go farther, I don't think it's a good idea.
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04/07/2012
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I think it could damage a relationship, if the spouse knew about it. Shame on me!! Several years ago, I flirted with a man I worked with. It was fun, and it made me feel attractive. But he asked for me to leave my husband and it was a straight up hell no! My husband had his suspicions, but he never flat out and asked me about him, he just told me he really didn't like him, but never gave me a reason why. I think he knew that I flirted with him. Flirting can be dangerous too, if not careful, it can lead to other things and that can definitely ruin a relationship. I guess it depends on what type of flirting. Heavy hands on flirting, or soft flirting.
Originally posted by
removedacnt
I'm kind of on the fence about how I feel about this, so I would love to hear others opinions. Besides answering the poll, I would love to hear everyone's personal input as well.
04/29/2012
I don't think I'd want my man to flirt, even if it was harmless. I don't want other girls getting that attention from him.
04/30/2012
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This is the perfect answer.
Originally posted by
Sammi
I think it depends on the kind of flirting you're doing. Innocent flirting, light flirting, flirting with your partner's consent that isn't going anywhere can be invigorating. But if there's a possibility that it's going to go
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I think it depends on the kind of flirting you're doing. Innocent flirting, light flirting, flirting with your partner's consent that isn't going anywhere can be invigorating. But if there's a possibility that it's going to go farther, I don't think it's a good idea.
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04/30/2012
I tend to be a slightly jealous person, so flirting could do some damage.
04/30/2012
Damage for sure. Whether they intend anything or not, the people receiving the flirts don't realize that. My sister was just complaining to me that 3 guys at work are "in love" with her and she doesn't know why. Probably because she's very pretty and hard core flirts with them, even though she's seeing someone, whom by the way does not work with her.
04/30/2012
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Hurt it.
Originally posted by
removedacnt
I'm kind of on the fence about how I feel about this, so I would love to hear others opinions. Besides answering the poll, I would love to hear everyone's personal input as well.
04/30/2012
Both the hubby and I are pretty territorial when it comes to each other and would be hurt if either one of us flirted with someone outside the relationship. But that is us and the dynamics of all relationships are different.
04/30/2012
Like so many things, it depends on the couple.
05/05/2012
I said damage, from personal experience...
05/07/2012
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definitely hurt it. I don't see why you would want to anyways really.
Originally posted by
removedacnt
I'm kind of on the fence about how I feel about this, so I would love to hear others opinions. Besides answering the poll, I would love to hear everyone's personal input as well.
05/09/2012
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It truely depends on how secure both parties are with there relationship. How commited they are. There are several factors that determine how it can effect a relationship.
Originally posted by
removedacnt
I'm kind of on the fence about how I feel about this, so I would love to hear others opinions. Besides answering the poll, I would love to hear everyone's personal input as well.
05/24/2012
Depends on whether the partner tends to be jealous, and whether the flirting is fun or serious. For example, my friend tends to be very flirty with everyone, but both she and her boyfriend know she's only really interested in him
05/25/2012
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We are not flirty with other people. WE never really have been. But this is a couple specific issue. What does or does not work ofr us may be different for others. Know thy partner
Originally posted by
removedacnt
I'm kind of on the fence about how I feel about this, so I would love to hear others opinions. Besides answering the poll, I would love to hear everyone's personal input as well.
09/19/2012
I would not flirt with someone else, because I'm not going to risk it damaging our marriage. There's a possibility that everything would turn out okay, but I still wouldn't want to take that risk.
09/22/2012
Because we are who we are, it will probably, in the long run, hurt the relationship for most of us.
09/22/2012
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