Would you trust that if you brought a third party into your marriage your husband wouldn't go behind your back with her?
Do you really trust your husband?
01/04/2011
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Absolutely. But Alan knows he wouldn't have to go behind my back if he really wanted to do something anyway. We actually have the reverse situation in our house right now: a male friend of Alan's has been living with us for almost a year now. We have a lot of trust in our relationship both ways.
Originally posted by
sweet seduction
Would you trust that if you brought a third party into your marriage your husband wouldn't go behind your back with her?
01/04/2011
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i trust mine. but also he doesn't feel comfortable with having a 3rd party. I guess i'm lucky there i don't have to worry good luck
Originally posted by
sweet seduction
Would you trust that if you brought a third party into your marriage your husband wouldn't go behind your back with her?
01/09/2011
There are two questions here. I travel a ton - and wife trusts me completely, we just have that kind of relationship. But since we would never consider the 3-some thing - the second part of the question does not apply - the old NA!
01/10/2011
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Same here. I trust my husband completely. In our marriage, there is no room for a third party, so NA here too.
Originally posted by
Gunsmoke
There are two questions here. I travel a ton - and wife trusts me completely, we just have that kind of relationship. But since we would never consider the 3-some thing - the second part of the question does not apply - the old NA!
01/10/2011
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I trust mine too he would never do anything behind my back.
Originally posted by
Chevylady37
i trust mine. but also he doesn't feel comfortable with having a 3rd party. I guess i'm lucky there i don't have to worry good luck
01/21/2011
Like Gunsmoke, I travel a lot, and my wife trusts me completely. She worries about me since I'm frequently places where if I get injured, chances are I couldn't get help and they might not ever find my body, but she definitely trusts me.
If ever there was a third party brought into the marriage (i.e., a threesome) it would be someone we'd never see again (e.g., on vacation), so I can't see your particular scenario ever being a factor with us.
If ever there was a third party brought into the marriage (i.e., a threesome) it would be someone we'd never see again (e.g., on vacation), so I can't see your particular scenario ever being a factor with us.
01/21/2011
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Same here.
Originally posted by
Redboxbaby
Same here. I trust my husband completely. In our marriage, there is no room for a third party, so NA here too.
01/21/2011
My third party is my fleshlight and for her it is her toys or the sybian.
01/21/2011
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I'll have to third that one.
Originally posted by
Redboxbaby
Same here. I trust my husband completely. In our marriage, there is no room for a third party, so NA here too.
01/21/2011
I want to have a 3-some with my husband and another woman but this is exactly what I am worried about. I worry that once my husband gets a taste of something new, he may want to continue doing it.
01/22/2011
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nope cuz he cheated with his fata** ex wife in 08 on me so hell no i will NEVER let him alone without being stressed with a woman i know or dont know. and fyi we will never bring a 3rd person in.
Originally posted by
sweet seduction
Would you trust that if you brought a third party into your marriage your husband wouldn't go behind your back with her?
01/23/2011
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I'm very sorry to hear that. I hope things have gotten better since.
Originally posted by
mama2007
nope cuz he cheated with his fata** ex wife in 08 on me so hell no i will NEVER let him alone without being stressed with a woman i know or dont know. and fyi we will never bring a 3rd person in.
01/23/2011
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ditto!
Originally posted by
Redboxbaby
Same here. I trust my husband completely. In our marriage, there is no room for a third party, so NA here too.
01/23/2011
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Some guys can't handle the third party responsibly and some can. Never do anything that you aren't comfortable with.
Originally posted by
dbtracy
I want to have a 3-some with my husband and another woman but this is exactly what I am worried about. I worry that once my husband gets a taste of something new, he may want to continue doing it.
01/23/2011
Yes. It's something we've talked about quite a bit. If we were to add a person to our relationship there would have to be 100% transparency.
01/23/2011
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thanks, thank goodness she got a bf back in 08. but i still cant stand her =/ lol. that maybe rude but im still mad bout it cuz the way I found out was my iud insertion appt they do std test and mine came back with something (sorry if tmi) and i have NEVER been with ne 1 in my life but him sexually ever, 1 person and 1 only. so i flipped. cuz his came back same. but yeah since we moved out of state to my home town its been ALOT better =] she hardly ever msgs either of us like ever to my knowlege ne way, i check text messages to be sure lol =/ but i guess i cant talk much cuz when i met him he was married to her, but yeah
Originally posted by
sweet seduction
I'm very sorry to hear that. I hope things have gotten better since.
01/24/2011
My husband and i have some issues in that area i would love to add a girl into our relationship but i don't really think i trust him because he has cheated on me and it has been harder than i would have thought to trust him again. I think it depends on your relationship and your level of trust but personally i think it may be a long time before i can trust my husband enough to go that route.
02/28/2011
I would be open for a third (man or woman) but only if my wife wanted it, and we both have to share them.
02/28/2011
I am going to be bold about this. No, I don't trust mine and I don't really know if I ever fully will. There has been evidence that he has cheated or has tried to cheat on me, he has lied to a lot of people about us being married or dating when we did. He has always had other girls on the sides so when his girlfriend would break up with him, he would instantly have someone else. He said that he couldn't trust anyone, so that is what he did. He never tells the people that NEED to know that he's married. He let two underageers talk sex to him and of course, he never told him that he was married. Apparently it wasn't important. He is a constant liar, which everyone has told me. He has been abusive too (physically, sexually some, verbally, emotionally). He says that I need to fully trust him without hesitation, and I'm sorry, but last time I checked, trust was earned, not given. He has said that he woulnd't mind having another woman in the picture, and I'm just thinking .. of COURSE you wouldn't mind. I know that I'm not the prettiest or the skinniest, but I think I'm fair and I should be enough. I know his mind, so I know that he would think of her and not me, And I think it's wrong, but no, my husband is a person that is not trustworthy. He has tried so hard these past two weeks to try to get me to trust him and to "forget" the horrible things he has done to me, but I can't. He's saying that what is in the past is in the past, it is done and I need to forget it. But he's just trying to excuse everything he has done. So no, anyone with a guy like this out there, learn from my stupid mistakes, these men aren't trustworthy and you deserve more.
04/27/2011
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Definitely no room for a third party!
Originally posted by
Lady Venus
ditto!
04/27/2011
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That is a good answer, I havent even thought of that as being a third party.
Originally posted by
Fun Lover
My third party is my fleshlight and for her it is her toys or the sybian.
04/27/2011
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You are so lucky to have a guy like that. KEEP HIM!!! Lol
Originally posted by
Chevylady37
i trust mine. but also he doesn't feel comfortable with having a 3rd party. I guess i'm lucky there i don't have to worry good luck
04/27/2011
She: I trust him completely, but I don't think he's interested in adding another person to the mix anyway, so it's not really an issue.
He: I would trust you with my identity disk.
She: Aw. Sweet geek-love We're getting near bedtime in the purplekidney house, can you tell?
He: I would trust you with my identity disk.
She: Aw. Sweet geek-love We're getting near bedtime in the purplekidney house, can you tell?
04/29/2011
We've had a long talk about this, and yes, I would trust him. It has taken a long time to do so, frankly because he and I were both whores before we got together. But now, yes, I trust him. I know that he'd never go behind my back and do anything. And I wouldn't go behind his back and do anything either.
04/29/2011
I believe my wife would trust me, but neither of us wants a third!
04/29/2011
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Well, honestly, that' the main problem with my husband. He has always been a manwhore. He has been with so many girls it's definitely not funny. He has proved to me that I can't trust him and that he is still a whore.
Originally posted by
Joie de Cherresse
We've had a long talk about this, and yes, I would trust him. It has taken a long time to do so, frankly because he and I were both whores before we got together. But now, yes, I trust him. I know that he'd never go behind my back and do
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We've had a long talk about this, and yes, I would trust him. It has taken a long time to do so, frankly because he and I were both whores before we got together. But now, yes, I trust him. I know that he'd never go behind my back and do anything. And I wouldn't go behind his back and do anything either.
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05/02/2011
If he either of us would want to bring another person in then no, that is NOT trust. I trust him NOT to ever want anyone besides me.
05/12/2011
Nope, I don't trust him, because we do have another person involved in our relationship, and he has gone behind my back. Both of them have lied to me in several ways. Overall, a rough, tough hard situation, that could spell disaster.
For instance, she'll say she's not happy in a situation where it will never be a normal relationship, then he'll say to her "Don't tell her, but, don't worry, I'll leave her for you." It's really depressing, because he wouldn't ever end our marriage, like he's said time and time again he just can't stand to be without me, but he also can't stand the thought of her leaving, or the thought of someone leaving him in general.
So as soon as she says she's going to leave, he lies to her. I don't know why she believes it anymore, because this same scenario has played out at least ten times ... always the day she tells him "oh, I can't do this situation, I love you, it's just me or I go..." I've told her just to tell me when he gets like that, and she's finally realized that it's all bull-sh*t. I have a hard time trusting her because she is so willing to tell him that she would take him all to herself.
We had also set a rule that sex with the "third" would only be when we were both in the room, and they have also broken that rule numerous times and lied about it.
He quickly realized that lies weren't going to keep me around, and luckily for the last several months everyone has actually been sticking to the rules, and not lying. I just can't stand dishonesty. Who knows ... but, I don't think I recommend trusting your hubby/wife/significant other around an additional person. Most people can't handle being trusted like that. Before I got married I dated several men, and I never trusted them to the level I allowed myself to trust my husband. I thoroughly regret trusting him that deeply. Let's just say at this point it takes ALOT to earn my trust.
For instance, she'll say she's not happy in a situation where it will never be a normal relationship, then he'll say to her "Don't tell her, but, don't worry, I'll leave her for you." It's really depressing, because he wouldn't ever end our marriage, like he's said time and time again he just can't stand to be without me, but he also can't stand the thought of her leaving, or the thought of someone leaving him in general.
So as soon as she says she's going to leave, he lies to her. I don't know why she believes it anymore, because this same scenario has played out at least ten times ... always the day she tells him "oh, I can't do this situation, I love you, it's just me or I go..." I've told her just to tell me when he gets like that, and she's finally realized that it's all bull-sh*t. I have a hard time trusting her because she is so willing to tell him that she would take him all to herself.
We had also set a rule that sex with the "third" would only be when we were both in the room, and they have also broken that rule numerous times and lied about it.
He quickly realized that lies weren't going to keep me around, and luckily for the last several months everyone has actually been sticking to the rules, and not lying. I just can't stand dishonesty. Who knows ... but, I don't think I recommend trusting your hubby/wife/significant other around an additional person. Most people can't handle being trusted like that. Before I got married I dated several men, and I never trusted them to the level I allowed myself to trust my husband. I thoroughly regret trusting him that deeply. Let's just say at this point it takes ALOT to earn my trust.
05/12/2011
Our 3some worked out fine, The 3rd person was only with both of us at the same time and we never had an issue about it.
05/12/2011
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